my gf cheated on me?

Question

should i forgive her?? I gave her everything, all my love, and helped her in her most difficult moment! and look what she did!!
theres nothing I didnt do for her

should I forgive her?? I love her, but I dont know if ill ever trust her again

Answer 1

No way. Who's to say she won't do it again.
She's done with. 1 strike-rule.

Answer 2

DUMP HER.

It happened to me. I gave her everything my love and everything and I forgave her once and she did it again.

Everyone told me to dump her first time but I believed in second chances and was dumb enough to go on but she did it again.
Don't even talk to her again, Don't give yourself a chance to make the love you have for her make you weak and give you false hopes of the change she can make to the better.

Don't let the possible weakness and love she will show deceive you, if they were true and committing to her they would have stopped her from cheating on you. Like what everyone said once the trust is lost, it's over.

Don't talk to her, this is how it will all start; fool yourself and say i will just listen to what she has to say, then start thinking of your good memories, then start having new dreams and imagination of how great you can be together after she apologizes and change to the better... etc don't let all these false and fancy dreams get to you and thank God she was a girlfriend not a wife.

Be firm and decisive. You will never trust her again, believe me, you will suspect everything she will do -though I was fool enough to do that very late. Don't get yourself into misery and find someone who deserves your love and what's most important don't talk to her just end any kind of contact with her. She did it once and she will probably do it again. You don't need this pain and agony in your life.

You have to believe this before anyone else to believe she's not good for you and what she did is unacceptable and show how terrible woman she is and that you deserve better than that.

It'll take sometime to forget her and what she did but you will just try to keep yourself busy and with friends and one day you will meet someone who'll appreciate you and your love.

DUMP HER

P.S. great reply La Chacha

Answer 3

hey,, tough question, yes you could forgive her, the trust may never come back,and you will never forget it.. ever!! there is a reason she cheated, and my theory is if she did it once, she will again!! maybe not for 20 years, do you really need to sit around every day wondering if she did or not??i dont think you do!! do you want to be with her when she might be thinking of someone else?? use protection when you make out with her if you do, and she will wonder why?? tell her u dont want to catch anything!!

Answer 4

She's just a girlfriend!!!

You haven't made a serious commitment to her, THANK GOODNESS.

Just move on, you can't trust her.

You can definitely forgive her, but she's going to have to do some serious compensations to get back your trust, meanwhile...start to detach yourself and find someone who will truly be in love with you and only you and has made the choice before she ever decided to have a boyfriend that she will be true to her boyfriend no matter what.

Answer 5

I'm so sorry that happened to you trust me i know all about it. you helped when she needed you the most and she repays you by cheating.

now think really hard you helped her through everything and got stabbed in the back! it's so horrible to think about. my ex bf did the same thing but i forgave him. he told me that he was so sorry and that it was a mistake also that he was never going to do it again because he supposedly loved me. so i forgave him that was the worst mistake i made because he went back anyways and cheated on me with a striper!

don't let the same thing happen to you. if you believe in your heart that you guys will make it through it together than the best of luck be with you.but if you don't think that's possible maybe you two should spend some time together.
Good luck with your decision.

Answer 6

Is she contrite? Does she admit her foolishness? Perhaps she's testing you to see if you can be made a fool of?

If you decide to forgive her, she should EARN your trust and this takes time. This could take months, years...

You supposedly gave her everything and it's obvious that she doesn't appreciate any of it.

My advice is to leave her. There's not a shortage of beautiful faithful women in the world. Several of my female friends are hawt and faithful to their boyfriends (5+ years). They are everywhere!

Answer 7

you have to think long and hard about whether you as aperson can forgive and forget and whether your relationship is worth fighting for. my girlfriend cheated on me 2 years ago and i felt my world come crashing down but it made us much more open and honest with each other and now i can honestly say that we are so much stronger for it and have deep love and trust for each other. my girlfriend realised how she would feel if she lost me and i think that has made her feelings for me much stronger. if you do decide to give it another go that you must make a conscious decision to leave it in the past and not throw it back in her face everytime she pisses you off or you have a row as that is asking for disaster. keep talking to each other about how you feel but don't torture yourself by keep asking her for all the gory details. i know it's a cliche but time is a great healer and as time goes by the thing that she did gets further into the past. i wish you all the best

Answer 8

It takes time to build the trust back up sure but I believe in 2nd chances - not 3rd and 4th. Everyone makes mistakes but if you love her then you can forgive her and you will start to trust her again in time if she doesn't do this again. But if she did, it would be the last time.

Answer 9

AFTER SOMETHING LIKE THIS IS DONE TO YOU, TRUST IS REALLY HARD TO GAIN.

AND EVEN IF YOU FORGIVE HER, YOU WILL ALWAYS HAVE A QUESTION IN THE BACK OF YOUR MIND -> WILL SHE DO THIS EVER AGAIN TO ME?, WILL I BE ABLE TO FORGET WHAT SHE DID TO ME? WILL I EVER GAIN RESPECT, TRUST FROM HER AGAIN?

IS HARD I KNOW, BUT ONCE THEY STEP IN TO THE CROSSING LINE THEN THERE IS NO STEPING BACK. SHE CROSS THE LINE BIG TIME, I THINK YOU SHOULD NOT FIRGIVE HER AND MOVE ON. SORRY BUT IS NOT WORTH ALL THE PAIN. SHE DIDNT DESERVE YOU THEN SHE DOESNT DESERVE YOU NOW.

Answer 10

I think that if you really feel that she can't be trusted then you shouldn't give her another chance to break your heart. If she cheated on you once then there's a good chance that she'll do it again, and you seem like a nice person who doesn't deserve that....... Let her go and I guarantee that you'll find someone who'll love you for everything you have to offer.

~Good Luck~

Answer 11

If you can't trust her anymore, then you have to end it. Also, if you give her another chance, she will perceive this as a sign of weakness on your part and she will not respect you and cheat on you again. Cut your loses now or else you will suffer even more later on.