I have decided that i am ready to give 'the talk' to my daughter, but i dont know how to do it. I want to tell her everything from developing to sex to periods. so like the lot. but what do i tell her and how do i tell her. if someone could tell me a little bit about each topic that they would tell there daughters i would really like it. thanks! xoxox
2007-01-27 16:54:30 · 11 answers · asked by cheeky_lollies 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I think the best way is to talk to your daughter is to reflect back upon your own personal experiences with these topics and how you felt at the time. It's a lot more real than a clinical book on the topic. It will bring you closer to your daughter and hopefully spawn conversation, not just now, but in the future. I didn't have that conversation with my mom, in fact, when I told her we needed more maxipads she wasn't even aware that I had periods yet. I would have liked to have had more mother-daughter conversations but didn't think she was very approachable on typical teenage issues. I hope your relationship fairs better.
2007-01-27 17:18:59 · answer #1 · answered by Shorty 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way would have been to start when she was a small child. Begin by discussing touch, (good and bad) as well as the questions "where do babies come from" etc. I did this with my daughter her entire life so when she reached puberty there was very little for me to "tell" other than making the choices that were right for herself, not remaining with a guy who was controlling or violent. Now at 21 she's been fairly desgretionary when it comes to the guys she dates and those she has relationships with. I know she's not a virgin but I also know that she is on the pill and SHE carries condoms in her purse...
2007-01-27 22:39:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK I can only say this with experience from when my mom told me. she first off waited till i was about in the 5th grade to tell me about cramps and my period. back then i really didn't grasp that concept but now that I'm older i understand. just make sure she knows that when her period happens that she can come to you. OK sex, a lot of parents think that they should wait until their kid is in high school or middle school to tell them. well let me tell you that i made my parents give me "the talk" because i already knew. no matter how much you don't want it to happen your little girl/boy will find out from school. yes school, the learning place. but i would recommend just to talk about sex, see what he/she knows about the subject then tell them more details. but if it was me i would wait until they are in the 5th or 6th grade. but that is a decision that each parent has to make. well i hope i somewhat helped you. but just remember to make sure they can always come to you if they have questions. just don't emphasize it too much. OK? well once again i hope i cleared some things up. and if i didn't well then I'm sorry you had to read all this. good luck! enjoy the ride through the teen years!
2007-01-27 17:35:45 · answer #3 · answered by Sydney U 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am only 16 and my mom never ever sat down to talk to me about sex or anything like that! And its sad to say but ive been sexually active for a couple years now, and i think if she had to sit down and explain it then i would of known she was really conserned about me and what i was doing!.. so tell your daughter everything but let her know she can tell you anything
2007-01-27 17:27:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom bought a book, I don't remember what it was called, but it was about everything from grooming to periods. It didn't really talk about sex, but that was soon after. She sat down with me and read it with me. I think I was 7.
2007-01-27 18:00:13 · answer #5 · answered by stephieSD 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
www.plannedparenthood.org there's a lot of information there. It should give you some ideas about what to say and you can use the website (or any site like that. this one is just off the top of my head, though planned parenthood is a great organisation) as information for her.
2007-01-27 17:23:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is your daughter..that depends on her age. because if she is like 6 then say everything but if she is like 13 she would probably know everything.. just like me when i was like 13 i learned like everytihng because of the tv shows i watched and stuff...
2007-01-27 17:54:52 · answer #7 · answered by Orange? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain is way that is not crude. Ensure you listen to her feedback and encourage her to ask questions, also speak to her more like a friend, to let her know to come to you for ANYTHING.
Good luck.
2007-01-27 17:21:20 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way is to be open with her and honest with her, she might feel a little bit un comfortable with it. but she needs to know. once you get started it will get easier. good luck.
2007-01-27 18:01:45 · answer #9 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom took me to the library and checked out books. Please, oh please, do not do that, lol. Talk about scarring for life.
What may be easier for you is to just ask her if she has any questions. That way you dont have to guess and tell her things she already knows and/or doesn't want/need to know.
2007-01-27 17:54:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋