you try telling your kids the right way to go in life.but when they hit 15 they think they are grown.and the law is on there side.they can drop out of school,have kids,get married,and there is nothing you can do.the law say it's ok.but still the parants are blamed.for it all.you are told you are a bad parent.why is this?can anyone fill me in?
2007-01-27 16:13:30 · 5 answers · asked by here in va 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well its wrong, to blame the parents for kids who go astray..
You can be the best parent possible, instill morals and values into your children, take them to church each sunday, disipline, everything..But it all comes down to the child, and the child only. A child can take everything he or she has been taught and either use it to make a life for themselve or they can go against the grain, and do the opposite of everything they have been taught.
It has nothing to do with the parents, It has to do with the WILL of the child, and the personality...
Its just easy for people to blame the parents when a child does wrong...
People need to realize each individual is responsible for his/her own actions, no matter how they were raised..
People that judge and make these kind of remarks...will reap what they sow...
Wishin you the best..
2007-01-27 16:26:33 · answer #1 · answered by ~Annette~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As an 18-year-old mama's girl, I'll have to agree with everyone that answered. Be firm and discipline when they are young, and make sure you raise them with morals (not necessarily church, but religion does help). But make sure they know they can talk to you. Let them have their alone time, but be sure to spend quality time with them doing something they like.
If they have a problem that they think nobody understands, and you've been there before, let them know. I think it was when my mom told me about her high school social issues that I realized she's actually worth talking to, even when it's not a last resort.
As for why your child did what (s)he did, please fill me in on what exactly happened. I can't exactly tell where you're coming from. If you're not the parent, and this is just hypothetical, I'm sorry for assuming. Please e-mail me!
2007-01-28 00:50:23 · answer #2 · answered by bisous148 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one it's the parent's job to actually raise their child. If they do so correctly with discipline then I doubt you are going to have too many problems when they hit their teens.
But it isn't always that parent's fault either. Sometimes there are things out of the parent's control and it can take extreme measures to fix things.
2007-01-28 00:37:41 · answer #3 · answered by Ash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To some degree, this is true. But kids can be rebellious and kind of become the "reject gene". You have to mold your child when they are young. Good nurtured children don't turn to shitt. End of story.
2007-01-28 00:19:52 · answer #4 · answered by renosgirl2006 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont know to tell you the truth...kids now a days think they know everything at an early age but they dont!! i am 15 myself and think i know a lot but i really dont!!! its surprising how much i dont actaully know...just cant really asnwer that but sorry good luck babyyy
2007-01-28 00:27:53 · answer #5 · answered by icecreampie6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋