my friend and i are both freshman in high school. well she has been seeing this boy for some time but have only actually been together 4 times (internet dating i believe) well the last time they hung out she gave him oral s*x and they were both completely nude. she was then throwing up a week later and late on her period...she was worried his "love juices" got in her "you know what" so she got scared and thought she was pregnant (i knew she wasnt though because it was only about a week ago this happened and you dont get morning sickness for a while)
she said if she was pregnant though she would keep the kid and i know her mom and she would have thrown her out.
i want to sit down and tell her to starighten out but idk what to say
plus we had an argument a while back and weren't friends for about a year but we're all good now so i don't want to come off as a bi*ch
please help i relle don't want her to screw up her life... what should i say to her?
2007-01-27 14:05:45 · 9 answers · asked by Emilee O 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Say that whatever happen you will be her friend
but really, i dont think oral s3x could get her pregnant...I often get stomach sickness and i dont think im pregnant lol
2007-01-27 14:17:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you really care about her and that is why you are saying that what she is doing is really not good for her.
Also, you don't get pregnant from oral sex. But you can get other things.
Remember, she will probably not do everything you think she should, but if you can help her even a little, it's worth it.
But you may not have much influence; when people are in lust, they can be hard to reason with.
2007-01-27 14:17:24 · answer #2 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all the only way to get pregnant is by vaginal sex.She could be getting sick cause he has a sexually transmitted disease hard telling. I don't know what to tell her if anything, how important is her friendship to you. is it worth her getting all mad at you for giving her advice, and if she gets mad about that then she really isn't a true friend, and if she is only a freshman that makes her what 15? If and when she gets pregnant she is really going to want some advice then, when its too late. welcome to the real world then I guess.
2007-01-27 14:23:07 · answer #3 · answered by tinydancer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to stop having sex with a guy she only just met. Its definitely not worth having a baby with a guy she probably isnt going to marry. I dont think she is pregnant cause the signs are not there. Tell her this calmly and whatever happens. be there for her. She'll appreciate all your help.
2007-01-27 14:35:56 · answer #4 · answered by illlhsm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not about what you say but what you do. and all you can do is continue to give her advice and be there for her like a true friend. unfortunately you can't help her if she doesn't want to be helped. those are her decisions and there's nothing you can do to make her do the right thing. it's how we all learn, by falling. looks like she's in for some serious bruises and all you can do is comfort her when she's licking her wounds.
2007-01-27 14:20:45 · answer #5 · answered by gracy808 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emily probably just has a fast metabolism, unless she is throwing up. You second friend however should start eating healthier, if she does not have all the nutrition she needs she may just collapse.
2016-05-24 07:26:20 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know its hard to tell friends stuff they really don't want to hear, but maybe if you told her you loved her and care about what shes doing, tell her your afraid for her, and you want her to have a good life and not mess it up, but you'll be there if she needs to talk, or cry. i know about best friends mistakes i lost mine last year, she drank her self to death, and no matter what anybody said, she wouldn't stop, I'm just lost and angry now without her
2007-01-27 14:27:42 · answer #7 · answered by debbie d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're tryna help her and she dont appreciate your help, she's the *****. I dont know how you can stand being friends with someone like that. I had a friend like that, so I cussed her out, and now we ain't friends. I dont regret it though. She was a *****.
2007-01-27 14:20:49 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you care about her and you are concerned about her having unprotected sex. Suggest that she carry some condoms for protection to prevent pregnancy or STDs. As a "FRIEND" you can tell her this, stress that you are concerned for her safety.
2007-01-27 14:16:52 · answer #9 · answered by HowdyThere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋