What can I do to make my life better?

Question

I applied to nursing sch last winter in the area where my then bf lived 2 hrs away from where I lived, We broke up but remained on good terms. I got accepeted in July and had to move over here right away, my mom is keeping son for me this so I can get settled in my ex knew and I was under the impression we were goin 2 get bk together and get to know each other I even stayed w/him 4 2 wks, when I got here, to make a long story short it didn't happen, he basically played me, out of the blue 3 wks told me that he was in a relationship, which he was over my house 3 wks prior , I think he just met her for reasons that are too long to go into but now I am by myself I have been in the house every weekend since I have been here unless I go home, friends I have at school either do not go out or are married, I am depressed lonely yu name it, I am on the verge of havn a break down I cry constantly I sacrificed everything to go to school now it doesnt seem worth it. I dont know what 2 do different

Its not really about him, I am hurt but nothing worked out like I thought it would and it is disappointing. I have friends to places with, I do not have my son, I had to give away my cat to come here. Everything is sooo ****** up and I need and want to change it but dont know how?? Im tryn to stay positive and remember the real reason why I am here but I am so lonely.

all I do is sitin the house studying and watchin law and order reruns

the thing with my ex, we both played our part so looking back I am not surprised it turned out like that he is very needy and I not that tolerate

Answer 1

Part of the answer lies in the question; "I sacrificed everything to go to school now it doesn't seem worth it. "

This indicates to me that your true goal was not so much nursing school, as to be around a man you still desire to be with.

Being lonely is partially a result of still wanting that relationship, and partly a result of your continued isolation. Go to the local coffee shop, or any other place students hang out. At first you will still be alone, but gradually either you will reach out to another person who comes often, or you will be reached out to. Female friendships are much more stable and satisfying.

Your child is safe. Your mom is exhausted. Either become a nurse and begin a new life in a few years that will be secure and reliable, or give up and go home. As a nurse, you will have guaranteed income any place in the world you choose to live. As a grocery clerk, you will shift from job to job, always on the edge of poverty and mom will still be exhausted.

A man has left you open to receiving the attentions of other men. Now you have to thank the Universe. Wrong pairings are painful for a long time. Be open to what's next.

Answer 2

Stay focused on getting through nursing school. You have a son who's counting on you. You are VERY fortunate to have a Mom who will watch your son so you can better your education to do better for yourself and your son. Then when the right guy does come along he'll be impressed with how determined and independent you are. You'll be the best you can be and know that you have earned your place in his life. You must really be a caring person to choose nursing as your career choice. You'll make friends through school, just be patient and know all will work out as it should. Good Luck! =)

Answer 3

Can you change schools to be closer to your son and family? It sounds like you are having a hard time adjusting to the new location. I am sure missing them is not helping. Talk to a close friend or a family member or counselor if you can I am sure that will help.Also get out go for a walk or a movie.Just remember that you will reach your goals in the long run. Things will get better just push yourself to get out and meet people. You are lonely and need others around to get out of your slump. Best wishes.

Answer 4

Concentrate on making a better life for you and your child. The rest will fall into place. Make good choices and keep your priorities in order. Good luck.

Volunteering always makes me feel better. It will definately make you less lonely. Try the local shelter or soup kitchen to start and look in the local paper for opportunities.

Answer 5

Is there a possibility of transferring your credits to another nursing school? Your ex sounds like a nasty piece of work - I hope you can get over him and move on.

Answer 6

Make some more friends, keep busy, and don't deal with your ex.