Wife asked me to move out after 6 years of marriage. Been moved out for 7 months, got two kids(ages 4 and 1 ). I am a man of God and don't beleave in divorce even though i know there was another man. I love my wife and kids very much and i meant every vowl i took before God. She does not go to church now, however she did when we married,and before i could go back she would have to be back in church. She says she does not love me and our marriage was a mistake. Should I continue to wait or give her a divorce? Any advise on why she was so content and happy with marriage, then just changed?
2007-01-27 14:45:38 · 22 answers · asked by cueteclady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have you talked to your pastor about this ? You also need to go to counseling for this and for help... Talk with your wife and see if she is open to marrital counseling at all. Just to let you know the Bible does say that if the unbelieving spouse wants out to let them depart and a brother or sister is not under bondage in such cases.... You need to talk with her and ask he why the change.... She may very well have had an affair. Talk with the pastor of your church and see what kind of guidance and advice they can give and help you with... I will be praying for you and your marriage. I pray that God will restore you and your marriage and what has been lost.
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2007-01-27 15:09:55 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not sure what sparked the change. It has been 7 months does it look like there is going to be a change, has anything changed yet?Is that other man still in the picture? If nothing has progressed then you need to move on, it will be better for you and the kids in the long run, just don't ever give up on the children or let them think it was there fault in any way. Also I hate to even bring it up but is the youngest one yours? Being a woman of the church I am surprised she is giving up this easy. Wish u luck.
2007-01-27 15:01:06 · answer #2 · answered by tinydancer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that she just doesn't love you any more, as you say you are a man of God, but sometimes God let things happen for a reason...to learn something and even to gain something..even from divorce you can learn something, see it this way..Who guarantees you that your wife was the woman that God wanted you to marry?...you already waited for 7 months now and she still hasn't changed her mind, you should give her the divorce and move on, keep being a good dad, and a good person, and just let her go. Good Luck and God Bless!
2007-01-27 15:09:37 · answer #3 · answered by fun 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whether or not you believe in divorce, that's the law, and thus thatis the reality, and when faith runs headlong into reality, reality wins everytime.
She may have settled in the relationship from the way you describe things, and when you do that, you lose yourself: it's one unending compromise after another until there is no YOU in the relationship anymore; you suffocate.
It takes a lot more that faith and religion to make a relationship healthy, and now you have time to find out what else it takes. Think of it as God telling you to ponder these truths.
2007-01-27 14:53:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well you already answered your own question, you know she is seeing another man this is why she changed. I understand your beliefs, but go ahead and give her the divorce, you already know what it says in the Bible about grounds for divorce. Why do you want to keep being bounced back and forth while she is in between men ? I would give her a divorce and file for joint custody. Or you could continue to pray on it and ask God for favor.
2007-01-27 19:17:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you both are going through these struggles. First of all I would suggest a couple things, first, quit focusing on her behavior. Look at your own, what is your side in all of this? Secondly, as a Christian, you should be in deep prayer for guidance and enlightenment from God. Reach out to your support team and ask for prayer. Lastly, seek counseling, find a good Christian counselor, it may be necessary to meet individually and then later jointly, to resolve personal issues, and then marital issues. Remember, no one is able to be a good spouse, parent, friend, until they are right with God, and right with themselves. As for why she was??? I don't know, she may not even know right now, but the fact that she has committed adultery is a good sign, that the problem begins within her. Self esteem? Past abuse? I don't know, but she needs to get herself straightened out before proceeding with any divorce or separation filings. God Bless, look up always and you will find the answers!
2007-01-27 15:02:41 · answer #6 · answered by cunhvn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe that God wants us to be happy. I took the marriage vows as seriously as you did and I was crushed when I had to get a divorce from my husband. I understand your pain. Your faith and time will heal your pain. I have been divorced for 3 years and I am doing better than I ever could have imagined. This can happen to you too. You can't hold on to something you don't have. Let it go and have Faith. Good Luck and God Bless
2007-01-27 14:58:36 · answer #7 · answered by kellyfl59 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a divorce..what are you waiting for? She said she doesnt love you and your marriage was a mistake? Get out now and hopefully you can let go and find someone who does not think this is a mistake? I guess you feel as crappy inside as I do and it hurts like nothing in the world could have hurt but that is life get over it.
2007-01-27 14:52:07 · answer #8 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God is a fantasy created by men to explain what they do not yet understand. In your case, you should expect no help whatsoever from "God" and use the brain that evolution gave you to look at your situation realistically. She left because she doesn't want the kids brainwashed with all of your God-nazi stuff.
2007-01-27 15:09:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you re not deal with just her you re deal with her boyfriend he tell her how unhappy she was and how you dont love her like he do just to make himself look better i know how you feel i had three kids after three years i give up and Divorce her you are luck 6 years i had 13 years but thing do get better after four year i getting marry again to a must young wife and i got the two boy with me so life is good again good luck remember one side rellationship dont work
2007-01-27 22:54:50 · answer #10 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋