I am so confuced so please advise me.....
2007-01-27 13:02:03 · 20 answers · asked by love you jaan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you think your confused..read your question...
2007-01-27 13:07:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Always stay away from a married man. First you are partially responsible for the possible end of his marriage although he has done that mostly himself but you have helped. Also, he would have left you by now if he truly loved you. I am not sure if you were married to him and he is married to someone else or you have been married since 12 but either way you are wondering and need some time away from the situation to think thinks ove. I think the best idea for you is to see a counselor to straighten out your feelings and situation on your own. Get some good solid advice from a professional. You can get this on a sliding income scale.
2007-01-27 22:14:58 · answer #2 · answered by StarGalactica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U r confused bcoz, u have not set ground rules yet. Marriage is social and legal contract. Being in love is emotional issue. Though we term married love as bad thing, bcoz our society has very narrow vision on love after marriage. It forgets that love and marriage are altogether different issues.
I think, thinking of kids and considering them, while u plan further course, will be an issue. They are rightful stakeholders in this matter. But i think it will be possible for u to remain married in current relation and enjoy your love too. Both the worlds. After all u can b support to each other and carry on in life while respecting acquired responsibilitieas at the same time.
2007-01-27 21:37:21 · answer #3 · answered by jitedixi2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would not want to pass a blind judgement on the situation...
one thing is love can happen at any age with any person..
it is only flamed by the insecurities we already have or sometimes from the lack of things that we are looking for and is missing in our lives or in present relationships.
we are all human, wants and desires are a part of us.. some know how to control it and most of us dont. it is only during such times that situations like this arise and we are confused.
u are the best judge.. just weigh the pros and cons of the present and past relationship, see which one will give u and ur kids more security and happiness. who of the two are trustworthy and then decide and stand by u and ur kids.
but one word of caution... please and please dont look for a relationship which is short term, be it happiness or love or security....just see if it will last and last till the end......
2007-01-28 02:25:29 · answer #4 · answered by smile2u2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's your confusion? It is both immoral and illegal to have an extra marital affair for both men and women. I'm sure you are well aware about it. Are you very unhappy in your married life? If not stop flirting with a married guy or even a bachelor. You will only be destroying the families of both in having such an affair. I hope your confusion is cleared now.
2007-01-28 08:30:25 · answer #5 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Commit suicide... Don't you feel the guilt of cheating your hubby. Didn't you ever think what effect could this have on your children? How could you still give way to another man? How could you be sure that you won't fall in love with anyone else later on?
I'm sure the relationship of yours and this other man is not love. Cos love imparts responsibilities on you. But you are warded off your responsibilities cos of your relationship with this man.
Better pay visit to a psychiatrist.
:-)
2007-01-28 11:24:08 · answer #6 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are confused?
OK fine. How did Ur heart permit to love some one when u r married and have 2 poor kids. Look if u marry the guy whom u love what will happen to Ur kids. 1st time I am listing to a mother who have 2 kids and fell in love with someone. Use Ur sense. Now, every mother sacrifice their life's to their kids and at least cant u sacrifice Ur dumb and useless love to them. 1st find a way to Ur kids to come up in life. Stop doing these stupid things.
2007-01-27 22:13:33 · answer #7 · answered by Meera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before all the bitter, angry people start to snarl and snap and chew on this one, I would say: if you love him; he loves you and you make each other happy, go for it. Life is not meant to be spent in merely WISHING you had the nerve to be happy, but in actually BEING HAPPY!
And don't let anyone tell you (no matter what religious text they happen to be quoting out of lack of original thought) that those who meet under these circumstances can never live happily ever after. OF COURSE they do -- it happens every day!
2007-01-27 21:22:11 · answer #8 · answered by Solstice 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are not really in love with the guy more then likely it is infatuation and desire... Are you sure this guy really loves you? If you two really want to be together then you boht need to be honest with your spouses and let them go and get divorced then you both will be in the free and clean to be together. I personally feel however that both of you should work on and be happy with what you have at home and stop looking elsewhere and work on your marriages.
2007-01-27 21:11:49 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is MARRIED!!!!!!! For God's sake. You too ARE MARRIED and you say you have two children. Are you willing to destroy their lives for an affair? if he loves you too, is he willing to destroy his family. Is all this worth ruining all these lives?
Work on making your husband and your children happy and perhaps he should do the same.
2007-01-27 21:13:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am going to be honest, you have to choose who you love more: your children or this new guy. True, he may love you, but he is a guy and if something does happen between the two of you, who has more to lose, you or him? In my view, it's you who would suffer if anyone found out so just be careful.
Good luck.
2007-01-27 21:10:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋