People are so grossed out by the subject and exile those who self-harm. Friends/family will often desert people when they find out those people self-harm. A person who self-harms does it for a mirad of different reasons, but in some manner or another all self-harmers are suffering. So rather than exile them or treat them with disgust and rudness, love them, support them, and accept them. Also if they want help give it, ans stick by them. If you notice a problem talk to them and offer help but if your turned don't keep offering, drop the issue, let them be the one to bring it back up. If a person chooses to self harm it is their body and their decision, do not discriminate against or hate them for it.
2007-01-27 15:33:55 · 8 answers · asked by University Girl 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
If you don't know the answer to that, you need therapy. Immediately.
2007-01-27 16:12:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is very hard for the loved ones of these people to accept what the self harmer is doing to themselves. As a mother of one I find it very frustrating. I often blame myself and wonder what I did wrong.
Often times this is why it is so difficult for them to understand. I know that I didn't actually cause my child's choice of release nor is there any thing that I can do to change it.
but it hurts deeply to look at all the scars. And wonder how many more there will be tomorrow. You can't say you love some one and not want them to stop hurting themselves.
It's like watching your child play in the road and not screaming when you see the truck coming.
I am always afraid of the day the cut is to deep or in the wrong place. So see Hun it not disgust.
2007-02-04 21:02:59 · answer #2 · answered by angie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is right that there is several ways to self harm. I isolate myself. When I'm feeling out of control, I go looking for victims to join my misery. Moving past this negativity means really taking a look at why one may feel their life sucks so bad that it is necessary to outwardly hurt in order to inwardly feel. Bleeding can be a release. Blood is life and bleeding can be a reminder of that. And when feeling numb and dead inside, physical pain can act as a connection to reality. And sometimes it takes a lot more than love and understanding to help someone who self harms. It can take a lot of patience as well. People diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) self harm and it can be hard to reach them. There is a certain level of frustration, becuase a BPD lives in denial of things being wrong, but are still behaving negatively. I know. I was diagnosed with it. After some soul searching and decent therapy, plus a really good book, I learned that the only way to move forward was to actually move forward. Turns out I'm really a Highly Sensitive Person. Means that I'm overwhelmed by stimulae all the time. Been learning to live with it and now, because I'm not afraid all the time, I am actually working now. First time in over ten years. It takes dwelling on the positive things rather than the negative to keep me remembering that I am strong and I don't have to hurt myself to know I am alive. ( The good book that helped me was called, 'The Highly Sensitive Person How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You', by, Elaine N. Aron, Ph.D. She actually has it too. And even with my ADD, I was able to finish the book. So for everyone out there who self harms or for those that love them, hang in there. I know it is tough, but caring enough to be there can actually do more good than harm.
2007-02-04 14:13:42 · answer #3 · answered by taowiccan1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, people try to help some who is a cutter, and that person keeps hurting themselves. After a while, you feel that you cant help anymore. It is time for the proper professionals. Tough love also is when you walk away from someone you love. Hoping they will hit the bottom, before they can see the light. You can't follow someone around making sure they are ok. Thye have to want to help them self too.
2007-02-04 17:15:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to self harm.
i did it from yr7
n yr 9+10
in yr 10 some of my friends had found out but ignored it. some of my friends had done it as well. My g.f self harms.
there was a girl who got told and she got grossed out. and didn't talk to me for a week or two.
but then one day she sent me a text saying she wants me to meet her in town in a park. so i went n we talked about it.
in the end she made me promise i want do it again n went to a shop where she got me a bracket. I still wear the bracelet and talk to her. she even helped ma g.f
if u ever find Ur self, self Harming then try and find somebody who`ll do the same.
if you know somebody self harming the worst thing you can do is reject them. They need support. but they may need to time to grow comfortable to talk. I did A Peer Mentoring course at school and it taught me how to cope with peoples problems and solve them. they are a descent course and if u get chance take it.
2007-02-03 17:51:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With some people it frightens them, because they know the person is hurting on the inside and they don't know how to deal with it.
2007-01-27 23:41:51 · answer #6 · answered by some_guy_times_50 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree!
2007-01-27 23:37:47 · answer #7 · answered by i luv teh fishes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love yourself, why do you expect others to?
2007-01-27 23:43:32 · answer #8 · answered by Kalia 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋