How do you deal wisely with a same sex advance when you work around troubled youth?

Question

On a single toilet bathroom a male coworker begin trying to use the key to open the door. I told him that I was using it. He continued so I said "I am in the bathroom right now." He responded" I know you are, but can I come in?" I said I don't play like that leave the door alone." He kept messing with the door saying can I come in? I strongly said," I don't get down like that. Leave the door alone. I had to get off the stoole and would have let the key break. My third and final statement of this incident was," I am on the toilet! Leave the ******* lock alone!" He crossed a line. I was angered, but worked an hour with him without going to his work area. I reported the incident to the EEOC within my company the next day. We both work with with over hundred youth. I have heard from homosexual students of inappropriate behaviors. She stated," I can confront him, again" Your thoughts. My style is masculine and I try to be professional. He is immature.We both are 6ft 24+

Answer 1

This is a HUGE problem. If he is working with youth and he is acting inappropriately with them, this should be brought to the attention of management, and done repeatedly until this is checked out. It sounds like he needs to be fired. If this EEOC woman said this, you need to go over her head to the executive director and tell him/her what happened and also of the specific youth and what they said. If no action is taken, then I would write each member of the board of directors separately. You're risking your job by telling, but the agency is risking its reputation if this continues. If no action is taken, I would find another job, because this agency will go under when this hits the newspapers, and it inevitably will.