i'm a scorpio and my hubby is a virgo. my sex drive is alot higher than his. and even though i just had a baby which takes up most of our time, even b4 that we wasnt having much sex. but everything else in the relationship is good. so is sex important in a relationship?
2007-01-27 17:14:22 · 22 answers · asked by honeybrown 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sex is an important part of a relationship, but is certainly not the biggest issue....and for that reason, you should wait until you are married...You need to fall in love with someone and go through a long time of hanging out (not hooking up) and learning about each other through conversation..This can take a year or more. Remember that every guy you have sex with will be hanging around in your mind forever. You will never be free from them. It makes it very difficult to give yourself to that special someone. Maybe this is the reason that so many marriages fail. People have way to much premarital sex. Even one is a problem, but imagine if you had multiple partners swimming around in your mind all of the time. Be careful what you expose yourself too!!! God Bless!
2016-03-29 05:56:16 · answer #1 · answered by Loretta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's different for every one.
In general, I think at first it's a big part of the relationship. You learn to be close with a person on the most intimate level. Children change the relationship completely. When having kids, you're too busy raising children. I think over time it's not as important anymore. I also think that it depends on the relationship. Perhaps when the children are older, couples have more time for each other and so they might get a second wind?
2007-01-27 17:50:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it counts, but it's not everything. Let's face it--you were pregnant for nine months, then had the baby, you are probably both very tired. Right now it is more important that he is helping you with the baby, and being there for you. You also said that everything else in your relationship is good--you are a very lucky person! The sex will come back--be patient--now the baby needs to come first. Later he or she will start sleeping all night, and life will be much easier.
2007-01-27 17:21:32 · answer #3 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is part of an intimate relationship.
As time passes you may find that the word "intimate" will no longer be a part of your relationship : you, your husband and children will just be room mates.
If you want to continue the intimate part of the relationship you will need a babysitter to look after your children. Or you'll need to adjust to sex in a different form. You'll have to take whatever is offered by your husband. It may be quick or in a position you haven't tried before et c. but it will be sex : as long as you're not demanding and neither of you is too tired - children can be so wearing.
2007-01-27 17:42:09 · answer #4 · answered by enirgo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is just of the many things that a couple will share/enjoy together. It certainly looks/seems to be important in the early years of the relationship but it soons wanes down.
Relationship is more about being comfortable in each other's company and adjusting to each other's likes/dislikes and looks like in your case it is so in most of things except sex. May be you should just speak to your partner on your likes and hopefully even this too will get solved as you both together think abt it..
2007-01-27 17:26:04 · answer #5 · answered by Krishna K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the rules of what is important are decided by the participants. to some sex may be the only thing, to others it may be the least of their focus.
if you believe it is, then it is. have a talk with him and tell him what you told us.
if everything else is great, and he is a great father too, then is lack of sex really a problem? only you can know.
2007-01-27 17:20:19 · answer #6 · answered by SAINT G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
* yes very important. I know some peple who have sexless mariages and are happy, but that is rare. what is unusual is you are the highly sexed one, usually it is the man and the women is not as highly sexed. My wife is not as highly sexed as I am, but she makes sure we are together at least 2 times a week and if i ask for more, she is okay with it, but I usually do not because any more would leave me satisfied but not her, so I feel twice a week is fine. she is willing to have sex when she is not in the mood because she knows how important it is to me, so with her willingness to please, I am eager to please her and settle for less so she will have a good time too.*
2007-01-27 17:22:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends from person to a person. you said everything else in the relationship is good, so sex to you should not be the main thing. and yet, you get along fine. no prob with that then.
congrats with the baby!
2007-01-27 17:20:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-01-27 17:54:02 · answer #9 · answered by smooth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a scorpio too, and its somewhat important but thats not the only thing. I guess for u now its important but more things will be more important.
2007-01-27 17:23:23 · answer #10 · answered by B@by G!rl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋