friend's shower after miscarriage?

Question

My friend is due in march. I told her a long time ago that I would give her a baby shower (she has another baby but has never had a baby shower) Well, I recently had a miscarriage and I don't want to look at anything with babies on it let alone plan a shower. Cancelling is not an option for me but I need to know how to cope with planning and attending a baby shower without losing it or making her feel uncomfortable, because this should still be a wonderful experience for her.

She has told me on more that one occassion that I'm the only friend she has and all my other friends don't really know her.

Answer 1

You're a good friend!!

I think that if you explain to your friend that it is going to be very difficult for you to host this baby shower, she'll understand. Maybe there is someone else who would be willing to host it.

I think you are just going to have to concentrate on your friend and how excited she is for her baby.... it's going to be hard, but you'll get through it.

Answer 2

Talk to her and just be honest. Tell her that you are very happy for her and that she is having a baby, but you're emotions are still too raw to throw her a shower. Before you have the conversation with her, maybe it will be helpful if you find someone who will throw her the shower. Then you can explain how you feel but still ensure her that she'll have a shower and say, "Janie would be more than happy to throw you a shower."

I'm sure she'll understand. Best wishes to you.

Answer 3

in case you recognize for particular that you're/were pregnant you should bypass to the healthcare specialist or ER. that's strong to get regarded at to understand for effective that you had a miscarriage and to be particular that there is not any longer some thing else incorrect.

Answer 4

If she's a friend, then be honest with her. Let her know that, because of your miscarriage, planning the shower is a challenge for you. Do you have any other common friends that could help you with the planning?

Answer 5

I'm sure she would totally understand if you cancel. Thats just way to hard of a situation and you don't need to be doing that to yourself. It is a wonderful experience for her and I'm sure you're not deliberately trying to make her feel bad, but she'd probably feel better if you passed off planning and hosting duties to another friend and let them take care of it. I'm sorry that happened to you, I've been there.

Answer 6

I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriage.

I would definitely consider having a "partner" to help you with the party, if it gets to be too much to deal with. Just a word of advice, (from experience) if you feel like you might resent her happiness a little, or even if you think she would think you resented her, pass the duties to someone else and just relax. She'll feel more open to show her happiness, whereas if you are depressed, she may feel like she has to buffer her happiness to fit your emotions.
Good luck!

Answer 7

If she is a real friend she'll understand that you just had a miscarriage, and you just not ready to plan her babyshower. Talk to her and let her know just how you feel. I know that as a true friend she'll understand and find someone else to plan her babyshower

Answer 8

SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS.CALL YOUR FRIEND AND EXPLAIN THAT YOU ARE STILL GRIEVING OVER YOUR LOSS AND THAT IT WOULD BE BEST IF FAMILY MEMBERS CAN STEP IN AND FINISH OR BEGIN WITH THE BABY SHOWER.AND DUE TIME WHEN YOU ARE READY YOU WILL DO YOUR PART.GOO LUCK ON EVERYTHING!

Answer 9

if she is really a good friend then she would understan u on what u went thrue!! and u could always have other poeple help u out to plan it if u feel its ok