My boyfriend has been divorced twice. The closer we have gotten, the more he seems to have cold feet. Is he scared that this relationship will end too? How do I convince him of my love?
2007-01-27 16:45:14 · 12 answers · asked by citygirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You cant...Just stick around and in time he will get over his fear...
2007-01-27 17:02:54 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can convince him. So men just can't get over their previous spouses; it is possible that is the reason for the 2nd divorce. Did the 2nd marriage last long? Sounds like a good relationship if you don't want to get married. If you do, time to move on. I know, it easy to say. But it is harder in the end, the longer you wait to move on, the harder it is to go.
2007-01-28 01:58:18 · answer #2 · answered by Joy K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not the problem. I bet he knows that your affections are real. My guess is he hasn't got a clue to what love actually is. Ask him! Really! See if he can come up with an acceptable definition of what love is. If he gets stumped on this one, then congratulations sweetheart, you've diagnosed his problem and the journey to a wonderful married life begins, just as soon as the two of you learn what love is. Ummmmm YOU do know what love is don't you? Start with Websters definition and go from there! Try to make it personal to you! You know, no expectations for reward, desire to care for their self esteem, stuff like that.
2007-01-28 00:54:16 · answer #3 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you blame him? 2 failed marriages.. that's a huge blow to a man's ego - not to mention his heart. Love is not enough to guarantee a lifetime of marriage. I am sure he loved both of his other wives too. There is nothing you can do for him that will make him feel ready to be married again. He needs to sort out his demons himself before he'll ever feel confident to take that step again. The moment you convince yourself that you have the power to change his mind - is the day you'll be REALLY disappointed. There is NOTHING you can do.
2007-01-28 00:49:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the less you try to convince him the more he will see on his own! All the trying is what sends up red flags for people. Let it just happen, for real.
2007-01-28 00:51:36 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is scared after 2 divorces.
3rd strike you're out!
2007-01-28 00:55:03 · answer #6 · answered by Tenn Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Twice divorced may mean the problem is with him, not his
previous wives...
Nothing you can do but have patience and work on him...
2007-01-28 01:34:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like I failed my frist marriage and right now I had gotten several dates and I am afraid of being hurt again or I may hurt them... so I am waiting until my ego build back up.. and Just give him some time until he feel he is really ready to be remarry again... just give him some time to build his ego up.
2007-01-28 00:52:28 · answer #8 · answered by Deaf Cowgirl 27 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wait until Valentine's Day. If nothing happens, it's time for you to move on and find someone else.
2007-01-28 00:58:01 · answer #9 · answered by RunSueRun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him this time it's different.That this marriage will work,as long as you'll have good communication and are honest with each other.If you'll love one another then you'll will make it through.
2007-01-28 00:52:35 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
after 2 strikes??? yeah i'm sure he does...... you can not convince him, this will happen in it's own sweet time.
2007-01-28 00:52:44 · answer #11 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋