I am 30 years old and my wife is also 30. My wife has a full time job and bartends on the weekend for extra money. I don't mind her bartending, but I don't like her working until 2:30 in the morning. So far I haven't really said anything. She says she gets escorted to her car when she leaves at night so nothing will happen. I am glad for that, but I just don't think that she should be doing this especially this late at night. It's not that I don't trust her I just don't want to worry and I don't know if this is right.
2007-01-27 16:33:04 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Arghhh, there are some really upset woman posting on this question. I'm sure this guy doesn't think he owns her and I really don't think a kitchen knife is the same as being assaulted at 2;30 in the morning. My lord there are some dumb girls out there. As a woman I would be flattered if my husband or boyfriend was concerned about me bartending until 3 in the morning. I would probably look for another job if he was losing sleep over it. I would take a real man over some stupid job any day. Tell your wife to quit and find something else!
2007-01-28 08:51:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps the question shouldn't be "should I *let* my wife bartend?" You don't own her. However, if it's bothering you the best way to get it out in the open is to tell her it's been nagging at you and you'd like to discuss it. There are lots of jobs out there that she could do rather then bartend just to make some extra money. BUT - bartenders, if they're good, can make excellent tips. You should both hear each other out and discuss the pros/cons of it.
2007-01-27 16:43:53 · answer #2 · answered by karespromise 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this is something that she wants to do, and she feels comfortable doing it, then you have to be content with that. If you are really concerned, then maybe you should talk with her about the situation. After all, she is your wife, and you should be free to discuss anything. If you approach her in a hostile manner, and tell her at the beginning you don't want her to do this anymore, this may cause her to become defensive, and provoke an arguement. You have to choose your words carefully here. I personally don't think you have much to worry about, there are so many female bartenders out there who have no problems whatsoever working those late hours. It just depends on what she wants and how she feels. You can't just tell her not to do it anymore-that's not fair.
2007-01-27 16:42:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since bars tend to be open until 2:00pm bartenders are usually required to stay until everything is locked up which usually means about 2:30. If your wife worked in an office job on the night shift she would be getting off at about that time...would that make you feel better?
2007-01-27 16:39:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
being a bartender means working late, and hey if it could get you some free drinks, and a chance to watch your wife have a little fun, do it. if it really bothers you bring it up gently, maybe say honey your so tired, i dont think you should be working late anymore , it's not worth the money and the time away from home, i need you more here at home.
2007-01-27 16:40:21 · answer #5 · answered by Jane Doe 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
perhaps your wife is in another forum asking - should i let my jealous husband share the extra five hundred dollars i make in 6 hours a week? if it bothers you that much - pick her up from work. if safety is truly your concern - not the guys that hit on her all night - then you might as well take away her car, running shoes, and kitchen knives - all of which pose just as much of a threat as a parking lot at 2am.
2007-01-28 07:02:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just remember what you just said"I trust her". She is the only one you have to trust.I was a bartender for over 20 years.after you have served them drinks all night,no guys still look good to you.
2016-05-24 07:46:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is safety she is worried about then she is covered but i have the feeling it is more thatn safety because she is escorted to car.
you dont want her working at a bar. be honest with her. Out of respect for your feelings, she might quit. but lets be real clear you are not letting her do anything just as much as she is not letting you keep your job.
2007-01-27 18:19:36 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Johny 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should work double shift so that your wife can stay at home.
Bardending also give your wife the opportunity to meet other men in case you don't treat her right.
2007-01-27 17:04:01 · answer #9 · answered by RunSueRun 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to tell her that you are concerned for her safety. Tell her that maybe she should consider on changing her hours of work rather than coming home so late. Or, maybe she can find another job that allows her to work during the day.
2007-01-27 16:40:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋