How do I stop giving a crap about what other people think?

Question

I have this problem where I care too much about what others think of me and it affects my life. I figure that so long as im not doing anyone any harm, i shouldn't care what they think. What can I do to improve?

Answer 1

do not give a damn about them because the one who is critizing you is surly full of mistakes so not take it personaly and lend them a deaf ear

Answer 2

Have more confidence in your decisions and choices in life.
Understand that what you do with your life, and the decisions you make, are choices that YOU made, and if no one else likes it, then it's something THEY have to deal with, not you. Don't take on anyone else's garbage. Let them keep it. At the end of the day, you'll sleep soundly knowing you did the right thing, or something you wanted, and if they're having a hard time with it, then it will be THEM that loses sleep over it, NOT you.
Once you know that you can't please everyone, and that you're not obligated to 'please everyone', then you'll be cool about the whole situation that some may question about you.
Who cares? People spend too much time concerning themselves about what the person next to them is doing, that they may feel is NOT what THEY would do, BUT...at the end of the day, you may have achieved something they wouldn't have thought of, or don't have the balls to do! You only live once, and life is short! Don't worry what others think - you're purpose in life is not to do unto others, but to do for you! ;-)

Answer 3

Just don't give your ears, specially if what you hear are negatives.
People love to talk and criticized it won't change. They love gossips and things to talk about, merely for talking. Try to evade talking which you think are not beneficial to you. There's this story about an old farmer and his son who has a donkey to be sold in the market place. The three of them were walking. The people saw them and said Why are they walking when they can ride the donkey? The poor old farmer heard it and let his son to ride the donkey. While still in their journey, another set of people said, what a poor old farmer, he should be the one riding the donkey not his son, he's till young and can walk pretty well. The poor old farmer heard it again and let his son to walk while he sat on the donkey. They were on their way. Some people saw them and said why is he the only one sitting on the donkey and doesn't let his son sit with him. Poor boy! still small. The old farmer heard it and said, come my son and sit with me. As they went along, people in the street again says why poor donkey so small to carry both father and son and he looks so tired. The farmer heard it and said, son the donkey is small, we therefor shall be the one to carry it. They both carry the donkey. While they were in the city, the people were laughing. Why they are carrying the donkey? The father got tired and said what is this? why are we carrying the donkey and while they were crossing the bridge, he toss the donkey in the water because he got tired and angry. All the people were laughing, but the poor old farmer and his son gain nothing in return. The lesson of the story is that when you give ears to all what people have to say , then most probably it will not give you good in return.

Answer 4

I think that if you actually try to stop listening and caring you will only be put further into this reclusiveness and separation you're trying to get out of. Really the best thing you can do is to just put yourself out on the line in those risky situations, show your personality, and if you think you failed, so what? 'Cause I'll be god-d***ed if you don't go out and try it again since you can only get better and learn from your mistakes and finally realize, only then, that it really doesn't matter what they think. But until then, bud, make yourself known. Good luck. I've done it.

Answer 5

Well there's a big difference between caring to much and "not giving a crap". Neither one is any good.

We care what others think cause that's what determins who will hang with us. IF you want decent and loving people to be yoru friends, then you have to be decent and loving and others have to THINK you are decent and loving. So it's not in your best interest to "not give a crap" what others think - it matters what they think.

However, you can go overboard with that and try to be what everyone wants you to be. THat's no good either cause then you are not being yourself and you come across as phony. So be yourself, and conduct yourself in a manner that is decent and that you would respect if you saw it in others. Best recipe, I think.

Answer 6

Try to form your opinions and outlooks on those that you agree with and others don't. Get a grasp for the differences between you and others. Form an individuality and an identity so that you can stand apart from others. If you conform to other's ideas too much you begin to form a habit of doing so and are unable to retract from public majority... a common problem.

Answer 7

First admit that you think what they think is just crap anyway. After that, don't consider anyone opinion that's full of crap. Look for opinions that are uplifting, optimistic, and concise, don't do anything with anyone who thinks your full of crap. Is thiis clear? Crap resides in the greatest minds, but is wall to wall in the stupid. Your surrounded by the stupid, and they don't like being told that they are full of stupid ****. Improve your self-esteem, and the confidence resulting from will carry the day.

Answer 8

I would not like people to think bad of me!
Truly most people really like to be liked & thought well of
so as long as you are being nice honest & a decent person etc
you can say then well if they expect more of me well to bad because I have no more to give & then you should just be happy with yourself & accept yourself

Answer 9

You need to stop focusing on what other people don't like about you, and more on what you love about yourself. As soon as you realise what a fantastic person you are, you won't care what other people think.

Answer 10

Remind yourself that everyone has a dirty secret they don't want anyone to know. When people start judging you based on your behavior, start thinking about their secret that they wouldn't want aired out in public. My point here is that some people like to point fingers and place blame when, in reality, no one is perfect and they aren't in any position to make any sort of judgement about you.

Answer 11

come on if you give a crap thats exactly how your crap talkin people want you to feel. the best thing for you is to laugh and smile alot because you probably think people are talking about you and they actually arent. see a therapist immediately!