2007-01-27 19:33:45 · 45 answers · asked by Manoj G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Make a complaint with the protection officer or magistrate under the protection of women from domestic violence Act 2005 as this amounts to Domestic Violence under sec 5 of the a fore said Act. & get necessary relief in the form of protection order , monetary relief & compensation order.
2007-01-27 20:32:54 · answer #1 · answered by bisexualmale s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Manoj, I have been threw the same thing. I moved out,and file for a divorce. It will be final on 2-08-2007. That was the best thing i have ever done for myself. No one has the right to abuse a wife,or husband.I was abuse physical,and verbal. There is no good reason for anyone making a person afraid to get up in the morning,and just go in the kitchen for a cup of coffee. This list go's on. You need to leave him,and file for a divorce,if you want your life back with out fear,and gain trust. Believe me, you well feel a lot better about yourself,and can live without fear. Been there,and didn't like myself anymore,until i left. A Friend
Clowmy
2007-01-27 19:51:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. Trust me - if he is abusing you, hard as it may be to leave, you MUST do this. You didn't say if it was physical, emotional or verbal abuse, but ANY abuse is bad and will only get worse. Trust me - I have been there, done that. You could try counseling, but believe me - most abusers don't stay in counseling because they don't believe they have a problem - they will blame you for the problem instead. There are abuse hotlines that can give you advice on how to get away. If you have a friend or family member who can take you and your kids in (if you have any), then do it as soon as you can. Don't let starting over or financial worries stop you. You CAN and WILL make it without this guy. Life can be good again - let it be! Good luck!
2007-01-27 19:39:01 · answer #3 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was abused by 2 of my ex's. Either leave or report it. I know the fear and feeling of being trapped. The fear of reporting it because he will get even for it. The insecurity of going it alone especially with chidren. Physical abuse is always coupled my verbal and mental abuse. But, there is still that tiny voice telling you he's full of crap your not weak or insane or beneath him. Listen to it. I was nearly beaten to death by my ex BF. Believe me, times may get tough, but you find that you are stronger than you ever imagined! I know this. The only time I broke down and cried was when my son who was 3 at the time wanted a glass of milk, and I couldn't scrounge enough change to buy even a pint. But we made it. And I don't take any crap from anyone! I am in control of my life my future my well being and my strength is the best influence my children could have. If you ever EVER need to talk IM me on yahoo (I suggest an email 1st dont log in that often anymore) my email is sonkysst@yahoo.com and smae name on messenger.
2007-01-27 19:47:52 · answer #4 · answered by sonkysst 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look for the real reason behind this. It is hard. This may point a finger at you. The reason may lie in one of the following:
Your abusing his mother or sister, your letharginess, your cool response to his needs, your brother sister, or parents not giving him due regard.
If these reasons are nonexistent, give him a divorce as he in not suitable for you to lead a harmonious life. He too will be relieved.
Some of your friends may suggest an extreme action. Don't pull a gun or knife, lest you may have to regret all your life.
To be fair to all, in no human relationship which is intimate, one can say that one is hundred percent innocent and the other partner is hundred percent scoundrel.This however does not apply to an addict.
2007-01-27 22:48:39 · answer #5 · answered by Ishan26 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell someone and take photographs of the abuse if it is physical. Call the police, thats what they are there for. Get an AVO and call the police if he breaks it.
I know this must be very difficult and don't think for one second that it will stop. Leave him and make sure the door hits him in the face when you slam it!!!
All the best to you
2007-01-28 00:27:29 · answer #6 · answered by mooster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lock him up, then get a divorce and an order of protection. Better to deal with the pain of having to give him up now, than to be stuck unhappy in an abusive relationship for the rest of your life. At least by living him you have a chance to be happy again someday. I wish you lots of luck. If you need some support along the way ..E-mail me. Silhouette456@yahoo.com
2007-01-27 19:37:55 · answer #7 · answered by Ronijn 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If it is safe for you to leave and you have afriend or family member then leave. If it is not safe wait till he is out and go. There are shelters that are there for you if necessary. I hope that you have made police reports and then you can put him in the system if necessary. If you are abused you have to do this.Women against abuse is a great start.
2007-01-27 19:49:30 · answer #8 · answered by DESTINY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
leaving would be anybody's answer,but its easy said than done when u really love him.this is one reason its always good for all women to be independent.save you rmoney,have a separate account, so if an emergency strikes,like this one, you will be prepared to get away. women are beautiful and delicate creatures of the earth. we bare children. we should all be treated like queens and with respect. please dont stay sweetie. whether your husband is being physically,mentally or emotionally abusive,remember that u are worth more than gold and god's purpose for you was not to be on this earth being hurt anyway by a man.life's to short to be unhappy i always say. Pray and god will see you through it.trust me and have faith
2007-01-28 10:51:48 · answer #9 · answered by kiki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get help and get out! Don't wait for things to change, it won't. Don't give chances, you may not have many. Go to someone you trust, file a police report and end it. Cut it off as quickly and as cleanly as possible and let your friends and family be aware of the situation so you have support.
This is a 24/7 domestic violence hotline for US. 1-800-799-7233.
If not in the US, google domestic violence helpline and find your area.
Message me if you need any help with more info.
2007-01-27 19:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋