One category of "swinging" is simple wife-sharing, in which a husband allows other men to have sex with his wife, without asking them to share their wives. This is perhaps the most misunderstood of so-called sexual perversions. Many who have practiced it report that it was helpful to their marriages. It would seem to me that if a marriage is good, but lacking the original excitement, wife-sharing might bring it back to life. But if the marriage is in trouble already, wife-sharing will probably finish it off.
2007-01-27 18:17:00 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you answered your own question --- "if a marriage is good, but lacking the original excitement, wife-sharing might bring it back to life. But if the marriage is in trouble already, wife-sharing will probably finish it off."
I think it can work for some marriages but don't think it would work for the majority of them. I know a couple who do the whole "swingers" thing - and while their marriage has improved - it's also created more drama for them - which can take its toll.
2007-01-27 18:22:28 · answer #1 · answered by karespromise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How hypertrendy...
If the husband is not the jealous type then it would definitely be exciting. Especially if the wife gets pregnant, falls in love with a different partner, or contracts a venereal disease.
Sex is a very intimate, private and trusting act. It's best to be done with people you love and can trust. Otherwise it may cause a lot of heartache, health problems and jealousy.
Besides how does one expect to be good in a long-term relationship if they are having relationships with everyone else?
2007-01-27 18:26:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
I personally don't see how it could be good for your marriage. It may seem great at first but, I think that there will be repercussions down the line. I like it the way it says in the bible. One man and one woman. Stay away from outside sources of lust.
2007-01-27 18:22:48 · answer #3 · answered by crazykidsmom 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
As a wife of 7 years ...I would abhore it if my husband ask me to sleep with another man. I know that he would NEVER disrepect me, EVER!!!! If your marriage is in trouble. You need to sit down and talk to your wife. Go to counciling at your nearest church or marriage therapist. Try going to one that councils in marital intimacy issues as well. Ask God to come and heal your marriage...He will. If you are not ready to go to God...fine. Dont disrespect your wife by bringing another man. A true marriage is based on love ,respect , truth and God.
2007-01-27 18:33:07 · answer #4 · answered by mistressofdarkearth 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dustin, you're right on all accounts. It's also known as "cuckolding" and is practiced by some. And you are right, as in any form of swinging, threesomes, foursomes, moresomes, cuckolding, etc., it won't hurt a strong relationship when it is done for the right reasons by the right people with the right attitude. But it sure won't "fix" a bad relationship. It will just sink the ship quicker.
2007-01-28 08:29:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it depends on what the couple is into sexually. If one person in the marriage/relationship is fantasizing about threesomes and such sexual acts then why not. I would feel better with my significant other coming to me and we fulfilling each others fantasies together, instead of him and I sneaking around behind each others backs.
2007-01-27 18:56:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
OK WELL IF THE MARRIAGE IS IN TROUBLE THEN YES WIFE SHARING WILL MOST LIKELY FINIFH IT OFF HOWEVER I DONT BELIEVE THAT IF A MARRIAGE IS GOOD THAT WIFE SHARING WILL BRING IT BACK TO LIFE FOR ME WHOEVER WIFE SHARES THEM WIFE DOESNT LOVE THERE WIFE FOR A GUY TO BE SITTING AT HOME OR WHEREVER AND HIS WIFE IS OUT THERE HAVING SEX WITH OTHER MEN AND IT DOESNT BOTHER HIM THEN THERES SOMETHING WROND WITH THAT MEN HE DOESNT LOVE HER AND IF THE WOMES WANTS TO BE A SWINGER THEN SHE DOESNT LOVE HER MAN I WOULD SAY TO PLEASE YOUR PARTNER THE BEST YOU CAN GIVER HER OR HIM YOUR ALL AND IF IT DOESNT WORK OUT THEN THE HELL WITH IT BUT TO BE A SWINGER CAN MESS UP THINGS IN A RELATIONSHIP IT CNA TAKE TIME AWAY FROM ONE ANOTHER AND JEALOUS CAN PLAY A PART IN IT
2007-01-27 18:33:14 · answer #7 · answered by BoRiCuA MaMi 69 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wife sharing sounds like the stupidest thing I've ever heard
2007-01-27 18:22:41 · answer #8 · answered by Waythere 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
So much for the marriage vows. I think it is total disrespect for each other. If one or both want to screw around with some one else, both should have stayed single. It sickens me to even think of such crap like this.
2007-01-27 18:25:22 · answer #9 · answered by m c 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why call it "wife sharing"? It sounds so male dominant. Why not call it "couple sharing"? Anyway, you chauvinistic pig.... No, I don't think it's harmful, so long as there is no jealousy or resentment within the marriage.
2007-01-27 18:26:36 · answer #10 · answered by joupedamom 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋