My boyfriend of two years and I broke up about three weeks ago. Our relationship was so wonderful in the beginning. We started having problems when I left for college. My first semester there was awful. I was needy, clingy. So when I got back for Christmas, he ended it. About three months after, he called and we worked things out. Ever since then, the relationship was up and down. He always told me about how much he loved me and I knew he was telling the truth. He still felt like I was too needy and he wanted to be free and experience college (it was his first semester there). Even in our ups and downs, he was still committed and told me about how much he loved me. Although, things weren't quite like they were before. Before Christmas this year, he told me he had feelings like he wanted to be single. Two days after, he said he loved me and we were fine. Until about three weeks ago he said it again and I broke up with him. Do you think he just needs space or did his feelings change?
2007-01-27 13:07:56 · 11 answers · asked by ambrosius15 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i think that you guys are just apart and from that, you want to see him, and your boyfriend does to. but he is not there like he always has been, and what you were used to. if you have strong feelings for him, and you truelly love him, and he loves you too, i saw you guys keep on going. but if you have a feeling that it will end soon, i am sorry but i say break up. i think you guys just need to see each other more often. and maybe, i know this sounds weird, but maybe transfer to his college? you guys could still hang out.
but no, i think he still loves you,
and he did not fall out of love.
2007-01-27 13:14:11 · answer #1 · answered by oh dang, oh dang 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He actually sounds like the typical man. Here is what i mean. Short of the few hundred in the world who are sympathetic and caring from the start, most men dont really know what they want until they cant have it. They want to be free when they fear commitment and when free they feel lonely they want the package of companion and love. Try and be strong. Give him his space and give yourself yours. It will be hard for you to be away from him in the begining but the name of the game is hold out. You need to know that if he comes back AGAIN he will mean it this time and not keep on playing with your emotions. You said that you broke up with him this time so that is a great start. Stay strong and enjoy all the things you did before him. I am a very needy type personality too. I even bought a cat...and a fish...and took up needle point to keep busy. If you really feel he is just never gonna commit then just enjoy being single for awhile and build yourself back up. Buy a new outfit and get a new hair do. Have fun being young and enjoy your life... before the kids and stretch marks come along. If you two are meant to be it will be...if not then you are at least taking the first step on your own.
2007-01-27 13:23:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may need space And his feelings may have changed. Both of you seem to be starting on new journeys in your lives and sometimes that brings about changes. You are in two different colleges and both of you are probably meeting new people. Of course you were clingy, but that's because you haven't gotten used to your new environment. That will come with time. I say give it some time. If you two still love each other, you will find a way to overcome this minor setback. If you find that you are going on with life without him, then do so and make the best of it. You are young and have everything in front of you, the both of you do. Attending college is a new start at experiencing new things. You never know what will come along. Experience life, it's too short.
2007-01-27 14:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by Bewildered 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this guy is totally confused.Don't make yourself soooo available to him ( I know it's really really hard) like don't answer your cell let the voice mail get it don't return the call for 10 to 14 hour later and do not give him details about where you were or who you were with etc he needs to grow alot and it's hard for him to with so many other girls out there you knows guys are visual creatures and that will never change and he as well as you do not need to be too serious now school comes first and who knows in 3 or 4weeks you may feel different about him after seeing all the guys at school u never know and from my experience when a guy says he needs space there is usually another woman involved or he may one of the few that says that before they start to see someone else.I ask a guy this one time and that is what he told me and looking back he was right so chill out he sounds like a very confused guy give him his space but don't leave much space in your life for him to just pop in and say I luv you when he's ready.Go on and look around if you want to be in a relationship you may be surprised at what you may learn.Good luck! and yea love does hurt if it's real!
2007-01-27 13:21:08 · answer #4 · answered by connor'snana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is falling out of love, or isn't in love anymore. Things change and people grow apart. He seems like the guy who likes to have a girl but not the commitment. You are in the right to end it. Its going to hurt, but girl you need someone who really wants to be with you. It isn't right for someone to put you up and then down. Take this time to be single or to find another guy. Have fun, your young. :)
2007-01-27 13:13:48 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-01 11:12:45 · answer #6 · answered by santolucito 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and I have the same problem i've been in the relationship for over 6 months on and off. Dont u get tired of it?? I am but yes i still love him alot. as for u maybe u should just give him space/time to think about if he wants to be with you.. for now try to move on goodluck
2007-01-27 13:13:12 · answer #7 · answered by Pookie! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he isn't mature enough to be committed to you. I think you did the right thing to end it. Experience life alittle and maybe down the road you will end up back together. But for now I would give him his space and enjoy your youth.
2007-01-27 13:11:56 · answer #8 · answered by chemky1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you both are to immature for a real relationship to me.
First he dumps you then you dump him and now you want to know if he fell out of love??? Sounds like he never loved you and you never really loved him either so move on, grow up and someday you might know how to handle a relationship.
2007-01-27 13:29:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre both confused....time not to see anyone for now let alone him. Neediness aint a good thing.
2007-01-27 13:12:15 · answer #10 · answered by rokdude5 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋