How do you reveal to your best friend that your bi if you're afraid of them treating you differently? Especially if that friend is female? What about to your family?
2007-01-27 18:11:44 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You either just say it or don't and let them figure it out. I say that because first of all, how often do you hear someone who is straight go up to their gay friend and tell them they are straight? My son is gay. I am not. Here is how that came out: My son was living about an hour and a half from here as a roomate in a house with the 42 year old woman who owned it and someone else his age. I would go and visit sometimes. One time, the lady (Tani), asked me if I knew he was gay. She asked me because he was afraid to say anything to me. And I looked at her and I cried because I was so happy to know this. I told her that I didn't know, but could she please tell him that I think its great! I love him no matter what!!! So she did and we had the most bonding time together when I saw him after that. You see, my point is that weather someone is bi, gay, or straight, shouldn't matter. It is a personal choice. And it should be left as such. It is really no one elses business. I am so proud of my son. I love him and I love the fact that he is gay. I love him just the way he is. For you, I wish the same outcome, but I do realize how uncommon that may be in some cases. But remember something - Those who do not accept you the way they are - that is their loss. It may be hard for you - it may take time for some to come around, but those who really love you will come around. It may just take some adjustment time. I wish you all the best and remember - be patient with them if you tell them. Good luck...
2007-01-27 18:23:44 · answer #1 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
whoa. that's hard! totally! so like u're a bi and ur family and friends have no idea about it?! ok, so here's what u should do... think. think twice. think thrice. how can i tell them without making the freakout? what if they treat me differently when i tell them? what's gonna happen next? yeah, there's a lot of questions running through ur mind... if ur friends are for real, then they will accept u for who and what u are! the same thing goes with ur family... actually, they should be the ones who should totally understand and accept u. gather enough courage for urself before u reveal to them ur inner personality, ok? after doing so, stand up to them and tell them. if they feak out, there's nothing to care about. its how u are and it ain't ur fault. they should accept u... no matter what.
2007-01-28 02:26:58 · answer #2 · answered by CB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always wondered why bi-sexual people would feel the need to come "out". Come out as what exactly? As soon as you find someone that you decide to have a serious relationship with and is the same gender as you is when you should tell your friends/family.
2007-01-28 02:15:42 · answer #3 · answered by karespromise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I'm the type who keeps things separate and private, so I don't tell people things -- but I ended up telling people I was asexual. Not the same stigma as bi, which is less than the stigma of being gay, but I put it on the table not caring what they thought becuase nothing they say can change me.
Honestly, if you want to put it on the table, do it as simply as you can.
2007-01-28 02:17:23 · answer #4 · answered by meikai_derushie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With friends, it will be difficult, but true friends won't treat you differently. Also, if you haven't made a pass on her yet, chances are you won't make that known to her. As far as you family, I don't know.
2007-01-28 02:14:47 · answer #5 · answered by Andigurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trying to tell a friend about your sexuality can be a hard thing to do. If they are a true friend they will accept you for who you are and that is you. When a friend of mine came out and said he was gay I support him and still do. My friend came out about 10 years ago. All you can do is take them aside and explain how you feel and that you still want them as a friend.
2007-01-28 02:29:22 · answer #6 · answered by Andrew W 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you need to tell her or your family ?
Bi women are very desirable to many men..
I love Bi women...
2007-01-28 02:14:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should not tell them let them discover them
if you told your friend she may freak out and would be afraid to be friend you anymore.and your family should acctually accept you like how you really are because i think it is out of your hands or they could be the reason behind your strange sexual intentions
2007-01-28 02:41:46 · answer #8 · answered by khatora 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they are a true friend then they wont care, family should be supportive of anything you choose, plus u cant help the way u feel
2007-01-28 02:14:54 · answer #9 · answered by andi_is_reload 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know im not bi. Sorry!
2007-01-28 02:15:08 · answer #10 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋