am i becoming a recluse?

Question

i am 22 years old. i feel dull, uninterested, and uninspired in all aspects of my life. i don't feel a need or interest in conversing with most people i see on a regular basis. it seems i know what the theme of the conversation will be, and i simply don't care to waste my energy on entertaining their need to fill the air with noise. i try to write, paint, and draw, but all i feel is blah-ness. i don't want ever want to go to work, which i know is not unusual for many people, but i'm smart-i understand that until school is over i have to deal with a job of sorts to pay the rent. but usually i enjoy work, but i simply despise the idea of being there, and when i consider where i may be happy working, nothing comes to mind. i've found myself not wanting to be around my friends at all, even my boyfriend at times. it's as though everything i enjoyed once, no longer works for me. i just turned 22, is this normal? am i becoming a recluse? any idea how to come out of this...

Answer 1

That happened to me and I was clinically depressed. See a therapist and a psychiatrist. The therapist can help you work out any problems through conversation and the psychiatrist can give you any meds they think might help.

Go soon though you don't want this to get any worse!!

Answer 2

I've become pretty reclusive. At first I enjoyed it somewhat, but now I'm pretty lonley. Yes I felt a lot of rejection "out there" starting from when I was really young and dependant on family. Over the years, I've made bad relationship choices but would have gotten hurt either way really. Breaking up hurts at any time. Anyhow.. there are lots of reasons and not every solitary person wants to stay that way forever. I think I'll go read a bit about Lucy now.

Answer 3

Ya, I think it is normal to go through stages. The question is how prolonged is it?
We all have problems putting our lives together and getting perspective.
I suspect you are feeling a sort of depression and if so it should be dealt with before it becomes clinical. Boredom is usually mild depression with a fixation on something we can't have. What would make your life exciting and full of energy right now? You might have to explore your unconscience to find what is pulling you down. Then decide if the object is rational or neurotic. If it is rational then make small goals toward a big one. If it is neurotic then get some help.
Humans really need some sort of spirituality be it a positive philosophy or religion and they need some direction toward something. Look at your talents and exercise them so that they somehow contribute to the society and environment where you were born. It is nice if you can get paid for it. Vital for your mental health unless you live alone in an isolated island
Be centered in yourself but not self-centered. Develope an inter-dependency with your environment.
I have given you some basics to look at. I don't have all the answers because your answers are within you and you are an individual. I have much love and respect for individuals who are real and deal with problems in their own way.

Answer 4

I went through the same thing when I was about 22, I didn't want to go out with friends, I hated my job, even talking to people got on my nerves and I had no interest in what they said. Perhaps it was depression, but quite frankly, I just needed a break from the world. After some time, I came out of it. I started enjoying other things, spread my interests and still make sure to make some alone time. Maybe you need to see a specialist, or maybe you just need some changes.... just don't let yourself slip too far down...

Answer 5

i agree you sound depressed. you should get some help. you are not the only one to suffer this way, and reaching out can help you to better understand why you are depressed. depression is a serious matter, and should be addressed with a professional. good luck, you are still young, you have much to look forward to, if you feel you can't see yourself working, devote some time to helping others less fortunate than you are. you will soon see that the struggle of holding a job is much less depressing than wanting to have a job, but not being able to find one. i suggest seriously that you re-evaluate your situation before you decide it's life altering.

Answer 6

It's normal and I think you can go through it at different ages. Sounds to me like you may be growing. If you want out of the blah-ness simply request and you shall receive.

Answer 7

Depression and lack of motivation, I see a need to take a trip to the Psychologist and have that person take a good look at you and perscribe something for you. It's not your fault, just go take a vacation, go backpacking in Europe when the semester is over, it does you good.

Answer 8

you sound depressed,no joke