My man said he'd marry me if I lost weight...I luv him but tell me, have any of you lost weight because someone told you to??
2007-01-27 12:56:41 · 22 answers · asked by Mee-OW =^..^= 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i am doing that right now, i gained 15 pounds from some meds i was on 6 months ago and i gained 15 of water, one day not too long ago my husband st oped having sex with me, and he said to me you are fat and i hate fat women ,and i will not touch you till you look like when i met 6 years ago, i am loosing the not for the A__Hole i am doing it cuz doctor gave water pills and i do not think i am fat at 5'6 145 pounds, i was 135 before
2007-01-27 13:11:48 · answer #1 · answered by Dove4ever 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ridiculous. He sounds like a fault-finder, a complete manipulator, and shallow to boot.
Ten bucks against a dime says that even if you lose the weight, he'll find something else that you have to do before he marries you. Or, he'll start faulting you for not being able to enjoy enormous restaurant meals with him because you have to keep all that dreadful weight off.
I know a woman whose boyfriend told her he'd marry her once she had his baby (his previous wife turned out to be infertile.) The marriage lasted five years. Now she has three kids, and no husband. First this fellow divorced a woman because she couldn't have kids, and then dumped the second because he couldn't handle the stress of the kids he wanted.
Some men just have to make everything about what they want, when they want it, and because they're the ones initiating marriage, we females act as though we have to jump to whenever Himself cracks the whip. Know what? We don't have to let them.
And besides, is this fellow slim as a reed himself? Does he smoke? Does he drink? How's his cholesterol level? Any gray hair? How's his health? If he's insisting on a wifely weight limit, he'd better be bringing an Olympian's physique to the table, is all I have to say!
2007-01-27 13:16:44 · answer #2 · answered by Guernica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. I’ve lost weight because *I* wanted to, but not because a man asked me to.
Do you really want to marry someone who (apparently) will only marry you if you’re a certain weight? What happens if you gain a few pounds? Will he consider that to be a reason for divorce? That doesn’t say much about how much he loves you, does it?
2007-01-27 18:16:45 · answer #3 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't a poodle. Don't jump thru hoops for this man. If he doesn't love you enough as u are then how can you expect him to fulfill his vow of "in sickness and in health, ...better or worse...?
Babies will come and your body will change etc...
He is making excuses. This is a red flag. Break up with him. You will drop a 165 lbs over night and then the rest will be cake w/o him around.
2007-01-27 13:17:46 · answer #4 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if you lose weight do it for yourself not him. Either stand up for yourself now and set him straight or he will always be telling you what to do. Are you really overweight? My friend has the same problem with her husband only problem is he is the one who need to lose weight but he doesn't seem to see his big belly sticking out. She has been on countless diets for him and she's already skinny but he keeps telling her she's fat. He sounds like a jerk to me.
2007-01-27 13:21:27 · answer #5 · answered by precious1too 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my partner has never asked me and never would!. being in love with someone is not about what size you are it's about who they are and what they give to the relationship. i love my partner with or without the love handles. i would be very concerned about the shallowness of your man's feelings for you. if you lost weight for him and got married what would he do next - start telling you what clothes to wear and which friends you can and can't see. i think you should have a bit more respect for yourself. i think you deserve better
2007-01-27 13:17:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she don't "lose weight" then I don't either. Besides, I find large women VERY attractive, dam straight I do. But I belive in even steven, if she expects me to do something, then she dam well better do it as well, or no dice. Don't expect me to treat you any different than any other human, if she is going to be a certain way to me, she can expect the same treatment back from me. No excepttions.
2007-01-28 04:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by Ibly P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope and i never would either... IF the man did not love me for me i would not marry him anyways... I would only lose weight if i wanted to and i would do it for myself and not anyone else. To me if the guy really loves you he will love you with or without the weight.
2007-01-27 13:05:39 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope, never let my hair grow because a guy prefered long hair, never went blonde because a man prefered blondes, I am myself. If some man doesn't like me packaged the way I am then he can just keep moving on. I'm not going to loose my self respect just because a man wants me to.
2007-01-27 13:57:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i have never lost weight because of that i have lost weight because i wanted to, and then i didn't need to because i am not overweight at all.If he can't love you for who you are then drop him like a bad habit, what happenes when you have a baby and gain weight? and that you will, I am a woman sorry i am under my husbands name because i reached my limit on my answers already.But drop him you can do better alot better.
2007-01-27 13:14:08 · answer #10 · answered by Denny O 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that is the only reason he has not to marry you, he isn't worth it. You either love some or you don't.
To answer your question. No, I have only lost weight for myself, and my health. My husband has NEVER asked me to lose weight.
2007-01-27 13:02:05 · answer #11 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋