I am in in school and i want to be popular and i am not that pretty what should i do?

Answer 1

The way I became more popular was by showing people the real me! That's all it took! I thought it was going to take more than that, but it didn't.
April Lamb
Ellisville, Minnesota





All you really need to be "cool" or "popular" is friendliness or kindness. You don't have to be a super model that thinks she/he has to be superior among other people. That's not the way it has to be. Just be yourself, and people will admire that.

Trish Wichas
New York, New York





I believe that the judgment connecting to popularity is just a human flaw. I myself am very judgmental, even though I preach against how you shouldn't do it. Come to terms that you're not perfect first, before you condemn anyone else. Frances Darwin
Oakville, Ontario





I'm not popular. I'm nice. If people would just take the time to get to know me. Anyway, at all the schools I have been to (at least) the "popular" kids are the ones who are maturer and richer and dress nicer and have four wheelers and $500 dollar shoes and live on the "ritzy" side of town. Well, I admit. I am not ANY of those, yet the one thing that matters the most is what is inside. On the inside I am nice, funny, fun, outgoing, always wanting to do SOMETHING.

Josh S.
San Diego, CA





Popularity is an illusion to most people. To one person, a person can be popular, and to another person, a total nerd. Popularity is gained through respect from people. You don't have to observe popularity as knowing the upper-class popular people, but having respect from people that you in turn care about. No matter how popular you are, every person views another person differently. Just make the most out of your high school years. Don't worry about popularity, because that usually gives you an opportunity to be yourself which gets respect for you.

Jennifer Steckbeck
Murfreesboro,TN





To be popular, it's not to "flirt" with boys or "impress" the boys. To be popular, just be kind, nice, and be friendly. All it takes is only that little.

Cynthia Yip
New York City, New York





Ok, basically, there is only a very small group of "popular" people. And they aren't even popular at all. They think they are, but they are no different than anybody else. Who is "popular" in one person's eyes may not be the same person as in another's. So don't worry about who is popular and who isn't. Because in the long run, popularity won't make a difference.

McKenzie Furlington
Sunrise, Florida





A lot of kids want to be in the so called "popular/cool crowd." But the truth is that if you worry so much about being popular then you will be missing out on a lot of great friends. Because there are more people that are average than are "Popular." If you worry too much about being popular then you most likely won't be having as much fun as you want to and would be putting a lot of pressure on yourself.

Elizabeth Lopez
Riverdale, New York





I used to be really unpopular. I was rude and uncaring towards others and they treated me the same way I had always treated them. But it was when I decided that I was done being hated, and it was time to be liked, everything changed. I started to act nicer towards everyone and respecting them, and they soon treated me the same way. I was sitting in a class meeting today, and I realized that I talk to over 85% of my class on a daily basis. Just be genuine and people will notice. And always keep a smile on your face!!

Dayna Gray
Antwerp, Ohio





In my mind, you are popular if you have the respect of most people. Not just the 20 or whatever people who are considered "popular." So many of my friends look up and praise the popular people because they are "cool." But who determines what is cool, and what is not? Only you can decide. Don't try to be like the "popular" people, because in the end, only your true friends and yourself will be there.

Emmy A.
Ft. Collins, Colorado





The way I became popular was by being me! I didn't try to pretend to be something or someone that I wasn't, I was just me.

Lamar Jordan
Loris, South Carolina





Being Popular isn't always a good thing -- I mean, if you do something embarrasing, everyone knows who you are!

Khristel Nica Suarez
Yuma, Arizona


Only about 1/5 of the people are "cool." The other 4/5 aren't. When election time comes, most students identify with the "uncool" candidate. "Cool" people are so picky about who they can or can't be friends with. "Uncool" people don't worry about impressing people, so they're friends with everyone. In the long run, the "uncool" people are more popular (have more friends) than the "cool" people. Isn't that weird?
Britnye Godwin
Senior Class President
Denver, Colorado



What won student elections in my school was a good sense of humor and respectability, not really popularity in a social sense.

Keith Zarriello
Class President
Suffern, New York



People who would be running against a popular opponent often forget that the "in" crowd probably makes up no more than 10% of the school (and therefore only 10% of the vote), and the rest are just the normal kids (90% of the vote).

Shawn A. Gaudette
Voter
Springfield, Massachusetts



Many students will really vote for the candidate that they actually think will do the most for the class, not just the person who everyone expects to win because of popularity.

Kris Long
Class Vice-President
Davie, Florida



Don't back down from an election just because the "popular" person is running. Most of the time, they're relying on their popularity to get them the job and don't have many new or good ideas to bring with them. If you do have the ideas, go for it. The "public" may support that popular person during their campaign, but when it comes down to the pencil and the ballot, most people go with the better choice, even if they lie about it later.

Katie Burnett
Voter
Naples, Florida



I have noticed over the years that people who think they are going to win usually don't, no matter how popular they are. What you must think is that you have to work hard and campaign in order to win.

Steve Choate
ASB President
Orange, California



Your typical popular girl who had been our Class President the previous year was running against a jock who no one expected to win. But the jock was the one who made the effort to talk to everyone, not only the "popular" kids. He was sincere in his actions and it led to a victory. Be genuinely friendly. Not the fake-smile friendly, but taking the time to hear everyone's thoughts and opinions. People who already think they will win don't always necessarily take advantage of this and often lose because of it.

Mel Mack
Voter
Wilbraham, Massachusetts



Yes, elections are definitely a popularity contest--but not who one hangs out with or how many touchdowns one's scored, but rather how one presents oneself as a leader and a speaker. What makes a good teacher? Not how much they know, or where they went to school, but how they present the information. With elections it's the same thing. Any student who can present him or herself as comfortable in front of a large audience, can speak fluidly and casually, can keep a crowd alive with a little humor and down to earth points, and at the same time sell his or her campaign, can consider him or herself the next school president.

Robert O'Brien
Senior Council Senator
Portland, Maine



Those ultra-popular people won't win against the everyday person, because there are many more everyday people in school than ultra-popular people. If you get the vote of the everyday Joe and Bob, you've gotten the vote of the majority of the students. Everyday people don't want to see those ultra-popular people have positions of power. Everyday people should realize this and not hesitate to run for office!

Olivia Wood
Student Assembly Representative
Eastpointe, Michigan



I find that the most important aspect of any candidate is how sympathetic and compassionate he/she is rather than how intelligent, powerful, or persuasive. The best candidate is somebody the students can relate to--which usually is NOT the most elite and popular one.

Gina Protopapa
President, National Honor Society
Cuyahoga Heights, Ohio



There is always some popular kid running, but the majority of the student body isn't in the "popular" crowd, they just happen to know the kids that are and would prefer to vote for someone they've heard of. But if you take your time to meet people and get to know them, you'll find that their votes can be easily altered.

Jennifer Galipault
Student Council Treasurer
Fort Lauderdale, Florida



Instead of telling the audience what she would try to do in office, this one girl who was running for Junior Class President just stood up and relied on her cheerleading/popularity and said, "Most of you know me by now, I'm (name), and I wanna make our Junior year the best EVER! Yeah!" A few moments later, another girl got up and told everyone that she was open to any suggestions that we had to make it a great year, but at the time she was particularly focused on getting the number of absentee days raised (because the teachers had more than the students and everyone was sick from the construction going on in school at the time). She addressed everyone as intelligent human beings and relied purely on their judgment, not outrageous claims or popularity. Needless to say, she became our President.

Michelle Girton
Senior Class Treasurer
Levittown, Pennsylvania



Focus not on what you've been involved in or how popular you are, but on what you intend to do once elected.

Christopher F. Heck
Voter
Fairborn, Ohio



A girl who ran for Senior Class President was very unlikely to win because nobody saw her as popular. She did win, and by a very large margin. What was her secret? She knew everybody and didn't really realize it. She was just friendly and spoke to people. You don't have to have tons of friends to be popular and you don't have to force yourself upon people. Just be friendly and speak to everyone and they will remember you.

Shelby Olson
Voter
Rapid City, South Dakota

hope i could help these are responses from people around the country!!!!!

Answer 2

The very best advice I can give you, is "pretty is as pretty does". Be a good person, and people will like you. Most important, have LOTS of CONFIDENCE in yourself. Watch the program "Ugly Betty". If you don't think you're pretty, no one else will. Sometimes the least attractive people, have the most friends because of self confidence and charisma. When I was in school the most popular girl was not pretty at all. BUT...she was very sure of herself, was lots of fun, and always smiled and laughed, if someone said something mean, she never got defensive. She usually said, OK, whatever you think. People just gravitate towards that. I am very pretty, but wasn't popular when I was a kid because I was so insecure. Just relax, have a good time, and the other kids will want to have a good time with you! Good luck in school, you'll do great!

Answer 3

Great question, I also wondered the same thing. I think first of all be nice and be friends to everyone popular and not so popular, School will go by so fast for you and when its really over you probably will not even kept in contact with maybe only a few people. But remember treat everyone the way you want to be treated.

Answer 4

oh precious, popularity isn't anything. be yourself, love yourself and love your friends. you can't pretend to be someone else and become popular, because nobody likes a fake person. everybody likes it when people are themselves. sometimes in school though, the "popular" kids are intimidated by the ones who aren't afraid to be different and be true to themselves. so, in turn they may be a little snotty. trust me when i say being you, whether it is popular or not, is the best way to be. when i was in high school, there actually weren't any kids that were looked at as the popular kids. there were so many cliques, and everyone only cared about their own clique. of course, there is always going to be someone who is the most popular in the clique, but that's not a big deal, because they are just the same as the rest in the clique. i don't know if that made sense, ot if its believable to you that there wasn't any popular kids at my high school; either way, i hope that you take my advice and just be you. don't worry about popularity.

Answer 5

Well I mean unless you're extremely ugly [which I doubt .. I bet you are really pretty w. juss low self-confidence] its easy to give yourself a makeover!

Get a cute, managable haircut. Layers look great on everyone. If you can afford it, get some new clothes from a store like American Eagle, Hollister, Rue 21, ect. Those places aren't that expensive && are very cute && trendy. Also, wear some make-up .. it can make even the plainest person really pretty. Try mascara & lip gloss at first .. they're easy && the basic make-up for teens [I assume thats how old you are lol]

Most importantly, smile && talk to people! Just be friendly && unique .. it always helps. I mean unless you're super-nice that alone can't make you queen of the school [I don't mean to sound superficial .. thats juss life!], but it definitly helps. Hang out with people of different cliques so everyone knows your name.

Good Luck!!!

Hugs && Kisses
♥ Abby ♥

Answer 6

Sweetie. It's the whole grass is always greener situation. I've been on both sides of the fence, and the people I met when I was unpopular were so much more interesting and cool than the most popular person I ever met. Be happy with yourself, do what you love, and don't give a crap what anyone else thinks of you. Aside from that, I bet you're much more attractive than you think, and there are so many things that are more important than outer beauty.

Answer 7

Well thats how i was like when i was new in school and well i got popular by meeting the right people. Try socializing with people you see fit you, and work your way with everyone not just one certain group. Be kind, helpful, and positive thats what helped me :) except the pretty part...i'm a dude XD. And when you make friends don't forget em, keep in touch with them.

Answer 8

Being pretty has nothing to do with it. Remember to be confident and nice to everyone and soon enough you will be the most popular person in school.

Good luck!

Answer 9

You can't just become popular, you have to be yourself and love the friends that you have. Once you are older none of the popularity stuff will matter and you may be left regretting having tried so hard.

Answer 10

Being pretty shoudn't be the only the reason to be popular. It should be based on your own personality. Not one made up to please someone else. Wouldn't you want them to like you for who you are? Instead of living with a lie? Who would want that burden!! Popularity isn't always the best thing!!

Answer 11

Let me tell you something, you don't have to be pretty to be popular. All you have to do is be happy, you know what will happen to those popular girls one day? They spend soooo much time socializing and fixing their hair and makeup and stuff they will have no future and they will work at McDonalds' and you will be successful.