i am married 10 years and i have been involved with another married man with 1 child for 9 months now . we both are so capatible its not funny , we try to be together as much as we can we have had sex and he says he can see us together in 5 years when our kids understand and turn 13 ,i have looked to him because my husband want have sex but 1 time every other month and i am only 30 and he is 32 this other guy is 42 and goes very strong . i love my husband but i am torn i tried to stop this with the other guy but i cant we both want each other so bad our boys are best friends and they spend the night with eah other his wife is very jeoulous of me even though we are sorta friends she makes comments about me to him when i am not around he says . i feel like i want this in 5 years as he says we will have to wait that long but i dont want to get my heart ripped wide open either later on like maybe2 or 3 years down the road . we have strong feelings but havent said i love you i need advice
2007-01-27 13:33:29 · 9 answers · asked by somewhereupnorth 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't love your husband. If you did, you wouldn't have cheated on him.
Second, you lust after the other man.
Third, guess what, you are being duped. If he says five years, it will be ten, then another five. He will have unattached sex while being satisfied with his wife.
There IS a sucker born every minute.
2007-01-27 14:35:38 · answer #1 · answered by n9wff 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think-think-think! Stop it now. It is dishonest and you two can not go plublic so you knowit is wrong!
I am not a man,but I think that it would be hard for a man who loves a woman to even think that some other man is havng relations with her even once a month!
My hypocritical ex still has issues with me moving on with another man as I sahll inspite of his follies while I was married to him! I said I was married to him. Cheating is ugly and it really is not worth it. You two are decieving each other if you think that you want each other after all the excitement has boiled down you will realize the character of each and may end up not being able to stand the site of each other!
Just because you are getting pleased by him in the bedroom does not mean he repects you!
2007-01-31 13:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by Arene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Notice you aren't getting any positive responses? Why? Because what you are doing is wrong. What makes you think that if this man DID decide to leave his wife for you that he wouldn't later cheat on you? Chances are though he isn't going to leave his wife. Chances are it's all about sex. Chances are you are really being stupid. You need to knock it off and be a wife to your husband. If he is only wanting to have sex once every other month there is a problem. Maybe he knows you are cheating? Get counseling. What you are doing is wrong. Get your husband into couples counseling. For your childrens sake you need to get it together. Quit worrying about someone elses husband and worry about your own.
2007-01-27 15:14:53 · answer #3 · answered by Desiderata 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, you DO NOT love your husband. if you really loved him you would never be with this other guy.
second, just because your husband isnt giving you sex everytime you want it doesnt mean you should go out and cheat on him. what if he did it to you. yeah, your heart would be crushed. i cant wait til he finds out and divorces you and the other man leaves you too.
third, he is married. if he hasnt left his wife yet, do you honestly think that he will leave her for you. no he wont. all you are to him is a booty call or an extra piece of booty. you arent special to him at all.
fourth thing, dont you remember your vows you made when you got married. you promised to love him and be with him forever no matter what, for the good and bad remember. this includes sex. you also said that you would forsake all others and be faithful to him. well you havent done that either. you ran to someone else just because of the sex. why couldnt you pleasure yourself and stay faithful?
i bet you are one of the women who call men dogs and treat us like crap when you are the dog in this situation. i really hope your husband finds out and leaves you. i also hope that when the other man finds out that he leaves you and destroys your heart by laughing at you and not taking you.
2007-01-27 15:26:25 · answer #4 · answered by young grown man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a Christian you are not to be adultress. It's not fair to anyone involved. Is sex the only motivator for a marriage? I would get divorced to your hubby and just remarry now. I'm sure he's having his cake and eating it too, and no offense intended. I beleive most guys are out for what they can get and don't care about hurting the women involvd or at least the other woman. If his wife can't trust him than why should you?
Good luck
2007-01-27 16:22:10 · answer #5 · answered by heartday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is your moral compass??? I think it is SAD SAD Thing that you even let your kids play together. And if you think your kids don't know what is going on (I don't care HOW old they are) then you are fooling yourself.
Nothing good can come of this....Not only is it plan WRONG. But how do you know he is not sleeping with more than just his wife. If he is sleeping with you; he would probably sleep with just about anyone. Have you even given thought to STD's.
He is just telling you what you want to hear.
Your husband will eventually find out (if he doesn't know already).
2007-01-27 17:19:35 · answer #6 · answered by shop4tots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-03 03:22:52 · answer #7 · answered by santella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you two should not continue secretly seeing each other. if you and the other man get married. your whole life will be ruined. your children will hate you and so will your husband. i suggest you tell your husband that you are seeing the other person. what were you thinking when you said 'i do' to your husband. did you not accept those words? your being so unfaithful.
2007-01-27 14:36:49 · answer #8 · answered by xkathiee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your FOUL!!!!! What a SKANK.............I hope his WIFE finds out and your HUSBAND! You don't need to ask for advice? Your just looking for justification for being the neighborhood wife-whore. How dare you use your child as an excuse.......
2007-01-27 14:39:04 · answer #9 · answered by Skinz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋