Ok, my friend overheard some guys talking in her auto class (she takes automobile course) that they were going to "rape" some girl. They were all joking and laughing about it...or so it seems. They would say this whenever the teacher instructor is out of earshot. In her class, there were only 5 girls and 13 guys. Furthermore, my friend said that the guys all talk in their own language (arabic) so that others wouldn't understand...but my friend is not so fluent in arabic and only can understand a few words (she's of persian heritage). She and I are worried about the safety of the girls at that class, and the whole school. We aren't sure if they were just joking and kidding around or being serious. We're only in highschool (Gr. 11) and we don't want to make a BIG deal out of it if it turned out to be a joke only (Plus, we're afraid of telling on them as they may come after us). Should we tell someone? If so, who? Would you think that our covers won't be blown to them?
2007-01-27 15:12:47 · 23 answers · asked by Hotel♥Heiress 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
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2007-01-27 15:14:08 · update #1
call the police and let them profile them,..follow them and harass them so they will be good boys and bring an apple to class.
2007-01-27 15:16:57 · answer #1 · answered by iroc 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think that if you want to try and have a relationship with him and try to work it out than that's fine. But don't get married any time soon. You can just have a long engagement. See how he act during the rest of your pregnancy and when the baby comes home. If he ran out on you just knowing your pregnant, I'm sure his true colors will show when the baby arrives. I'd still say you wait at least 2 years to get married. You need to work on trusting him, and having a relationship with him. And remember when you decide to forgive someone, you can't keep bringing old stuff up. I think it's best to tell him exactly how you feel, what your fears and concerns are, talk about them and see if you can move on. Communication is key in any relationship so you should be able to tell him exactly how you feel. Good luck!
2016-05-24 07:36:58 · answer #2 · answered by Aimee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should definitely talk to someone about this...even if it is a joke, do you really want to risk it?
Talk to a guidance counselor and tell them that you want this to be anonymous...you will probably be better telling them this so that they can go talk to higher authorities if need be, and they are great at staying calm, being supportive, and approaching the situation in the best manner (rather than freaking out, like some people may do).
If you don't want it to sound like your being paranoid, tell (or have your friend tell) the counselor that these conversations make you/her unsafe and uncomfortable. The counselor should understand since these types of situations are what they are trained to handle. So even if it was just a joke, you can get help and tell someone without feeling bad or stupid.
Also, to make yourself feel safe stress the point that you want this to be ANONYMOUS...the school will comply in most situations.
2007-01-27 15:21:49 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to your parents. Maybe they will want to approach and talk to your principal or some other school official. You will most likely have to tell what you have heard, but it's important you do.
Just be honest and say that you're not sure if they are serious or not or even if you might have taken it out of context, but you are concerned that it "might" be a potential threat. You might feel silly or scared for telling, but just these guys may need a talking to or be watched more closely. You would not want the guilt of someone getting raped on your conscious, because you didn't say anything.
If you know something, its your responsiblity to report it to the proper people.
2007-01-27 15:19:29 · answer #4 · answered by Kurius_Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok listen have helped 3 girls threw this and i am only in 6th grade you need to tell some one a ADULT i find that if you do things will get better also they SHOULD NOT joke about stuff like that because one minute it could be a joke the next reality. i know you dont want to the girl who cried wolf but in this case you have too its the only way to be sure they will be ok the whole school will thank you
.s what ever you do tell the boys you may no mtheir secret. also advice your friend to do the same I HOPE YOU MAKE THE DESCION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! GOODLUCK
2007-01-27 15:20:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hopefully know of some law enforcement officer who you or one of your friends can talk to. I'd highly suggest you go to that cop and tell them the entire situation. Inform them your not fluent and may be making a mistake.
The cop should then go to the guys in question and just tell them he/she heard a rumor and just wanted to make sure it wasn't true.
This will hopefully head off any situation from occurring.
If you know a girl who was raped, you need to tell the cop for sure.
With all the odorless/colorless rape drugs out there, you need to head this off as soon as possible.
2007-01-27 15:19:55 · answer #6 · answered by Copper Jan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should bring a mini-recorder to class and record what they are saying and have someone that is fluent in arabic translate. If they are talking about raping someone, make a copy of the tape and give it to a guidance counselor along w/ a transcript of the translation.
2007-01-27 15:18:20 · answer #7 · answered by absynthian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any time your threatened, you need to take extrema care. some cultures think of women as low and subservient to men
no safe way to inform, yet you must.
in high schools these days, not telling can get you injured, or even killed.
who to tell......
OK, I'd say school officials, and the police.
How ???
get a temporary yahoo or hotmail login, and send emails..
be sure to include a keyword, only you know, use it when you need to validate your input.
do not send the email from home or friends or PDA or phones
hope this helps, be careful and stay safe
2007-01-27 15:22:59 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have they only talked about it the one time, if they talk about it every time she in the class, she could carry a concealed tape recorder and then translate what they are saying and then go from their, or call the police from a pay phone tell them what was heard and ask if they could put someone in undercover to find out.... or do the tape and translate it and send it to the police with a note as to why you don't want to be known...but if you feel like its serious, tell someone and soon
2007-01-27 15:22:28 · answer #9 · answered by purpleaura1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell the principal, for the sake of the girl wo they might rape(if they're not joking about it.)
Rape isn't something to be joked about. it's definetely meant to be taken seriously and immediately reported.
Good Luck!
2007-01-27 15:17:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can go and tell a guidance counselor at school what was heard. If you request it be kept anonymous, it will. They won't ever know who told. Please do it, better safe than sorry, and it will get the burden off your shoulders and onto professionals who know how to deal with these situations.
2007-01-27 15:17:38 · answer #11 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋