how did you deal with those feelings of hope you had for your marriage to by a miracle work out?
I mean there are clear substantial facts that say this isnt going to work out and so does my gutt feeling, but for some reason i can not let that little bit of hope go............the papers have not been served yet because of this little bit of hope.....but the hope is not real cause we have played that ONE MORE TIME song for four years already........any comments on how to deal? what worked for you? thanks.
2007-01-27 18:58:06 · 7 answers · asked by beachgirl90 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am currently in the process of getting a divorce, I don't want it to work out, I don't want him anymore, he was immature, and toward the end enjoyed escalating our arguments into something physical. You should listen to your gut, it is telling you the truth, its your heart that won't let the hope go. Try going to a support group or talk to friends, try church. But get involved in something that you wanted to do but your spouse didn't. Start trying new things, that's what I'm starting to do.
2007-01-27 19:04:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever thought thats its not really a feeling of hope, as much as its being afraid to move on without that person in your life? That was the case for me and my ex husband. I cried for a month after he and I split up, at one time almost weak enough to go back, thats when I realized, it wasn't any kind of hope I was holding onto, it was afraid to take life without him, because he and I had been together so long. If you know in your heart that its not going to work out, then its time to move on. I know you may remember all the reasons why you married him in the first place, but ask yourself why you are now at the point of divorcing... which outweighs the other? Good luck to you!
2007-01-28 03:51:31 · answer #2 · answered by emtb9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dealt with the feelings by crying myself to sleep every night. Then the next day reminding myself there was a reason we were getting the divorce or it wouldn't be happening. Divorces are hard to go through. You think of the good times you had but remember, there has to have been bad times to or this wouldn't be going on.
2007-01-28 03:10:51 · answer #3 · answered by Sheena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i found out my ex had cheated i had all the hopes in the world he would come back, i was a good person after all, decent, hard working, pretty, waited but it never happened, eventually u have to decide if u can even go that one more time, depends on what caused the breakup, if u can work it out or not, chances if it was caused by a betrayal, it can't ever go back to the way it was. good luck
2007-01-28 04:13:56 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hope for that, but one day you just get tired of being sick and tired, plus you start feeling like you are the only one trying to make it work.
2007-01-28 03:03:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't have any feelins of hop that the marriage would work out...I was the one who filed for divorce, I didn't WANT it to "work out" because I knew it wasn't going to.
2007-01-28 03:07:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was so happy I had a Divorce Party!
2007-01-28 03:10:46 · answer #7 · answered by marincaligirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋