I've never felt this way about anyone. But I don't know if I should tell her. It's been torture keeping it secret.
She was molested when she was ten by a person who she trusted completely (won't get into the details there). But she has serious intimacy issues, and is often very withdrawn. She isn't like that with me, because she knows she can count on me. What I'm afraid of is that if I tell her how I feel, she might withdraw, like she does from everyone else. I'm afraid she'll stop trusting me. I can't let that happen. I need her, and in all honesty, she needs me too sometimes.
If I don't tell her, I'll die. If I do tell her, and we become strangers, I'll die. HOw do I handle this?
2007-01-27 16:09:33 · 9 answers · asked by Gary W 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sounds like this girl has a rough past. But you can make things different. try telling her how you feel. Tell her that you understand that her trust was broken before, but promise her that you wont let it happen again.
2007-01-27 16:15:18 · answer #1 · answered by unreal_punk_rocker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how much your friendship means first and foremost then tell her how you feel. Assure her that you'll continue to be there for her even if she doesn't feel the same, I believe she'll respect honesty from someone she trusts. Let her call the shots after that,be her friend.
2007-01-27 16:17:50 · answer #2 · answered by #1 saints fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off, you won't die from this experience - either way. But I strongly believe that honesty is the best policy. You should tell her how you feel and see how she responds. You need to let her know that regardless of her feelings, you enjoy her company -- however she can give it.
2007-01-27 16:14:20 · answer #3 · answered by Monkey Lips 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reno and I were best friends for 12 yrs. We started dating last May when I told him I was separated from my husband. Smile
2007-01-27 16:15:20 · answer #4 · answered by renosgirl2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL I PERSONLY THINK YOU SHOULD SIT HER DOWN AND TELL HER HOW YOU FELL AND FIRSTLY TELL HER LOOK I KNOW YOU MAY NOT THINK THIS IS A GOOD IDEA BUT I HAVE STRONG FELLINGS FOR YOU AND I WISH WE CAN BE MORE THAN FRIENDS AND SHE CAN ONLY TELL YOU YES OR NO DONT BE AFRAID OF REJECTION IM NOT HELL AND IM NOT THE BEST THING WALKING TELL HER
2007-01-27 16:17:44 · answer #5 · answered by JAZZYPHAE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you preframe it with the fact you respect and admire your friendship and don't want anything to ruin it.And if there was any chance for more, then you would love to pursue it.
2007-01-27 16:13:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-01-27 16:16:20 · answer #7 · answered by steven c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwwwwwwwwwwwww iiiiiiiiii dont know
2007-01-27 16:17:16 · answer #8 · answered by chub c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you never take the chance, how would you know, what she will do?
2007-01-27 16:14:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋