including you?
2007-01-27 13:05:25 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
What I usually do when I complain is think of all the people in the world who can actually complain. Like those people in Africa dying from starvation, people who's homes are being invaded in Iraq; I just tell myself that this isn't the worst it'll get. But If somebody had a negative outlook on life, they surely haven't realized that you only get one chance at life so as might as well do something about it. There's only one time when you're a kid, there's only one time when you're a teen, only one time you'll be an adult, and only one time when you're a senior citizen. Maybe they haven't found something in life that truly means something to them. But what I would do if there was somebody like that who I truly cared about, I would talk to them about it and ask them why they think that. Try to persuade them that life is only hell if you choose to live it that way. and give the reasons that are listed above (how you only get one chance). I hope that helped. :D
2007-01-27 13:34:28 · answer #1 · answered by xinfinity.4eternity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Point out all the positive things about life and tell them that complaining about things doesn't change anything. Only doing something does. Tell them until they've tried to changes things stop complaining. You could also be extremely postive. Having a positive atmosphere can help others be positive.If that doesn't help change their attitudes then the best thing to do is just not be around them. Negativity is very contagious and if you continue to be around them you'll start being negative too.
2007-01-27 21:19:52 · answer #2 · answered by regina g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from him/her if you can. I once had a friend like that. She was so negative and none of my other friends liked her, so we could never all hang out together. It was either she and I or me and my other friends. This relationship lasted from middle school through my second year of college. This is when I finally realized that I couldn't take her "negativity" any more. It was actually starting to rub off on me. At that point, I stopped being roommates with her and distanced myself from her, both physically and mentally. It's been about 8 years since this occurred and I'm still cordial with her, but she is no longer a friend. It was emotionally unhealthy for me to continue a relationship with her.
2007-01-27 21:19:09 · answer #3 · answered by JOURNEY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, set the record straight, I don't complains about everybody.
To deal with someone that is negative about life, ask them to think about what is good about live. Ask them to think hard and harder to think about good things about people.
Try to do a good spin, once they started it, may be they will do it more often. Or they may be not, but at least it is a try.
2007-01-27 21:24:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to stay away from them. When you run into them just say hi and move on. They will bring you down and you do not need it. And as you already know, anybody who comes to you complaining about everybody else goes to everybody else and complains about you.
2007-01-27 21:15:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my Ex-wife..... If this person is your significant other, depending how long you have been together, and if there are any serious arguments, it may be time to talk to them, help them understand on how YOU feel about their outlook on life and how it is affecting you and your relationship and friends and family... I bet that if you got a splinter in your finger, they would say, "that little thing, I had one bigger than that... Blah blah blah....) One who is so self absorbed with THEMSELVES, rarely care about anyone or thing, unless of course it has to do with them.... I'm sorry i got off track a bit.... Keep them or leave them...... depends on Your specific relationship with that other person, me personally, wouldn't stay with that person, it is a lot to carry and take on a day to day basis. Their outlook, on life will affect you greatly and they will not care.
2007-01-27 21:20:34 · answer #6 · answered by kevferg64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop hanging out with that person. Life is too short for negativity
2007-01-27 21:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't deal with people with those types of attitudes. That will just bring you down. So, I deal with them by staying very far away from those with negative self defeating attitudes. God bless****
2007-01-27 21:32:49 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't talk to them ever that a bunch of negative energy that u don't need so just keep your distance so they cant say anything about u and you dont need to here anything said about everyone else but this person is probably insecure about life and has to rag on everyone else
2007-01-27 21:09:03 · answer #9 · answered by nodaybuttoday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usually use my caller ID
and if it is that person,
I will not answer the phone!
If I get stuck with that person, I use all the patience I can muster and get them through the hour and try not to get stuck
with them again.
negative people
really
annoy me
2007-01-27 21:14:51 · answer #10 · answered by retta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋