I know it's a lethal attraction because you shouldn't date in your work environment because of harassment issues out there. But she is flirting with me! Why does she do that!? We will be having a serious discussion about something and she will be looking in my eyes and I look back and then she looks quickly away like she is ashamed of it. (not the same way a general antsy or nervous person does because she is not a nervous person by nature)
Also, our hands have touched when handing each other items and I don't know if I imagined it, but she seemed nervous about it like it was a big deal our hands touched.
Goodness, this is frustrating because I want to flirt with her but don't want to at the same time because of harassment issues. Then again, what if...
So, being a girl myself-what should I do? I am attracted to her but it's not about looks because I at first didn't notice her cuteness. But after seeing her act this way towards me I am noticing her more. Does this make sense?
2007-01-27 13:32:15 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Hey, just take advantage of being a girl! Why don't you ask her out to lunch? Nobody would accuse a girl of sexual harrassment for inviting a co-worker to lunch. Once you get to know her better you can pretty much figure out if she's really into you or if you are in fact imagining things. I think lesbians sometimes misinterpret the signs and things other girls do...part of it is wishful thinking; we wish more girls were like us!! I do hope that's not the case with you though. Also, sometimes we may imagine things, secret crushes etc to make a boring job more interesting.
Good luck!!
2007-01-27 17:29:58 · answer #1 · answered by amaya m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your supervisor or HR head and make sure the supv/HR knows that you aren't homophobic. An unhappy work environment can make work suffer and that's something most companies are more worried about.
You need a go-between, either professional or mutual friend.
2007-01-27 21:37:09 · answer #2 · answered by mabster60 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right, is it difficult because of the work environment. so get her out of it. invite her to go out with you and maybe some other friends (to keep it casual) then work up to just you 2 hanging out (or cut straight to that if you feel comfortable enough) and see if y'all hit it off :) maybe outside the workplace, one of you will admit to liking the other.
2007-01-27 22:14:53 · answer #3 · answered by fear of the dark 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try emailing her, ask her to meet u for something if she accepts then when you're out ask her if she like u. If you're shy like me get her instant message id, some stuff is easier to say in writing than in person.
2007-01-27 21:54:34 · answer #4 · answered by teddybear92106 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been in that situation before and to tell u the truth it'll just happen....no need to express it at work tho. i think u should ask her to hang out (outside of work). if she is attracted to u the way u think she WILL come on to u . . . by the sound of it she is into u.
much luck love! :)
2007-01-27 22:02:30 · answer #5 · answered by crit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just walk up to her and say "hey, how about meeting for coffee sometime?" That's just being friendly and not harassment. Then, if she says yes, take it from there.
2007-01-27 21:38:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to make a move, invite her over, and just have at it.
good luck!
2007-01-27 21:34:31 · answer #7 · answered by iroc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like her you should go for it.
2007-01-27 21:38:48 · answer #8 · answered by mydadscopilot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋