I have a friend who has been dating the same guy for 2 years (she is 16 he is 17) and they are planning on getting married. She lost all of her old friends because she is dating him and I am her only current friend. He is losing his friends. This is because they only hang together and don't do anything if the other does not come. I am friends with her because she is fun to be around but the only time I see her are in classes at school.
I think they are wasting their lives and have no idea what they are getting them selves into.
Does this make me sad because I dont think they are happy or that I am afraid of not living my life completly.
Any kind of answer would help me understand (please no stupid answers)
Thanks
2007-01-27 19:34:09 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't want to break them up
2007-01-27 19:42:14 · update #1
ii honestly think that what they are doing is not right.
they shouldn't be caught up in a relationship where they are losing all their friends around them.
everyone needs friends.
ii did this once with my boyfriend where ii just got too caught up in this relationship and ii didn't realize how much ii was hurting my friends.
only about a year with being with my boyfriend how wrong ii was to push the people who were there for me longer then my own boyfriend.
they shouldn't be pushing there friends away becuase what's gunna happen when they are having problems with eachother??
they need friends to help in their situation.
ii really think your afriad.
you need to talk to them before they lose you too and they won't realize until it's too late how much damage they have done.
good luck sweetie.
2007-01-27 19:42:37 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Casey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely right about them wasting their lives. Marriage is not an easy thing and believe me it is nothing like dating. Maybe you are sad because you miss her, and that is totally normal because I'v e been through the same thing in the past with my friends. Hopefully your friend will open her eyes and see that she has a whole future ahead of her, life really does come alive after you turn 21 yrs old.
2007-01-28 03:44:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ive had friends like that when we were around that age. For them, their lives revolves around each other. Pretty sad if you ask me, so Im not surprised ya bothered by this. They are still young. very young. In rship, you need your partner as well as friends... its healthy. My guess is once she start having problems with the guy, she s start looking for her friends back to turn to. You can be there for her. But if she once again threw her friends once the rship works out again, I think you need new friends. Perhaps you can just have a talk with her saying ya happy she has a bf that she really love and wanna spend most of her time with but it ll be nice if you guys can hang out sometime too. I guess soemtimes we do need to ditch friends. Especially when we are not treated right. Just go make new friends and do diff stuffs. Your life doesnt have to stop just coz of her! good luck! :)
2007-01-28 03:43:20 · answer #3 · answered by Wish 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nothing you say or do will change the way they feel for one another or how they spend there time. love conqures all.be sides they are young so there is a real good chance it wont last .but if it dose god bless them and be happy for them relationship like that are rare. if they r truely happy when they are together than they are not wasting there time.they r makeing the most of it.you r the one wasting your time worrying about it.get your self a boyfriend and you 4 can hang out together.
2007-01-28 04:03:40 · answer #4 · answered by imsotayken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're sad. I think you're a realist. Most marriages that start out when you're young don't last. And most people are pessimistic about them anyway. Are you afraid of not living your life completely? You dont seem to be afraid. I think maybe your friend is just so happy, and in love that she's not thinking of these things. Maybe she feels she IS living her life completely. But you living your life completely- and her, hers, can be two COMPLETELY different things. Ie career, family etc. You're fine I'd say. good luck.
2007-01-28 03:42:58 · answer #5 · answered by L d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When people are dating for a long time this is normal. They do not mean to keave others out.And as for getting married they may and if they do support them.Only you can answer why this makes you sad because only you know you.
2007-01-28 03:42:58 · answer #6 · answered by DESTINY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has more to do with you than them. I think you are afraid of loosing your friend. On the otherhand, what they are doing can be just plain stupid but its their life and they have every right to experience it the way they want. ANd who knows it might even work out though i doubt it very much..but if it doesnt she will need her best friend "you" by her side! be the friend she needs.
2007-01-28 03:40:11 · answer #7 · answered by worried 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Their relationship is something you need to let them work out, even if it doesn't seem as though it can last. Whatever you do, don't get involved, because she may resent you. Just be happy for her and be there for her, because yours may be the only shoulder she'd have left to cry on if it all falls to pieces.
2007-01-28 03:38:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're growing up, and you aren't. So you deal with feeling left out by having these feelings to legitamize your relative immaturity.
2007-01-28 03:41:59 · answer #9 · answered by Wocka wocka 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i bet they will break up adventualy if they dont its not your place to try and stop them but like i said one of them will proably matur past it and relize they want other things.
2007-01-28 03:39:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋