education and life?

Question

right now i am in the midst of applying, and studying for finals and colleges. i am in gr. 12 and currently applied for marine navigation . the thing is i feel so forced into it , i dont want to go to school next year, and would like to take a year off. my parents are very traditional and dont want me to believing that i may never go back. also, i want to become a airplane pilot, but my parents strongly suggested i do not as the field is not hiring right now.. im just so conufsed and feel so emotionally tweekd right now. for the first time im constantly fidgeting and moving. what should i do, i really want to stay here with my girlfriend, and not go to schooll

for anyone with experience...should i go for personal life e.g- my girlfriend or school.. i love her..but my parents will never forgive me if i dont go to school next year

Answer 1

I went to college fresh out of high school.. I failed my first year.. I was not ready for it.. Now, I am 36 and about to go back and finish.. It gets harder as u get older but IF u are not ready..don't go.. ONce ur GPA falls, it's very hard to get it up and if u are not ready, u won't study and u will fail.. Don't let ur parents FORCE u to do anything.. My parents don't want me to go to college at all ..they think I am a failure and won't make it. Follow ur heart.. With that being said, what's going to happen next year.. r u still going to stay home to be with ur girlfriend..? She should want u to get an education..she should not hold u back.. IF she's trying.. u need to check ur relationship. Mabye that's what they are thinking is that u are basing ur future on a girl.. U can't do that.. I TRULY do believe if u want to go back, u will but sometimes things happen that keep u from going back.. money, etc..but if u don't plan on studying and want to go..it's a waste of time and money.

Answer 2

Go with your heart.

There is no problem taking a year, or even two off from School. The vast majority of people who enter into the Higher Educational system do not complete it or they take more than the 4 years advertised. They often shift between majors because to decide what one truly wants to do with their life at 18 is not really the right time to make such a decision. Some will generally decide to choose the major that is most convenient and easy (communications, or Business).

So if you are a little tweaked to make a decision now: I say, Don't unless you are 100 Percent committed to it. You can always stay home and take general education courses at the Community college near by. There is nothing wrong with that, and it may even help you focus your attention on what you want to do down the road.

Answer 3

I personally believe that once there is a break i8n education,it's always a break. Life is alsovery important. If u feel that ur educational career won't hamper ur life then go and stay with ur gf. But if in the long run, ur girlfriend feels (and u may also feel that it will hamper your life, then go for the career.

Answer 4

its good that u figured out ur problem,,,,

i faced the similar situation.....and couldnt understand my problem.

the most imp. thing: dont have a confused mind.

make ur mind very clear....talk to ur parents and solve the problem mutually.....
tell them what ur going through.

remember...at the end of the day....career is not everything.
everything matters to us.

Answer 5

I have four sons. Until they were 18, I made all the major choices about their lives. I set the boundaries for the family and we all abided by them.

When they turned 18, I wrote each son individually and went over my value system and told him that the roles were about to reverse. They were to set their boundaries and make their choices and I was moving into the support role.

This was really hard on my wife, who was a very loving mother who wanted the make sure that each boy received the very best of everything. Our conversations were often tearful and heartfelt, but I am absolutely convinced that being able to make your own choices is the way to build character. You alone are responsible for the final choice. Each of our sons has sought my advice on many things, but in the end they decided. The oldest decided not to go to college (it really hit hard on my wife), but he wanted to get into the workplace and seek his fortune. He made a number of really poor choices, but in every case we have refused to bail him out with money and running interference. I visited him in jail when he had 5-10 day stays for DUI. I took food to him when he confided he was starving, but did not pay his rent. It was a hard lesson but he finally has it figured out. He is 34, married with three young children and is starting to turn things around. Life is still harder on him (on the whole family) they it would have been if he had gone to college and started at a different place in the working world, but he can stand tall and be proud of the fact that his successes are really his.

My second son decided to go to a small college and major in business. He graduated in four years with a sizeable student loan bill but great self esteem and confidence. He taught on the island of Molokai, Hawii in a mission school for three years and has now returned for a masters degree for teaching. He wanted to wrestle and was nationally ranked as a heavyweight in both Division III and NAIA and went to the nationals in Iowa. He has wrestled internationally and spent one summer in Korean, one in Japan, and numerous times wrestling in Canada. He has been to the US Invitationals in Las Vegas.

My youngest are 23 year old twins. One went to Boston College of Music (Boston) and majored in compositon and electric bass. He has graduated and plays bass and backup vocals for a Boston rock band.

The other is going to graduate in international studies next year and wants to be a translator. He has been writing in an online user group for a couple of years and has a terrific following for his work, and perhaps he will decide to become an author.

What I am saying is you are about to step into a future you have been preparing for over the last 18 years. You need to take control. My suggestion is if you feel really strongly about it is to tell your folks your vision for the future and ask them to support you in this vision. Be ready to do it on your own, though. If you want funding for college later, you will have passed that threshold and I really don't think they should fund it. If you find yourself in a terrible place, be prepared to stand tall and find your way out of it. Parents are terrific people to have in your life for mental and spiritual support, but the sooner you cut the strings and take your first steps on your own the better once you graduate from high school.

If you stay at home, you NEED to give your folks the respect they deserve and follow their wishes and abide by their rules.

Best of luck in sorting this out. Have a great future. Make good choices.