Children getting abducted through myspace/online?

Question

We are hearing that girls are going out and meeting men that they met on myspace/online and getting abducted. Now the parents are trying to blame mypace and the internet for it. Don't you think its the parents fault for not keeping track of what their kids are doing online. I understand that they are trying to give their kids more freedom but at what cost. I don't care how of the kid is 14, 15, 16, 17 they still need to monitor their computers. What do you think about this?

Answer 1

REMEMBER IS MUCH EASIER TO BLAME SOME ONE OR SOMETHING RATHER THAN TO SIT AND THINK WHAT DID THEY DO WRONG FOR SOMETHING LIKE THIS HAPPEND.

AS FOR MYSPACE.COM OR THE INTERNET BE BLAMED, AM SORRY BUT IF THEY (PARENTS) TAKE THE TIME TO LOOK AT WHAT THEIR KIDS ARE DOING IN THE NET THEN THINGS LIKE THIS WOULD NOT HAPPEND.

PLUS, KIDS TODAY TAKE A LOT OF RISK BY MEETING PEOPLE FROM THE NET AND OF COURSE THEY THINK THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH IT UNTILL SOMETHING BAD HAPPENDS.

I AGREE WITH YOU 200% THAT PARENTS SHOULD MONITOR THEIR CHILDREN WHEN THEY ARE IN THE NET. I DONT CARE HOW OLD THEY ARE.

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Answer 2

I agree and disagree. While I do think that the parents should watch their kids, I don't think it should be on the computer. I talk to my friends differently than I would ever talk to my mom and dad. A better solution is for parents to teach their kids how evil people can be. The parent should let the kid know that they need to be careful about who they personally meet, and also the parent should know where the kid is going. Abductions happen because the kid left and the parents have no idea where the kid went cause they didn't ask. Otherwise, abductions would be fast. "My kid went to see ______ at _______, so lets go check there." Kid found, or parents know who they were going to meet, and can track em.

Answer 3

As someone who is 15 I think that it's the parent's responibility to raise their kids to know better but that doesn't mean that their children shouldn't be allowed privacy. When a child goes to meet a man they met on the internet there must be something happening at home that is making them do this. Work on making a good relationship with your children and you won't have to worry about that.

Answer 4

Yes, parents need to make their tech-savvy kids aware of online (AND offline!) predators, which is pretty standard cautionary stuff nowadays (or should be!). Even schools teach it. And it DOES need to be reinforced with kids, who have shorter attention spans, just as drug and alcohol and pregnancy prevention need to be repeated periodically. (Have you noticed that many ADULTS have been minimizing the seriousness of HIV and AIDS for a while now? NOT GOOD!).

That being said, kids need to be taught how to care for themselves, both while living at home and when they go off, either to college or live on their own. My father, who had far fewer threats to worry about when I grew up, made sure I knew about ALL the horrible things that could happen AND taught me self-defense (which came in handy several times, I can tell you!).

Still, you DO need to monitor kids' computer use, but do it effectively. 1) Learn what threats are out there, esp. new ones that haven't made the news yet (subscribe to a webzine like PC World, that will give you breaking news about scams, worms and other threats online).

Then, TELL (don't ask!) your kid that you are going to sit down w/them and go over their MySpace profile. The first time I did this w/my son a couple yrs. ago, I was SHOCKED to see he'd included his real name, address and even the school he attends! We deleted a lot of things, but he still gets to use it, knows not to let anyone into his space unless he knows them and not to click on any links, even from friends (viruses/worms are the risk there).

Don't hover over your kid, but DO check periodically, to make sure that, as they grow, they've not added potentially dangerous contacts or content. I'm about to do this w/my 16 y.o. son. I know he'll be annoyed, but I just tell him it's for his safety and is NOT negotiable.

After that, figure out what level of trust and communication you have with your kid. If it's not good, you might consider putting the computer in a "common" area (like the living room) and use software that monitors Internet usage (since the History can be deleted on each account, esp. w/Windows XP and beyond). You can see what sites they've visited and if YOU are good w/computers, even harvest stuff that's been deleted. But that's a pain.

It really IS better, though, to develop good communication w/your kid, letting them know they won't be severely punished if they screw up. They have all these tech skills yet still lack the judgment to make lots of important decisions, even about their own safety!

Good luck to you...we're all in the same boat, I think!

Answer 5

The parents should always monitor any online activities. It is better to be safe than sorry. My step sisters were always online talking to people, I told their mother that she should see what they are doing online and who they are talking too. She told me they were just talking to their friends and that "my girls would never do that". Well I decided to check myself while there mom was gone on business and they were online talking to college boys, they were 13 and 14. I had the internet turned off, then told their mom why later. There are too many crazy people out there to not know what your kid is always doing

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Answer 7

I do monitor my daughter's MySpace. I allow her to have fun with it among her friends, but that is all. I know her password and can check it out anytime I wish, but generally I try to give her some privacy. She is very open with me and we communicate well. I think parents should be aware of everything going on in their child's life. I know that some of my daughter's friends think I shelter her too much, but I don't think so. It's better to be safe than sorry.

Answer 8

Parents are responsible for anything there kids under 18 do, 100%. Anybody that tries to blame anybody or anything else is a bad parent.

Answer 9

Yes, It is a parents responsibility to know what there child is doing.