i`m pregnant but i`m only 15?

Question

im pregnant but im only 15, and my boyfriend dumped me as soon as he found out, and my parents are really stricked about me having boyfriends and i know they will either kick me out or make me have an abortion and i don`t want either to happen.
please, help!

Answer 1

NOT REALLY SURE HOW TO ANSWER THIS ONE. MAYBE YOU NEED TO SIT YOUR PARENTS DOWN AND EXPLAIN EXACTLY WHAT IS GOING ON IN YOUR LIFE AND TELL THEM THAT YOU WANT TO KEEP THE BABY AND MAYBE YA'LL CAN WORK SOMETHING OUT.
GOOD LUCK !!

Answer 2

Firstly take no notice of the people on this site who have nothing nice or helpful to say. They are small minded and petty.

Secondly, Is there a teacher you trust or a school counseller you could talk to? Do you have a older sister or an auntie you could tell? Please tell someone - you don't need to be alone on this one. If there really is no one you can talk to then please contact Brook. They are a pregancy advice service for young people under 25. It is free to go there and everything you tell them is confidential. You can find them in your local phone book/yellow pages or of couse on the web. No one can force you to do anything you don't want to do not even your parents. At some point they will have to know but I understand that you don't want to do that yet. Talk to the people @ Brook first. They will help you out with all that stuff. (PROMISE - THEY ARE GR8). I know you believe that your parents will throw you out but in all likelyhood they won't. They may be angry/upset at first but I'm sure they will look after you. If by the remotest chance they do throw you out then get the number of Shelter (Freephone - again in the phonebook/yellow pages). Ring them up and explain your situation and they will find you somewhere to stay. Again they are gr8 (I know all this my own personal experience).

Lastly, I'm assuming your boyfriend is around the same age as you. He is mostly likely scared witless and doesn't know what to do so he has run away. Leave him alone and if he cares at all for you he will come back, or at the very least give you some support. If not then he was the wrong guy for you in the first place.

I hope I have been of some help. Take care and good luck. xxxx

Answer 3

You are a minor and as such the responsibillity for you lies with your parents so they cannot kick you out so dont worry tou will not be homeless. However at your age you should be classed in law as Gillick competent (wont bore you with that, if you want to know more check it out on a search engine) which means that you are old enough to make decisions about your health and cannot be made to have an abortion (or any other operation) without your consent. If you find it difficult to approach your parents maybe you can discuss this with another family member who you trust and talk to your parents with them. Your situation does happen to other girls and sometimes it gets to the point where the parents only find out when they either get too big to hide it or go into labour. You also need to see a Doctor and or Midwife to make sure the pregnancy is going okay and get scans arranged.

Answer 4

talk to your parents first, then, together, decide what to do. You don't have to have an abortion and they probably won't kick you out. i expect your'll have a lot of questions to answer and they'll be very disappointed in you but it won't last forever and they'll come round.

some things to consider, my friends 18yr old daughter popped into my house on the way to hospital because she is in labour. to say she looked terrified would be an understatement. at this present moment in time she's still in labour and telling her mum she doesn't want the baby anymore because it hurts so much. She had been trying to get pregnant since her mum made her have an abortion when she was 15. unfortunately she didn't receive any counselling before or after her termination and she felt tremendously guilty about it and spent the time following by actively trying to get pregnant.
talk to you parents and get some medical advice, whatever you decide to do just make sure its what you really want. baby's are a huge commitment be sure thats what you are ready for
good luck

Answer 5

I'd say the first thing you better do is tell your parents. Second, they need to take you in to a doctor to have another test done (I'm assuming you've only done a home pregnancy test). After that they need to contact the boy's parents and hold him responsible as well for the pregnancy. Together both of your families need to make decisions as to what to do. I'm sure the boy and his family will try to deny the baby is his, in that case a paternity test will have to be done once the baby is born. He better get a job and support you.

If by chance the second pregnancy test comes out negative, then you should consider yourself lucky. Always use a condom and/or some other kind of protection.

Answer 6

I got pregnant with my first at 16, so I understand. I know you are nervous about telling your parents. I was surprised at my mom's reaction. You do need to see a doctor, so they will have to know.
Make sure they know that you want to keep the baby, and that you understand how hard it will be. You are only 15, so legally they cannot kick you out. If you are close to any of your friend's families, maybe stay there for a cool down period for your parents. Keep in mind, they won't be happy, and will be in shock. Just keep in mind, there are some of us that have been through the same thing. There are also places for you to go for help talking to your parents. Go to a planned parenthood clinic. They offer free help, and will listen to what you want. Good luck, and don't worry about the boyfriend, he'll have to pay child support when he has a job.

Answer 7

Hey. Sorry to hear that. Dont worry. Tell someone else before your parents and stuff like that. I am so sorry and by law if you are under the age of 18, your parents CANNOT kick you out of your house or it is child abuse. Maybe talk to your mom saying "Mom, how did you feel when you were pregnant" and she will say "oh my gosh!" and I bet you she will be happy when she has a grandson! Anyway, my friend from cheerleadings friend has a baby at 12 and 11! Omgi! Well. .. good luck :)

Answer 8

Before you take to heart the other answers on here, Are you sure that your pregnant?
What do you want... do you want to keep the child, or not.. I will not lie to you, it will be a hard road to travel alone.
When you figure what YOU want, Check out websites of teen age pregnancies, get all you facts and information the best way to get your points across to your parents is by knowing the facts, about motherhood, adoptions, abortions ( as a Christian. I am against abortions) then you need to let your parents know, let them know what your wishes are, as far as the father of the child, let your parents know who it is, (they will yell and be angry, but it does not change the fact that you are pregnant. You and your parents, CALMLY must talk to the fathers parents, If he broke up with you after you told him, he will probably say that the baby is not his, so be prepared for that and then let the Lord guide you from there.

My prayers are with you, your child and your family.

Answer 9

That's a tough one. Your so young. First of all your gonna get alot off people saying shame on you, Ignore them. What were they doing when they were 15? I'm sure alot of people are having sex at your age, I know I was. Even though your parents are very strict they may surprise you, No parent wants their child out on their own at your age, sure they will be screaming mad but its only because they love you so much. Second, Nobody can force you to do something that you don't want to do (abortion) Its your body, do what you want. Just make sure that if you do keep this baby, that you are the one to raise it, to many people pawn their kids off on other people so they can have a life, and it is so not fair to the people taking care of your child and its not fair to your child. Good luck with everything and remember that whatever you do, do it for yourself and no one else. I will be thinking of you

Answer 10

If they love you as much as parents should do then i doubt that it would come to kicking there 15yr old daughter out on the streets or telling her to have a abortion, you need to tell them and say that you need there support and that you will pay the price for the **** up you have done for the rest of your life.

The only way to get around it is to tell them, they will be shocked to begin with no soubt about it but i am sure that they will come around the idea that there daughter is going to need every little bit of there support.

I wish you luck with whatever choice you decide to make and just remember you should not be doing this alone you need alot of help and support.

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Answer 11

Sweetie, you will have to tell your parents. They CANNOT make you have an abortion. Your boyfriend sucks, and I hope you are more careful next time about who you give your heart to. What a jerk! I seriously doubt your parents will kick you out. three of my friends got pregnant while in high school, and they all thought their parents would hate them for life, but they really won't. They'll be a little mad and disappointed, but when they see that beautiful grandbaby, they will forgive you. But likely be even more strict about boyfriends. Still, the sooner you tell them the better, because if you wait till you're showing they will distrust you even more. If you have a trusted adult friend or relative, tell them first, have them take you to the doctor and help you tell your parents. It may be easier if an aunt, cousin, or family friend helps mediate. I REALLY hope everything works out for you.