I really thought my ex was my sons father. i told him and everythign was going perfect our lives was like a fairy tale. when he got back from iraq we got married and everything. but we recently found out that the guy i REALLY thought was my son father was not at. and he left me. he was the best husband and father that any woman could dream of. he saod he was crushed and when he found out he wanted to die b/c it was so hurtful. but the thing is he neva confronted me bout it. he found out when the results came and i was out of town visiting when he found the dna test,but when i came back he was gone and i have only talked to him a few times. yes i seen the test and he not the father but i did not know up until then i was so devastated and hurt and confused and still is the only thing that is holding me togather is my son he is my world and i love him even more than ever but i miss my husband sooooo much he was the peice that completed us. he wont even let me explain. what do i do?
2007-01-27 19:28:58 · 9 answers · asked by stephanie c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Explain???? He understands. You slept with at least two different guys at basically the same time. You probably picked the better guy to be the father, and didn't bother to mention that you'd slept with another guy. So, he stepped up to meet his responsibilities. Then, oops, he's not the father. Can you fault him for feeling you lied and betrayed him? Sad, but probably not fixable. Make sure the actual Dad pays support, and consentrate on your child.
2007-01-27 23:52:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You knew that their was a chance he wasn't the dad of your child.If you loved him so much and wanted to get married then why did you take a chance like you did.You should of had an abortion that way you two would still be together today. I no you love your baby and that's good but was it worth it to lose someone you will think about for the rest of your life.That poor man came home after fighting for you and me just to be tricked into thinking he was a dad.All he sees is you in bed with another man laughing at him and making a fool out of him.That is all he will ever see. If you had to do it over what would you do different would you make sure he doesn't see the dna test or not cheat on him.I'm sorry if it sounds like I'm being hard on you.but right now I'm feeling for your ex.
2007-01-27 19:58:57 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nicely, you rather have a large number right here! yet, evidently which you have already got a father listed on the beginning certificates. Why might you prefer to alter that? For the help? For which you will could comply with permit visitation by utilising your ex, no depend in case you like that or no longer. This gang banger is going to be on your existence and your sons existence consistently, in case you are attempting this.this would in all likelihood reason irreparable harm to the relationship you at the instant have including your contemporary bf! in view which you're needless to say satisfied with the relationship you at the instant are in, i might advise which you do no longer something. do no longer flow to a criminal expert! do no longer attempt to get help out of your ex. immediately, without a DNA try, he's not the criminal father, your contemporary bf is the criminal father. the very superb element which you will do is to proceed interior the relationship you at the instant have and plan a marriage interior the close to destiny, inspite of each little thing you do have one toddler with this contemporary bf. the only reason interior the observe to flow to a criminal expert is to get a restraining order against your ex, if he's surely threatening you and your toddler; or you shouldn't make any comments approximately this guy nor do you would be in touch with him. you could purely fake that he would not exist, and in no way has.
2016-11-01 11:48:11 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing! He isn't likely to come around soon, however...how much time has he had with bubs? You might be able to rely on him falling in love with the baby?You shouldn't have done what you did, but there's no point making yourself sick over mistakes(though giant) Give him time, try, don't give up easily, but know when he's being clearcut about you, when to back off, you know? How long were you together? You need to set yourself a time and if he has'nt come around, you have to tell the baby's father, don't do it yet until your sure there's no chance with your husband. I really feel for you, everyday you must look at that baby and feel so guilty for making a mistake big enough that it effected him, I hope he loves you enough to forgive you, however, no matter how badly you want him if it changes and you get back together, DON"T eat **** for him forever for one mistake, eventually you will be old, with grandchildren and this could all be in the past? Who knows...I wish you well, Oh! Congratulations on your baby, Thier fabulous little things are'nt they? Try writting to him...ALOT!!
2007-01-27 21:00:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to stop sleeping around for one as you've affected your sons life forever. As for your husband being the peice that complets you, were you thinking that same thought while getting laid? You sound very immature and you husband deserves a trustworthy wife which you CHOSE not to be. Karma!
2007-01-28 12:54:37 · answer #5 · answered by me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you blame him, i would have left to, im in Iraq getting my a s s shot off and your F u c k i n g some other guy! Now tell him you made a very big mistake and in your heart you thought he was the baby's father and how sorry you are and BEG his forgiveness!And someday he might find it in his heart to forgive you
2007-01-27 19:49:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to respect his wishes and give him some time and space to process everything. But that doesn't mean stay out of his life - let him know that you understand he needs time, but that you need him and you hope he can find his way past all this.
Best of Luck!
Aloha!!
2007-01-27 19:39:03 · answer #7 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
next time get a dna test before you make major announcements to the men in your life.
2007-01-27 20:09:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are total trash if you have a baby and don't know who the father is...
2007-01-27 21:11:23 · answer #9 · answered by j_mang 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋