...should one or the other dominate? I had a psychiatrist tell me that an equal reation, where decisions of matter were agreed on by both, seldom happened. That was just before my marriage failed.
2007-01-27 15:56:51 · 34 answers · asked by Mad Mac 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
27 answers and I appreciate all of them. The failure happened in 1965. Since the late fifties about half of all marriages fail. Most of the answers were for equality is there any connection? By the way I no longer like to "dominate."
2007-01-27 16:48:31 · update #1
Although we are equals, I think there is a natural tendency to have one person take charge. This doesn't have to be a bad thing, in fact IMHO if responsibility is shared, it can help relive daily stress. To have only one person be the dominate could be exhausting. So share the dom...aine
2007-02-03 15:44:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
On important things, I think both should make the decision. On something like furniture, who ever has the better taste, although I wouldn't buy anything my husband hated. On cars, I tell him what I like, and he'll tell me which one is the better choice. Marriage is a give and take. No ones knows everything. It's not a matter of who's smarter. There are some things he just doesn't care about, so I use my own opinion, and some things I just don't care about, so he'll use his best judgment. By the end of the day, we both made decisions concerning many things, and all is well. Some days he makes more, some I make more, and sometimes we do it all together. It all comes out in the wash. Does that help?
2007-02-03 16:29:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly believe that their should be an equal partnership. There is some give and take in relationships. Some people do one thing and the others do another. Domination shouldn't even be in the picture. How would you have a comfortable living environment? Students in a class setting are comfortable with each other, because they are all on the same level. Males and Females should be on the same level in relationships.
2007-01-27 16:01:59 · answer #3 · answered by ME!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes the relationship should be equal. Compromise is key in any healthy relationship. Like tonight, my boyfriend promised we would go to the movies but he worked today and didn't really want to go. I was going with or without him and told him it was ok; he came along and had a good time. He didn't have to but he kept his word to me and I love him for that. I went to his sectional bridge tournament last week as a spectator. We support each other even when we may not want to do something whole hearted we do, because it makes the other person happy. Love is give and take you cannot take all the time or you will be alone very soon. My parents had that kind of relationship and I am so glad to have found a man who understands how to give and he receives as well.
2007-02-03 17:41:42 · answer #4 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely .... if you want the relationship to work, assuming that it is not a Dom/sub relationship, both partners have to have equal input into the major decisions about money and life style.
If not then the relationship will wither and end with one or both hating the other.
The days of the Man being the decision maker and the woman being the agreeable stay at home mom and homemaker ended in the 1950's.
2007-01-27 16:05:31 · answer #5 · answered by terrya1750 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I believe there should be an equal partnership; however, most of the time, just because of the type of people we are, one or the other will be the 'dominator'. If you keep talking, though, the domination might be different in different parts of your life, and you are both comfortable with that.
2007-01-27 16:08:50 · answer #6 · answered by avechm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compromise is a huge component in any healthy marriage.. when talking about things that are to be agreed upon, no one should be a dictator, u put up ur argument or debate, and if u cant get the other to see your point of view, then u need to compromise so that both get something out of the agreement.. granted there are times that perhaps if its not a huge deal, u'll give in to the others demand or oppinion, which in turn should come back to u when u feel strongly about something and want your way..
Marriage is alot of give and take, sacrafice, and compromise.. when it comes to decisions and choices ..
2007-01-27 16:04:00 · answer #7 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To each his own, I personally think that marriage is a partnership. Some things can be done or decided equally & sometimes one or the other needs to make a decision. But it should all be shared & discussed.
2007-02-03 14:59:29 · answer #8 · answered by Sandi Beach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a whole or just in areas? As a whole both need to feel equal and be respected as such; otherwise you end up with a "parent-child relationship" and that rarely lasts forever. Realistically I think one is usually more dominate in some way.
2007-01-27 16:03:24 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that it's a good idea to focus on equal or unequal. A good relationship has balance - both are out front on some things. The main issue should be, do you each have the welfare of the other in mind at all times.
2007-01-27 16:00:31 · answer #10 · answered by Terri J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋