i have this frnd,well kinda . we r 3 of us, we always used to be togther, but some 2months ago,i felt left alone,i felt that they'r carrying on without me,so i let them know my situation then we talked abt it and they agreed that they were ignoring me,even without realising that,or atleast one of them was,one of the other two started think that i'm not one of them ,so she started lying to me(but was honest with my other frnd)she will hysterical, when my other frnd tells the stuff she told her,to me,she won't talk to her for a while,then i'll go ncompromise and say,hiding and lying within frnds is not good,even though i was angry with her i consoled myself wen, she'd and apologise to me,it happened abt 4to5 times but i was patient,thought as a frnd i'd make her realise that she's wrong,but now i lost my temper n said i don't want to be frnds with her anymore,she 'scryin and was creaing sympathy,but i can't forgive her,eventhogh my frnds wnt me to forgive her but i don't wnto so ami bad
2007-01-27 19:26:11 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
hmm.. i dont believe that a person can be bad, it is often from the choices that make that others see him or her that way, everyone is human and everyone makes mistakes, but they should learn from them, having to repeat the same mistakes is not by choice, it is made purposely.. and people have limits. we are human. and for you to act that way is natural, its good to forgive... but it is not good to forgive the same problem twice...
2007-01-27 19:33:32 · answer #1 · answered by LordJapz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say you're a bad person because of this. I would be pretty fed up with the lying too. I would however 'sort of' stay friends. Just keep them at arms-length so that they/she has no reason or opportunity to lie to you. You cant keep forgiving her every time she does this, or it will never stop. Just be on ok enough terms to talk, but maybe dont hang out together. It's always sad to lose friends, believe me I know. It's all right though. It's even better to make new friends.
2007-01-28 03:33:15 · answer #2 · answered by L d 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well all i can say is it takes a better perosn to go up and explaintheir position to who they are upset with. Do you want to be friends again and can you really let the past alone and be friends again. You have to speak to that person and if you feel you both(all) can go on and want to to be honest. If a person is constantly belittling you or telling your others friends stuff behind your back you do not need it. life is hard enough w\o having to figure out if your friend is really a friend. Always be up front and honest and expect no less in any friendship or relationship. GOOD LUCK
2007-01-28 03:33:32 · answer #3 · answered by therealskeptic@sbcglobal.net 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lose them and the drama, if you dont think of her as a friend just be honest about it. Sounds a bit immature to me, real friends wont put conditions on the relationship, Just find people you can be yourself around and stop playing stupid mind games with each other.
2007-01-28 03:31:37 · answer #4 · answered by S W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could be her friend again even if your relationship is changed.. you should 4give her.. all people commit mistakes even you.. what did your parents do when you committed mistakes?? did they forgive you?? she's been more or less your friend, doesn't she??.. so i can understand that you cannot forget what she did to you, but you can give her another opportunity.. tell her what is also wrong 'bout her.. maybe then she will change for you.. if she'll do that, that mean that she cares 'bout your friendship!!
2007-01-28 11:10:41 · answer #5 · answered by KLou 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
These people are not true friends. If you can count 5 good friends in your life, you will be a lucky person. Find somebody who cares. God don't make no junk!
2007-01-28 03:32:44 · answer #6 · answered by Leroy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
with friends like that - who needs enemies?
It's good to forgive her for lying to you even after 5 times.
But if the lying continues and if you think you can't trust her...
Get some new friends.
2007-01-28 03:45:25 · answer #7 · answered by birdwatcher 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If shes trying 2 trick & purposely hurt you us why do u put up w/ it . Shes wicked you know.... Wheres your head at ? Haven't u had enough?
2007-01-28 03:35:34 · answer #8 · answered by lilly l 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i almost have the same situation except i forgave her because she left the country..but u no wat u should do!!! u should go talk to them both together and tell them its seriously ther last time because u had enough and that u have aloot of other friends!! goodluck
2007-01-28 03:37:50 · answer #9 · answered by gurlie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no u r right friends who lye try to sty away from them coz they will keep hurting you
2007-01-28 03:39:28 · answer #10 · answered by Nads 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋