am happily married to my high school sweetheart. we love each other very much.
but i miss that feeling you know, when you firts start going out, the butterflies, the sweaty hands, the passion over all. i remember that with just his touch, i would get excited. after almost 9 years later and 2 kids, its not the same. he doesnt excite me anymore.
i think am too young to have this sort of problem, am 24.
during sex, it hurts cause i dont get well lubricated. i want those feelings back!!! is it possible???
2007-01-27 19:33:51 · 14 answers · asked by .:peAchy:. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Send the kids to G-ma for the weekend. Get a room at a really nice Hotel. (not motel) Call your husband from the lounge of the hotel to meet you there for drinks. When he gets there seeing you wearing something sexy flirt with him like it's your first date. Hand him the key to your room and tell him to meet you there in twenty minutes. When he gets there, have a bottle of champagne and soft music waiting for him and you in something you know he likes. Woman, make love to him like you did the first time you loved him. This is the short version.
2007-01-27 19:43:25 · answer #1 · answered by areyoukidding 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sad to say .... all marriages go through that phase ... where it becomes "hum drum" and routine ... you have just lost that loving feeling ... not that you don't love him anymore but you don't have that butterfly feeling ... it's called erogos love .. the one that attracted you to him in the beginning ... that is the first stage of love
Yes, you can get it back ....but more than that you can grow to the Agape Love
You will have to find what connected you two in the first place ... little jokes you have together ... a glass of wine and dinner with music maybe a bubble bath with candles ..just a suggestion you may have your own preference .. a nite out recapurting the special things that you have together ....
Everything starts in the mind .... so re-examine what you are thinking about ... put on music that makes your juices flow again ... think those thoughts that turn you on about him .... yes, 24 years old is too young for you to dry up .... so get your mind in the right space and it will all come back together ...
2007-02-04 02:53:58 · answer #2 · answered by elke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have never been married but have had long relationships and i totally agree with you. its life. the trick is to always date your husband. once a month (or once a week) go on a date together. Wether you go to the dinner and a movie, out dancing or even if you just ship the kids off to the sitter and cook a romantic meal for together.Always look good for him and ask him to do the same. buy him a cologne that you find appealing. And encourage him to do the same. Throw away any ratty house clothes and get him some new digs so he can be more attractive to you
2007-02-04 16:07:09 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Brookyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people just become to comfortable in a relationship, and let the feelings they had when they first got together slip away. Try something to play it up a little. I was married to my first husband for 9 years, and if he hadn't cheated on me, we would probably still be together, but thats another story... try different things, do something he wants to do, live out a fantasy.. do some of the things you did when you first got together.
2007-01-27 19:46:58 · answer #4 · answered by emtb9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible. Start putting the romance back in your relationship. Do little thing like writing sexy notes, go on dates, try new thing in bed, get a makeover, go on a trip, anything it takes to get back on track. We all be bored at one time or another. Just do not let it ruin a good thing.
2007-02-03 09:36:46 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those feelings don't come back. You get different ones to replace. I know that I mourned the "courtship" for a long time. I pestered my husband to give it back to me. I would always say, "well when we were dating".... He would get so frustrated with me and tell me that when we were dating, we didn't have a mortgage etc...
Now, we have been working on our spiritual relationship and the feelings that we now have for eachother far outweigh the old "new" feelings.
ps. ky warming lubricant is kind of fun!
2007-01-27 20:08:22 · answer #6 · answered by crazykidsmom 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
all u need to do is true something new..go to a sex shop..buy lubes...toys...games..whatever ur passion...its simple to rekindle ur sex life..if that dont work..go to ur obgyn and they can prescribe a libido inhancer. after being with someone for so long it is possible to lose the feeling because everything becomes so routine..thats why u try something new...it doesnt make u a slut by using toys with ur partner..or bondage...there are pg-13 ways of doing bondage...just try it..u'll see
2007-02-02 04:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by daniels_sexy_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible but you will have to change your boring routine.
Start off by doing "it" out in the backyard and then from there try it in the park. Soon you will want to do "it" in the woods and that's where you will regain the thrill.
2007-02-02 09:09:45 · answer #8 · answered by stupido#1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take and make special times for each other, it's always needed in a marriage. Good Luck
2007-02-04 14:25:53 · answer #9 · answered by Bren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we all miss these feelings they are sweet but they are for a period of time only back then you were prepared mentally and psychologicaly for these feelings i think now if you have them you will feel ridiculous.try new things with your husband that will refresh feeling between both of you.life is made of stages/phases and every stage has its' sweetness try to enjoy what you have.
2007-02-02 08:19:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋