2007-01-27 14:22:34 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What did I do wrong and now she is carring his child I cant have kids and he knows that what should I go back and will he do it again ?
2007-01-27 14:25:32 · update #1
No way. Its not your fault .Now go out and get laid it,ll make you feel better .
P.S. Use protection
2007-01-31 14:32:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not people seek out everything based on their own personal motivation initially. Most but not all when in a union learn to compromise, become selfless and put others above themselves particulary their children.
When people cheat it has absolutely nothing to do with their partner nor is it an indication that the individual does not love you, what it does reflect is very poor character in himself and a lack of respect and consideration for you. He had desire to experience something new and used his hormones to think for him.
Is it your fault????..NO. Don't ever think that. He's just not the man for you, simple. It's been three years..not a lifetime. You can put this behind you and move on with someone who really values you. You've given your all I'm sure to this man for three years and in a moment he's decided his relationship so worthless he can risk it by having an intimate moment with a stranger he knows nothing about. He doesn't know this person's sexual history, values or intention.
He doesn't value himself it seems. There are sexually transmitted diseases that can be caught even with wearing protection..Herpes and HPV. Be smart and safe..leave NOW!
2007-01-27 14:34:11 · answer #2 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, It is his reflection telling you to be happy that it happened now as opposed to later. The only thing worse than being in a bad situation is being in that situation any day longer than you have to be.
Let him go and you go on in your life. You have done nothing wrong, let him linger with the thought of what he lost over a sex fling with someone who sleeps with another woman's man.
You see people do not think things through and when they do, they realize that that person is really not a good person and wha they had was precious.
Too bad because everything he has should be in the box to the left!
So going three years and a day and still counting is a bad reflection on you if you continue to allow this disrespect! He even took a chance on your life by having unprotected sex with that tramp!
Read the poem girl:
"Now That’s Love"
I know what love is like:
Truly loving someone is giving them the freedom to love you or not
Truly loving yourself is choosing to be someone who uses that freedom to love you
Yea, now that’s love
June 19, 2006 by Arene
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2007-02-04 06:00:36 · answer #3 · answered by Arene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't reflect on you. Often times, men need to feel attractive or wanted by someone else. I know it sounds stupid, but that's what I've understood from friends. I don't agree with cheating, it's definitely wrong. I suggest you leave him, and go get tested for diseases--not trying to scare you.
If a man isn't happy with you, he's not happy with himself. He definitely will not be happy with the next person that catches his fancy.
This isn't the end of the world--I know it feels like it is though, but it isn't. You'll make it! This wasn't your fault at all!
2007-01-27 16:01:26 · answer #4 · answered by vid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant believe you would think its your fault. He's the one who cant keep his pants zipped. Hes the one with the honesty and integrity problem. Why would that be your fault? If he was any sort of man, and he was thinking of looking elsewhere for another woman, then he would have been honest and told you up front that he wanted to see other women. Because he did not do that, HE is a dishonest, cheating jerk off- and you should RUN in the other direction. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Seriously.
2007-01-27 14:28:39 · answer #5 · answered by Penny P 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your fault? sweetie, dont let him do that to you.
if he wasn't happy in the marriage he should have been a man and gone to you and said he wanted out, left your home, and after the divorce stared screwing around.
to have an affair is the coward's way!
let him go! help him pack! and go for some counselling and start the healing process! he has shown you that he has no respect for you or for your marriage. why would you go back to that?
you don't need him, and she deserves him. let her spend the rest of their marriage wondering if he is going to cheat on her.
as for the not being able to have children thing......there are a lot of men out there who won't care, and the right man will love you for who you are - with or without kids!
take good care
s.b.
2007-02-02 06:42:11 · answer #6 · answered by tess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a good question. No, you are not responsible for his actions. He took the vows the same as you. If he's unhappy, then he should get a separation or divorce. On the other hand, sometimes you just can't blame a person for wanting some affection both physical and emotional if he's not getting it at home, but then that goes back to if he's unhappy, end the marriage.
2007-02-04 10:54:30 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man says he cheats for different reasons. He can say that it's the lack of attention he is receiving or whatever. Hon, I have been where you are.....1) IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT 2) the trust has been broken 3) another woman is having his child... I hate to say this, but you need to move on. He will have a connection to this woman for life. You can try to over look it, but it's hard.....I keep trying and to be honest, it's really hard to trust him....sometimes in life, we have to let go of the things we love.
2007-02-03 23:34:46 · answer #8 · answered by Latino Heat 4ever 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not a reflection on you, Why would you think that? He cheated on YOU! Why would you want t take him back, now you have to deal with his mistakes & baby mama drama, too. Are you ready for that. Is he worth all that? You better talk to someone about this before you do anything, hon. You're in for a whole lot of pain.
2007-02-03 14:55:56 · answer #9 · answered by Sandi Beach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Precious you know better than that, it may feel like that now but You know way better than that. I know it hurts, but guess what if you had 15 children with him and one more on the way he still would have layed up with someone else. I know for a fact that you told him before the relationship got to serious that you could not have children, the moment he decided to stay is the moment he decided that children were going to come from adoption or artificial insemination, but you know hat this is not an option, you deserve way better, keep your head up and find yourself a wonderful Godson to spoil.
2007-02-04 10:23:10 · answer #10 · answered by sodgirl6763 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never the the other spouses fault when the other cheats.Talk to him and find out why he did it either he is a player or has some issues that he needs to sort out.If you can seek counciling and try to get him to do same.If you both love each other then you should be able to express your feelings,desires,and dreams.Talk things through and hoppfully you can get your marriage back on track.
2007-01-27 14:32:09 · answer #11 · answered by reginasketch1 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋