I have never had an orgasm...?

Question

I'm a 20 year old female who has been sexually active for about the last two years. I have had sex with 4 people and have never had an orgasm. I am able to climax during masturbation, but during vaginal intercourse it just doesnt happen. Now i'm in a situation where I have been faking it with my boyfriend because I dont want him to think he's not pleasing me, but I want to tell him that if just isn't working. What do I need to do to have an orgasm during sex?

Answer 1

I got a new buddy!!! its great!! i noticed that never before had i had a guy play with my clit, and actually want to please me.. I know it can be uncomfrontable but you should tell your boyfriend what feels good and how to turn you on the most..have fun but please BE SAFE!!

Answer 2

Hey sweetie. I am a 29year-old female and I am here to tell you that MOST women don't climax during vaginal penetration, especially youger women.There is nothing wrong with you or your boyfriend except for the fact that you can't openly communicate with him about what you need.About 90% of women 18-24 can only climax from clitoral stimulation so the best thing to do is to incorporate your clitoris into every sex act-if you want to orgasm. You can still have pleasurable, satisfying sex without an orgasm. First off you should tell him how your body works.It's not a reflection of his bad love-making skills, it's simply the way YOUR body responds to stimuli.Have him (gently)rub your clitoris during intercourse and also lick/suck your nipples at the same time. It works every time for me. Good luck and don't be afraid to speak up and try new stuff. Good times

Answer 3

My girlfriend from the beginning told me that she couldn't get orgasms, but could get them during oral or when she masturbates. Slowly I figured out how she wanted it and she started getting orgasms. It took a little while, but as long as you can talk to him and tell him what you like it should be fine. But there are some women that can never have orgasms through sex, so don't always point the finger at the guy.

Answer 4

You're putting too much preasure on it. Just relax and enjoy the feelings that course through you. It might help to ask him to slow down a bit since it definately takes females longer to orgasm than the average male.

There are also excerises you can do to figure out what your body will respond to. While masturbating find out exactly what you like since different people like different things when it comes to clitorus play and vaginal play. Find out what does it for you that drives you over that edge. Stop in the middle of masturbating and understand where your body is at. Try picturing your boyfriend while masturbating and, just as much, try picturing masturbating with your boyfriend. If the visualizations don't help, try touching yourself during sex. Most men will find this hot. It's perfectly natural. Inevitably you should try teaching him what you like and how to reach your peak.

If you don't want to hurt his feelings, you might want to simply suggest "something different."

There are plenty of sights you can check out about helping you achieve orgasm and to help you better understand what happens when you do. I suggest you check some of them out.


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Answer 5

You may never achieve orgasm with vaginal sex. I heard a statistic once that 50% of woman do not have orgasm from vaginal sex. It likely isnt your bf's fault but being a guy myself i know i would want to know what you enjoy. Try a more prolonged Oral sex (guy going down on you) or all else fails show him how you masturbate so he can do that for you... many ways to enjoy sex with another than vaginal sex.. so figure it out and enjoy

Answer 6

orgasm is much harder for females for many reasons.
basically it is easier during masterbation because you have full control, you can go faster or slower and etc..
intercourse is based on actions of both (or all) partners in the process and the frequency of motions are different.

-try more rubbing, especially on the hotspots or/and genital areas.
-don't get it on hungry
-search for different ways to do it, there are some positions that stimulate orgasms
-maybe use toys? just a suggestion
-ask him to do it at different speeds until you think you've found the perfect one
-pills maybe? just a suggestion

good luck

Answer 7

I don't think you feel relaxed to the fullest. I think you should tell your boyfriend the truth and tell him to try a little 4 play. Try to tease him a little so he could want you even more. Allow him to touch you in certain places so you could get wet. And if he's not doing it right. Just help him out a little by telling him what to do. Try different positions and different speeds. Tell him if you want it faster or slower. Try to make it to your liking. Also try sex games and lubricants if anything. Sex should be fun and pleasing so try to make it that way.

Answer 8

Only you know what makes you reach orgasm, be honest with him, tell him what you need to make it work for you. If he is truly interested in meeting your needs just as he is his then he will be glad you are honest. After all it's not a failure on either of your parts unless you do not adjust to what works for both of you.

Whatever you do faking it will eventually get you into trouble.

Answer 9

Not having an orgasm can come from the fact that you are not in love with the person, and you just are not connected , and it can also be a medical problem, so think about talking about it to your doctor about this, you'd be suprised at the women who have never had a orgasm with thier mates and fake it but they can woth masterbation. go figure huh?

Answer 10

You need to tell him to play with you after sex. Its normal not to get an orgasm from vaginal intercourse, but you have to tell your bf what to do.

Answer 11

You're unlikely to get an orgasm without direct stimulation (his finger, your finger, his tongue, whatever) Unless you want to live with a lie, just tell him what you need. Just don't tell him while you're having sex. You can give him sexual cues by saying "yes, more of that", "I love it when you do " and moaning whenever he does something you like. You deserve to come, don't settle for less.

Sonora know, Sonora been there, done that.