Right so I went out with this bloke for nearly a year right and he used to be mates with my current boyfriend but I've just found out I'm pregnant with my old boyfriend's baby. I'm 4 months and there's no way I'll get rid of it even if the father doesn't want anythikng to do with it. But my main concern is telling my current bf. Not only am i pregnant but he used to be mates with the father. He's not now infact he hates him so I'm really worried about telling him coz I think he might leave me. I just want to know from a lads point of view (girls advice welcome too obviously) what you would do if you were in his situation.
2007-01-27 12:14:34 · 14 answers · asked by xmalteyx 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
By the way I know that it's definitely my ex's b/c me and my current haven't been together long we went out before and now we're going back out but we haven't had sex yet so I know it's definitely my ex's. And i appreciate honest answers so feel free to be brutal!
2007-01-27 12:32:27 · update #1
If he truly Loves you, he will be there. If he doesn't, better to find out now. Best Of Luck!
2007-01-27 12:24:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is tell your current boyfriend. But be prepared for him to bail as you havent been going out that long. And if he does thats fine.
You also need to tell the father so he is aware and can prepare himself to be a father, if he decides not to then you can get child suppourt.
Just be prepared emotionally for any and all out comes so it wont come as a great big shock if they both run.
But you never know the father might actually step up and be a man. And if your current boyfriend has strong feelings for you he might just stick around. You never know.
Good Luck to you and I hope things turn out well for you.
2007-01-27 16:33:58 · answer #2 · answered by Monkey Magic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be real happy and would have a struggle with it. It would boil down to how I felt about you. If I truly loved you I would stay. It isn't the baby's fault, baby's are innocent in these things. You have to judge the type of person your current boyfriend is, and if he would leave, then maybe it is best to get rid of him anyway. Good Luck.
2007-01-27 12:26:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he started dating you knowing that you had had a sexual relationship with yuor ex, then he can't really be mad...a baby is a natural effect of having sex. If he REALLY cares for you, he will stay with you and take care of you and protect you from your ex should he be angry. You haven't done anything wrong, you just need to tell your boyfriend before it comes to the point that you're lying to him. It will come out, one way or another.
2007-01-27 12:31:50 · answer #4 · answered by grayhare 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly believe lying isn't the bst policy, you should tell your boyfriend about your baby,if he loves you he will stay with you and support you. Girl you don't need a man to survive, i've been dumped a couple of times in my life and believe me,things happen for a reason. So my advice is to tell your boyfriend now,otherwise it'll be too late.
good luck girl!
2007-01-27 12:25:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell your current b/f i mean if he wont stay with you because its not his baby you really dont want him anyways, find yourself a good guy! But you might be suprised he may take good care of you no matter whos baby it is. Good luck and God Bless you and your new Baby , and Congrats mommy!
2007-01-27 13:20:21 · answer #6 · answered by Katy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love your current boyfriend? it might be hard for you but you do need to tell him.. How sure are you that it isn't his baby? Maybe you should just tell him you are pregnant.. and dont let him think its not his baby.. tell him you suspect it might not be his, but don't let him think you cheated on him... if you love him and trust him and vice versa then he eventually needs to know.. but dont wait too long. best of luck!
2007-01-27 12:19:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If i was in his situation - i'd get out ! Sorry, but with a baby coming that's not mine and it belonging to a guy I don't like... bad news.
You need to tell him asap - and get on with life. If he sticks around... good for you. If not, at least you did the right thing.
2007-01-27 12:19:51 · answer #8 · answered by Develin 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG you're kidding spectacular! your the two virgins VIRGINS how ought to you have/get a STD you have what's comprehend because of the fact the ordinary chilly take some night quail and bypass to mattress. jeez neurotic are we BTW do you additionally comprehend what a STD is it impacts a very different component of the physique (except you probably did oral intercourse that's a criminal offense!!)
2016-11-27 23:21:54 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him. Hes going to be more pissed in another month or so when you become obviously pregnant and you haven't bothered to tell him yet. Its best to be honest now.
2007-01-27 13:11:34 · answer #10 · answered by jesspinky1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋