Why can't I tell my mom?

Question

My last thing I posted has about suicide at 12. People say talk to your mom. What if I can't tell her? Like I am afraid of what she is going to say. i ask her if I can go to a concuslar and she says no and laughs. Only because she doesn't know what's going through my mind. Why can't i tell my mom? She told me I can tell her everything. But, this.

Answer 1

If you can't tell her don't tell her...How simple...

Answer 2

I think the reason you can't tell her about this or won't tell her about this is because it is something that is very serious and when you asked her about seeking a counselor she laughed at you. She probably doesn't think you are serious. She might not even know that you have pain inside of you that you need to get out. Talk to a school counselor and let them know how you feel. They can put you in touch with someone you can talk to. Also, sometimes life is hard, but you can get through whatever it is what you are going through. It is hard, but trust me, it will get better as time goes on. You have a big life planned in front of you. Be encouraged.

Answer 3

I would not wait until it is too late. I feel very sorry for you, that you feel so lost and afraid (especially of your own mom). That must be horrible to not be able to tell her.

When I was 15 I wanted to kill myself too. I had suffered some abuse as a child, (not from my parents) but abuse non-the less. They never knew. I didn't want to tell them. So when I hit the teenage years nothing seemed to make sense. I began to date a very mentally abusive guy that was horrible to me. I didn't realize it in the beginning nut near the end of that relationship I did, but would I admit it to my parents I was wrong? NO. I was very stubborn.

Now I am 25. I have a very wonderful husband who loves me very much. I have a small son too he's 3.5 years old. If you had asked me what I thought my life would be like at 25 when I was 15, I would have said that it could never be as wonderful as it is now.

I haven thought about killing myself for 5 years. Each day I find another reason to keep going. The most important thing that helps me is God. God has really showed me how to accept myself just as I am, for he made me, and there is a reason I am the way I am.

You could maybe tell her how you feel, like say, "I am not sure I have reasons to like myself." Tell her you need to talk to her because you are “afraid, afraid of what might happen if no one hears you & your cry for help." Or if she really wont hear you tell her you fell sick, and to take you to the doctor, you can tell the doctor & s/he will make sure you get help. A teacher will do the same. There may even be a counselor at your school you can talk to. You need to talk to someone who has knowledge that can help you, this is a good start to start saying what you feel, the next step would be telling someone who can really help you. I will pray for you.

Answer 4

If you are a 12 year old having suicidal thought then you definitely need to talk to someone. Why don't you feel comfortable talking you your mom. Is she part of the problem? Is there anyone else you can talk to . If your mom isn't part of the problem then I would try and talk to her. She will take it better coming from you than from someone else. Take it from someone who has been there my step daughter had the same thoughts, she felt better after writing about it. Then she would would ask me to read her poems to get my opinion when I read them I realized what was going on and took her to counseling we sat down a talked about it over and over again. Also if you go to church you can talk to your minister or preacher. If not there are 1800 numbers you can call they are toll free so they what show up on the phone bill. It will be just between you and counselor you speak with. Either way talk to someone. Best wishes. Remember suicide is never the right answer

Answer 5

If you can't talk to your mother you need to talk to a school teacher or some other adult that you trust this is not something to be ashamed of. You need help and you know it so seek it and don't stop trying I was suicidle from 5th grade (I know very young age to want to kill ones self but I did and I didn't get help) I finally found my strangth in January of 2000 when I relised there was just to much to look forward to and I have found out now just what. I am a mother of a lovely 1 1/2 year old boy and I am pregnant again 15 weeks with my second child. There is so much for you to look forward to as well never give in and learn to talk about it that helps alot! Good Luck really. Feel free to IM me at Dropsofmoonshine on aim or aol if you want to talk since I know where your coming from.

Answer 6

Tell your mom that you are not joking, that you wantt o see a counselor because you feel very depressed and feel like you are experiencing suicidal thoughts and want to kill yourself. If she laughs, say no, this is not a joke, this is serious. You can also say, you always said I can tell you anything, so I am telling you and you don't believe me? If you won't get me help I will talk to my teacher at school. Don't be afraid to tell her, be afraid of the thoughts in your head.

Answer 7

yes you can tell her everything but when you mom said that she meant things like about boys not suicide. that would freak her out but because she is worried she would send you to counseling and to see a phycologist and possibly therapist. a lot of therapy actually. suicide at 12 is not the answer you're too young. you haven't experienced anything in life yet. you don't know what's is out there yet. if you think your life is over because it's soo bad at such a young age then you're wrong because you haven't even lived 5% of your life. you have really lived through nothing in nature. but you should tell your mom i know it is really hard to talk about something like that to even bring it up. but you have to do it for yourself for your family for your future. if you can't tell your mom start off somewhere easier like tell your best friend and work your way from there. tell someone you can trust. do you trust your mom to do the right thing for you or do you not? do you love your mom enough to tell her your biggest problem? because if you kill yourself successfully your mom will think she was a failure as a parent and that she didn't love you enough. if you do unsuccessfully you will be in a mental hospital until you're like 30.

Answer 8

Maybe your mom is in denial and just doesn't want to recognize that you've really got some serious problems going on. I'd say that she means it when she says you can talk to her but she's probably thinking you aren't serious or it's something that'll pass or teen angst or something. I'm not sure. She probably just doesn't want to think anything is going on. You can get help though without your mother. You can tell a guidance councelor or professional at your school and they'll get you to the right people. I'm sure there are people you can talk to if you need to.

Answer 9

maybe you are afraid to disappoint her.
the bottom line is you should get to any person you trust, preferably an adult, and talk. talking can work wonders.

and i know it might not help right now, but life gets so much better. when i was 12 things were rough too, and by the time i hit 16, 17, it was worse. but now im in my 20's and so glad that my 3 attempts at suicide werent successful. life is so wonderful... look at the little things.. the birds and the trees and just all of life.

maybe try talking to your school councelor or a teacher you trust. make sure its a responsible person you talk to.

sometimes parents dont want it to be true any more than their child wants it. they can blame themselves, just like you probably blame yourself. it isnt your fault. nothing that has happened to bring you to this place is your fault.
talk to someone older and see if they can help you talk to her.


she wont laugh at you, i promise.

Answer 10

If your having a hard time talking to your mom, try writing her a letter. Maybe writing it down will be easier for you then looking her in the eye and telling her.

The only reason why she said no and laughed was because she thought you were joking. Im sure she didnt mean any harm in it.

Just be strong and know that your doing your best to take the first step in getting help.


Write her a letter and give it to her.

Answer 11

You probably don't want to tell your mother because you are a little embarassed and you think she will be dissapointed in you. It doesnt help much that when you tell her you want to go to a counselor she brushes it off. I am pretty certain that she brushes it off, because she doesnt want anything to be wrong with you b/c she loves you and she cares.
But think about this- by not telling her you will only continue to hurt yourself b/c it's you that needs the help and seeing a therapist will be helpful. As an alternative though, if you don't want to tell your mom, talk to your school's guidance counselor that's what they're there for.
Everything will be kept confidential.
Best of luck to you!