I know this has been asked before but hear me out...
Are you the person you have always wanted to be? Are you truly happy with the way you are today?
Chances are if you are entirely honest with yourself you will probally have answered no to that.
The thing is, can you look deep down within yourself and ask "Can I really turn it all round and fulfil all my ambitions for myself in this life?" Have you really got it in you to change your life for the better, no matter what obsticals are in your way and no matter what hardships you have to incur to get there.
The reason I ask this is because ive been asking myself this recently and to be honest with myself, I dont think I can do it. Sure I can go to university, start and raise a family and have a sucessful and happy life, but to fulfil my reason for living and leading a truly wonderful and accomplished life and to make a difference...I just dont think im capable of battling all the many and hardships life throws in my way.
2007-01-27 16:05:06 · 11 answers · asked by motorfidd 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Have you read the book "The Alchemist" ? That is the question it asks (and answers). If you have not read the book I am certain you would find much in it.
2007-01-27 16:16:43 · answer #1 · answered by nanlwart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a classic question, but it is good to think about from time to time.
In a strange way a few months ago I was really unhappy with my carrer .. but now it seems ok eventhough I should probably go look for a better job.
The thing I wished I had done better is recognize when some women were sweet on me and acted better on that. By now I had thought I would have had a wife and 4 kids by now, but I do not. Many think I am 10 to 15 years younger than I am. but I am not. And I hope I can keep my health.
For me, I have felt that going to the University was a good thing, but your plan of going to the university, startting and raising a family is not for everyone.
Right now I don't have a plan or even a wish except there is a woman I like. This is probably not so good.
I did have an neet moment a few weeks ago. Some young fellow said sarcastially to his friend .. "ya right, there is no where else I would like to be"
and I thought .. right now, this is exactly where I want to be, having a good lunch and having it with my friend. Perhaps something else later, but at that time it was perfect.
One should probably have a Zen like attitude of both being content with what one has, and also be on the lookout for positive change.
After all, change favors the prepared mind -asian folk saying.
I do think that most people are capable of battling the hardships of life .. but it would help some if you were able to chase something truly inspiring.
although a bit trite .. Dr Dyer talks about this in his book "Inspiration" .. that inspiration will lift the soul and lighten any burden and turn what might be drudgery for some into play for others. Deepak Chopra can be also trite but he has a good book called "The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success: A Practical Guide to the Fulfillment of Your Dreams"
These were once of value to me, perhaps you might like them as well.
Even if the content inside is not so good for you, being open to the question of what do I want and where am I going might also let you see and experence life's sychronicities .. of why am I here right now, what good will come to me or what good will I give others,and how do I move on.
I don't know how one finds what one is called for .. but it is something to be strived for.
Apparently Winston Churchill had a late start ..perhaps tehre is hope for us.
2007-01-27 16:35:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, life did not turn out the way I had planned.I had planned to go to college and become a psychologist. I went to a very big college and I was working too, and it simply did not work out. I got married very young, then divorced. I am married again. Husband joined the military. We had a baby August 2008. I am a stay at home mom now! Sometimes I miss the crazy world of being busy and working, but I love my daughter. When she is old enough and when my husband gets out of the military in a few years, I will be joining the police force... Not at all what I planned with my life! I never even wanted to get married! haha! Life is a crazy thing...it's like a birth plan...everything goes flying out the window once reality hits.
2016-03-15 01:04:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has my life turned out the way I wanted it to be? Not at all, but at this point, I'm completely happy and content. I had a lot of expectations and things I wanted to do with my life and haven't completed most of them. I've gone through severe abuse, hardships, homelessness, and the loss of two wonderful daughters, not all in that order, and despite all that I'm happy now. After losing so much and finding how precious everything in my life is, I take nothing for granted. I relish every sweet moment I have of my now simple life as a SAHM/housewife.
Just because you don't get what you hoped or planned for, doesn't mean that you won't get what you never knew you actually wanted and be just as happy, if not happier, than if you got your plans. Does that make any sense?
2007-01-27 16:20:19 · answer #4 · answered by at3chick 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a bit over the hill now, but no things didn't turn out like I thought. But yes I am truly happy. It's sort of like getting on an airplane expecting to go to England, but landing in France instead! France is great, but what would England be like? I can wonder from time to time, but I know what I have is the best and it was all under God's guidance.
2007-01-27 16:17:17 · answer #5 · answered by winkcat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually no life has not turned out they I envisioned it back when I was 18 in 1978. I thought the status of sucess was measured in this scenario. Go to university ,get a good job live in a hi-rise apartment drive a sportscar go to bars everynight ,work out at the club,go home ,buy nice clothes ,travel and eventually at 35 settle down I acheived most of those goals But havent been able to sustain thing and I felt spritually devoid has if I was missing the higher purpose of life. I have learned the most happiness you can acheive is in the service of others and by helping your fellow man.
2007-01-27 16:13:18 · answer #6 · answered by Alex H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly can say "yes."
I have been in love, I have a wonderful child, I finished my master's degree and work in the field I became interested in at the age of 16. I have friends, a home, a dog, enough money, and decent health. There are a few things I could stand to change, like my weight, my smoking habit, and my bad attitude toward other drivers, but those are all things I can control within myself.
I have fulfilled all of my ambitions in life except to grow old with someone (my marriage didn't work out) and to go to Heaven. We'll see what happens...
Aloha :)
2007-01-27 21:20:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My life hasn't but with a few exceptions my life is actually better than I dreamed. Remember to take life one battle at a time, don't compromise your values, and whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
2007-01-27 16:17:56 · answer #8 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're capable of receiving all hardships life throws your way. Then the good stuff is received as well. Is that not victory?
2007-01-27 16:16:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it just started turning when it has to be a few months ago.
2007-01-27 20:31:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋