im 15 year old guy and i am really gay, i cant stop thinking about guys, but i dont want to. i want to be straight, i always wanted to get married to a beautiful woman and start a family. i just cant help these gay urges though, i want to stop them. please tell me how i can improve to become straight, is there a way i can turn straight?
2007-01-27 15:26:45 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
It's OK. I mean you can think of guys. You will turn straight after having sex with a woman. Make sure you use a condom !!!
2007-01-27 15:33:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
You can try to ignore it. If you do not like the gay lifestyle and the constant difficulties gay people must deal with, try to stay straight. You may be able to find much comfort and love with the weaker sex. But if really depends as to the degree of your gayness. Some are much more that way than others. And the majority are born that way, not made or adopted later in life. If you truly can't go against the tide, you may have to swim in the direction your body wants to go. If it ever actually becomes painful emotionally, accept it, move on, be who you must be. Some can let go of it. But I wouldn't sacrifice my peace of mind and personal happiness if you really felt unnatural pursuing against your natural impulses. You must be who you must be. There is a point where it becomes insanity to live a lie and torture yourself every day. We must all understand and tolerate our differences. Being gay is a big challenge. But many have found a way to live with it effectively and still fit in with society. People are getting to be more understanding as time goes on. It's rather awful that we feel we have to run away from ourselves for the sake of others. It's valiant to want to try to not follow that path, but see how it goes and keep looking for the answers that will suit you so you can have a good life whatever way you choose!
2007-01-27 23:41:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot cure homosexuality just like you cannot cure heterosexuality.
There is nothing to cure your are who and how you were born.
The realization of homosexuality is a brutal and much fought realization. No matter how much we have been raised (and falsely raised) to believe that homosexuality is wrong and a choice we all know that it is not.
I was much like you and wanted to be married to a beautiful woman, in love and happy with a home and children, all I ever wanted to be was a heterosexual man .............which I could not make myself be nor could I "choose it".
I tried I married had two kids and never for one minute was able to be straight, I was always gay, God made me gay, that was who I was. Once I realized that my whole life was based on a lie and that God didn't want me to live a lie but to live truth open and honest that is when I finally accepted myself and loved God for making me.
Trying to be straight just created more lies, broke more hearts , kept me isolated and alone, destroyed many peoples dreams, trying to be what I thought others would want me to be.
As you grow and mature the struggle will get less and less for you. Good luck young man and I truly understand your pain and fears.........Been there done that!
2007-01-28 08:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by Crampy Grampy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i always believed being gay was not a choice ,you where born .
if you gay how can you want to marry a beautiful woman and start a family ,being gay does not mean you cannot start a family,many kids need loving homes .
i think you been branded to think ,that's what you wish,someone is doing the dreaming for you .
you still young ,but you are gay .
2007-01-27 23:36:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At your age, a lot of boys have these feelings for other guys. It may just be a phase you are going through.
If you really are gay, then there is nothing you can do to change it. It can't be cured. Your sexual orientation was decided in the womb. It's nothing to be ashamed of.
You can still get married (at least you can here in England) and even adopt children as a gay couple.
I feel for you as no one chooses to be gay. You will just have to accept that. Good luck.
2007-01-28 05:32:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Being gay isn't a problem at all. Hell I'm bisexual and I'm fine. But you have to notice that you'd be happier gay and meeting someone in the gender category you like instead of meeting a girl and not even liking her because you're gay.
There isn't a way you can change this. It's a thing you're born with, not a choice. Like I said there's nothing wrong with it, and you can still live a happy lifestyle.
2007-01-27 23:35:20 · answer #6 · answered by Joey 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Despite the PC propaganda to the contrary, many adolescents have homosexual interests without it meaning a lifetime of homosexuality. Find a therapist who does not have an agenda and is willing to see your fantasies as just that—you clearly have heterosexual fantasies as well, and I think, in your case, it may be a choice rather than something carved in stone,
2007-01-27 23:35:25 · answer #7 · answered by DrB 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There is an online course that you can take at the following link. The way of Purity is the name of the course. They will give you a one on one mentor which is very encouraging.
http://www.settingcaptivesfree.com
2007-01-27 23:38:02 · answer #8 · answered by Freedom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are fine just the way you are. There is no way to just turn yourself straight. You like boys, and that is ok. As far as the user who reccomended seeing a therapist, I can tell you that any therapist who offers that kind of service is a quack. A therapist who does that would loose their license, no questions asked. I know that it is hard to love yourself for who you are, but you will learn, and be very happy.
2007-01-28 00:25:58 · answer #9 · answered by Zach S 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
your still too young to determine your sexuality. Many teens have gay urges and turn out to be straight.
2007-01-27 23:56:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋