My mom and dad divorced when i was 6 months old and i live in Grand Rapids MN and he lives in Duluth MN so like 2 hours away but he never makes attempts to call me and the only time he called me to see him is when he wanted me to come up to tell me he was getting married and i had just met the women when i went up and saw him and i feel like he doesnt want me or he doesnt love me and he always disappoints me hell say hell came see me but then calls 4 hours later and says he cant and makes up a reason why he cant come and i cry alot because i feel like he doesnt love me or want me.....does He?????
2007-01-27 15:12:50 · 10 answers · asked by chauntel c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He probably doesnt. He probably thinks it is all your fault.
2007-01-28 04:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by Kwijibo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, i cant say for sure if he does or if he doesnt only he knows if he does or doesnt, all i can say is some men just dont know how to be good dads.., its like they are missing something inside of themselves and they just dont know how to do it.. then when they start off as an absent parent its really hard for some men to get into the swing of it.. theres guilt for not stepping up to the plate like they should have, and the longer they are away from their child, the easier it is for them to become distant emotionally from their child.. and i dont think it has anything to do with loving u or not loving u, im sure he does, even if he has a horrible way of showing it.. i think he just doesnt know u very well, and thats his own fault and he knows it..and because he doesnt know u very well, he has a hard time showing his true feelings..
Sweetie remember never to dwell in what u dont have.. dwell in what u do have, all of those that have been there for u , and loved u every day, and showed it.. maybe one day ur father will find away to fix this seperation between the two of u , emotionally, but remember thats his job to do..not urs..and if he doesnt, then he's missing out on alot of love, and really great things, and thats his loss..
Never let anyone bring u down, especially over things that u cant control but they can..
Good luck, and dont worry.. u'll be just fine either way...
2007-01-27 23:58:13 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question brought tears to my eyes and I am so happy I am looking at this so I can answer. My parents are divorced as well. I am sure your father loves you. There may be an outside influence that causes him to back out of a planned visit or meeting. Unfortunately he may feel distant if he has not BEEN seeing you throughout the years. When you talk to him on the phone it may be good to have a friend nearby for support. You may want to go to a school counselor or outside counseling to ask for advice. Many places are free. (I am not sure how old you are now. You only mention how old you were at the time of your parents divorce.) some counselors charge a small fee. Call one or two(ONLY if you are old enough to do this alone) I have a similar situation with my niece. My father and brother are not talking for an unknown reason. My neice thinks that she does not go to visit because she is 4 and no longer needs to be watched. That is not the case of course. Before too many years go by...plan a visit to your father with his permission and someone to bring you there, other than your mother. Only do this with a responsible adult. I advice against making a sneaky trip with some other friends. That may backfire and cause your father to get angry. My best advice is talk to other family members and/or counselors. I will pray for you and hope this works out.
2007-01-28 05:36:36 · answer #3 · answered by maverickisback2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one... Truthfully i don't think its that he doesnt love you or want you. It may be that he thinks that if you see him you will reject him because of all the times he wasnt there in the past. You need to tell him exactly how you feel. Everything you just said you need to say to him. He is the only person you can get a straight answer from.
2007-01-27 23:31:01 · answer #4 · answered by Reems 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
many people do not have the love or involvement of 2 parents. i know that in your case, your father lives close by,and still doesnt show much interest in having a relationship with you. unfortunately, he seems to have divorced you when he divorced your mom. most of us who care about others cant imagine why someone would do this to someone they are supposed to love.the reasons for this are many, varied, and usually not understood. you may never know. in reality, he probably does love you, he just doesnt give much of himself.he would love you more if he took the time to get to know you better. you must decide that you will be happy and feel good about yourself with or without his love. many of us understand that it hurts, but you will find good things in life that help make up for the short-comings of others. best wishes
2007-01-27 23:38:42 · answer #5 · answered by DEBI M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's been gone since you were 6-months old. Get out of fairy tail mode. You don't nor did you ever have a Dad. A dad is is part of a family and is in their day in and day out. WHo knows why he isn't, may be his fault or your mom's. He's the emotional equilavant of an Uncle. This crap don't matter what matters is making sure you bust you butt to be better then you silly parents. Grow up concentrate on your future family and quit the fairy tail crying for your Daddy story. Thats a wste of time. I never had a dad look at my tag "made it" and that wasn't by worring about who loved me.
2007-01-27 23:20:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes he does love you! This is not about you actually. What is going on between your mom and him? Are they friends or not? Make an attempt to see him and call him regularly and for the love of God...Tell him how you feel!! This will help!
2007-01-27 23:46:34 · answer #7 · answered by tanja3703 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Whatever age I think you should seek counseling because whether your dad loves you is not the point because knowing if he does or doesn't it will not change the past or who he is .The only thing you can control is yourself and whether you will continue to hurt and give this person so much power over you.
2007-01-27 23:48:01 · answer #8 · answered by Ranger189 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love goes by association and not being related by blood.
2007-01-28 00:12:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and have a descent conversation with him sometimes i feel like that and my daddy live with me erry day
2007-01-27 23:20:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋