From past 5 months, i have become very irritated. i do not speak to my husband properly. i am working. so i do not find time with him. the time what we get, he spends it watching TV or reading news paper. so i get annoyed and i start fighting. please help me on this.
2007-01-27 16:49:35 · 34 answers · asked by kashifunnisa k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You two require a vacation from work go for it to some remote place where all these facilities like T.V. etc are not available ,its only you two together enjoying the nature & each others company...!!!!!
2007-01-27 20:39:29 · answer #1 · answered by bisexualmale s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby steps! Go slow, and don't try to diagnose his psychological disorders. He and you have hit a rut. Simple and sometimes easy to overcome. First, you need to break out of the routine day. Find an activity you both can enjoy. I can't tell you which. It can be as ridiculous as square dancing or as redneck as bowling, as high brow as golfing or as bazaar as curling. Whatever you do just make sure it is done with him. No negative comments during this time. Praise will get him more involved. Next start simple communication. This too could use a little praise, "Your a great talker, a creative thinker, why don't we talk more I learn so much being around you". Sappy, but effective. From there you will know what to do. You sound fairly intelligent, with a good heart. Should be more women out there like you.
2007-01-27 17:05:11 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most all of us married ladies have been thru this. Seems it's us girls that work on repairing this while the guys are content to watch TV. Turn the TV off and tell him it's time to talk. Tell him what you said here. If possible go somewhere, anywhere for a night such as a state park, they have nice chalets with fireplaces. Keep the TV off and get to know each other again, lots of talking. This will help for about 6 weeks then repeat as needed. Not kidding.
2007-01-27 16:57:25 · answer #3 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. It happens sometimes to a marriage. IF you two have a solid relationship, with the right skills you'll be able to handle it. First, find something you BOTH have in common and BOTH enjoy doing, and try really hard to make the time and do it. that is the beginning. And talk to him, without making him get on the defense. come from the point of view that you like his company and that you really want to work things out...and listen to what he has to say. Work it out together. Make sure it doesn't happen again, by regularly scheduling time to be together, preferably (if possible) outside of the house away from the TV!!!!
Good luck to you. hang in there.
2007-01-27 17:27:25 · answer #4 · answered by NY gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why u feel there is a gap with u and ur husband. It seems that ur trating his activities as to getrid of u. If it is so, try to get the incident on which both have different opinions.
You first accept his opinion and travel in his notion. Then he will be close to u and tackle the situation and get the right point at which he will oblige your opinion .
Be careful in selection of right time otherwise he will be knowing your cunningnes.
Have a better life.Be cause there is no best life in married life.
2007-01-30 20:39:25 · answer #5 · answered by venus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a vacation from work and just go on a short trip with your husband. Take time to associate and reduce the gap that has formed during the five months. Or, if vacation is not possible, then talk to him. Set up some time where both of you can spend even the shortest time together. Good luck :]
2007-01-27 16:53:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you already realize some of what is wrong. You need to decide that you are ready to save this marriage and give it the effort it really deserves from you. You may not get a response you like at first from your husband but eventually you will. Try tapping into the softer more sensitive side of yourself and let your heart do some talking for you. I know it's hard to get out of a rut, but it can be done! You sound like your heart has the desire to do so, tell your negative feelings to take a back seat for a while!
Best of luck to you!
2007-01-27 16:57:05 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady introspection leading to positive approach and a touch of being wanted dovetailed with tons of showering affection will not only reduce the gap but will auger an such tight bond which others will envy.Be positive and smile your way through all problems as this is very charismatic.All the best
2007-01-27 16:56:22 · answer #8 · answered by Wg.Cdr Sunil Lal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you read the book called "The Five Love Languages"? The book talks about how we express and interpret love. I think you should give the book a read, it may have a few good ideas that can easily be applied to your marriage. I honestly think it would help, and at the very least not hurt it.
I think you two need to go on a date night. My husband and I go once a week to reconnect with each other. It is good for us.
2007-01-27 16:56:34 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish u had given yr age so the cause of irritability could be known.But a successful marriage is a lot of hard work between spouses.time is never short and resort to time management.do pranayam for only 15 minutes regularly for stress free life.you will be more patient in a weeks time.explain to ur hubby that tv can be replaced with time spent together.....but allot a time zone for his tv when u r busy with pranayam.discuss with hubby i am sure he wants u to be happy and pleasant so he will help.
2007-01-27 17:04:32 · answer #10 · answered by kun18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down and talk and try to find ways to spend more time together to save the marriage. It sounds like he may be taking you for granted and you both have to find a way to get past that or you will end up divorcing. Tell him you want the two of you to spend more time together!
2007-01-27 16:56:48 · answer #11 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋