after 11 months of our marriage life, which was a love marriage, we had a big separation of almost 1 years due to understanding problems. basically my inlaws played a big role to separate us, but thanks to almighty, that we are bach together again. but now a days he is behaving prety strange with me. i go to my house at around 7 pm and start doing all household job....all manually, coz where i live, using automatic mechines are prety costly. then he comes at 10 pm and by that time i become so tired and cant give him much time. he never helps me doing the household works, not even in holydays, moreover he is behaving rude these days. i know, he loves me a lot. he did a lot for me. thats why, i just want to improve our relationship. wha should i do?
our marriage day is on coming february 1. which is accualy our 2nd marriage day, but this is the 1st one which we are celebrating. we are not having such a healthy relationship to celebrate it.
2007-01-27 18:12:24 · 7 answers · asked by sabi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like you need to have a serious talk with him. Ask him what's bothering him. Sometimes we forget to ask. And, men aren't usually the first to start blurting out when things are bothering him. Have you read "The proper care and feeding of husbands" by Dr. Laura?? It's really good for giving a new perspective on men. Good luck, I hope that things get better for you.
2007-01-27 18:20:52 · answer #1 · answered by crazykidsmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you have allowed outside influences into your marriage, and also seperated it's hard to get it back to the way it was. Also, most people say the first 5-7 years are the hardest.
2007-01-28 03:00:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL ITS HARD WHEN YOU WORK AND GOTTA COME HOME AND DO THE HOUSE THINGS ALSO BUT WHEN BOTH OF YOU ARE WORKING AND PAYING THE BILLS TOGETHER THEN HE SHOULD HELP YOU OUT A LIL MORE THEN WHAT HE IS CAUSE YOU WORK PLSU GOTTA COME HOME AND DO EVERYTHING BY YOURSELF THATS NOR FAIR FOR YOU I WOULD TALK TO HIM AND TELL HIM THAT YOU WANT MORE HELP AND JUST BE HONEST WITH HIM AND TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL YOU SHOULDNT HAVE TO BE ALONE DOING EVERYTHING BY YOURSELF AT ALL
2007-01-28 03:15:11 · answer #3 · answered by BoRiCuA MaMi 69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont understand your beliefs. Because it sounds as tho, there's communication lacking between you both. And he also needs to put forth some effort. It takes 2, to make a relationship work well.
2007-01-28 02:26:47 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With most men its "Food & Sex" . A good meal & some good sex on a regular basis will keep most men pretty continted. On the other hand they need to be willing to fulfill a couple of your cravings in return. Best of luck to you.
2007-01-28 02:32:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on a second honeymoon. Relive all that you feel for each other. The rest will come naturally.
2007-01-28 02:21:24 · answer #6 · answered by **brainy licious**J;-D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I can suggest is that no matter what, you do not let yourself be too tired to be with him when he gets home.
2007-01-28 02:30:58 · answer #7 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋