He cheated, I found out, he apologized said it was wrong he was sorry and wants to work things out, but that he and the woman talked and they still want to be friends. That nothing will happen again.
2007-01-27 16:49:03 · 27 answers · asked by babyjane9999 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell the married woman's husband. Its only fair.
2007-01-27 16:52:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
"friends"? this should be a big red flag!
If he is willing to work something out with out, he must be willing to give up the "friendship" with the other woman. No other person should be worth more than you if he really means sorry. My advice is don't listen to him lame excuse because it's just another scheme of his.
You need to take a step about and look at the situation and ask yourself if you could deal with the fact that he cheated on you...with a married woman. And ask yourself whether you would be able to ever accept and leave it behind as a thing of the past. Many women tend to bring up past history, if there is cheating involved, into their present life, and if you still hold a grudge against him, there is no way you would be able to work it out.
Just ask yourself if you'd be willing to accept it and move on with your relationship with him, or if you'd rather move on from him and find someone who is faithful to you.
It's almost always likely that they will cheat again for some reason, but don't get me wrong, there are some men out there who learn from their mistakes. You know him best, and that's for you to judge.
Don't forget to think of the long term situtations when you reconsider your involvement with this man...
2007-01-27 17:01:26 · answer #2 · answered by Alicia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to chose either her or you. Be serious. I would never let my boyfriend talk to the woman he cheated on me with and if he insisted he wanted to be her friend i would tell him to go to hell. I am completely serious. He says nothing will happen again but he is lying. I am serious..hes lying. And you can learn the hard way that once a cheater always a cheater and you will have no one else to blame. Let him go..and I bet you if you do he will be hooking up with that other chick in no time flat.
2007-01-27 17:17:20 · answer #3 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is not truly sorry. If he was, he would have ceased all communications with the woman. Obviously he still has some sort of feelings for her. Don't be naive, he is only fooling you. Can you even fully trust that your boyfriend is only talking with the woman? I highly doubt it. Don't put yourself through the torture of being emotionally hurt by him again. He's not worth it. You need to be a strong woman and be the one to leave him!
2007-01-27 16:59:40 · answer #4 · answered by caligirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well - under the circumstances talking to the other woman would be an absolute deal breaker for me. I don't oppose my boyfriend having female friends that he talks to but had he cheated with one of those females (well, I'd leave if I found that out - no question) then if I were to stay - talking to her, seeing her, etc... would be completely out of the question. In fact, if I'd found out he so much as spoke to her I'd leave.
2007-01-27 16:54:46 · answer #5 · answered by karespromise 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not seeing the other woman, talking to her, writing to her; in other words he should not have ANY contact with her. He couldn't handle it before, and it will only lead to trouble again. If he won't make this kind of commitment, and stay away from her, then you need to move on. It's only a matter of time before he does it again.
2007-01-27 17:46:08 · answer #6 · answered by Joy K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new boyfriend. Not only cheating, but with a married woman? You're too forgiving. He'll see that, and use you again. And you'll probably forgive him, again. Sadly.
2007-01-27 16:54:09 · answer #7 · answered by shanhelp 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
and you believe he is sorry? If he was really sorry he wouldn't be still talking to the woman.. he is going to cheat again and this time you will be the loser wake up!!
2007-01-27 16:56:24 · answer #8 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if he isn't willing to have no contact with her, it certainly can and has a good chance of happening again. why set yourself up for future heartache, just get out of it now, before u take him back, and invest more into the relationship. if one is trying to stop something, they have to remove the problem, or the temptation from their life, if they refuse they really aren't too serious about doing it.
2007-01-27 20:42:09 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. Irregardless of whether "nothing" will happen again(which I SERIOUSLY DOUBT), he has shown a blatant disregard for your feelings by continuing his association with this woman. That is unacceptable.
2007-01-27 17:03:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋