I would like to know if I am being unreasonable. I had a baby 3 weeks ago. My husbands works, and I stay home to care for our 3 children. This is our first child together. Since he works and gets home late, I am the only person that gets up with the newborn and between that and caring for the other kids, keeping the house spotless and making my husband lunches etc for work and I sleep deprived as expected. I do NOT complain. But he tells me that I am not taking care of his "needs" sexually. He wants oral sex pretty much everynight, since we cannot have intercourse yet.. The whole 6 week thing... He has also been looking at pornography almost everynight on the internet instead of coming to bed. He says its because he "not getting any" from me. I think he is acting very selfish. Please tell me what you think.
2007-01-27 12:06:45 · 10 answers · asked by Justwannaknow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-01-27 12:39:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So do I. He wants oral every night. Sounds like he has an obsession. I can see his point if you cut him off for too long, but I know how tired you are. Been there. Maybe you can agree on an amount that is fair to you both. He can materbate too ya know. That is normal in a healthy sexual relationship such as mine! If this is his first baby he is new to how this works having a baby. You can love on him other than sexual . He may need some attention, men are kinda babies that way!
2007-01-27 21:37:15 · answer #2 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he is very,very selfish. But I don't think you're dumb, this is your husband after all, and just having a baby three weeks ago is a difficult time to be in, I really feel for you. Maybe you could explain to him how tired, sore, and not ready you are. Maybe he could try helping you out so you would be more inclined to "help him out". Ask him to let you sleep the first shift, or help you out, make dinner, let you rest. He needs to remember that you have to give alittle before you can get a little! Good luck, and here's hoping it all works out soon.
2007-01-27 20:42:43 · answer #3 · answered by Katie L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all... if he cheats it is not your fault..unlike what someone had said to you.. That is the WRONG way to look at it... You both just had a baby. He should be sensitive to that fact. He should be able to wait and not say hurtful things like that. It wouldnt kill him either to take his weekend or day off and help you out to ease up some of the things you have to do so you can do some things together.
2007-01-27 22:03:50 · answer #4 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes being very selfish! You just had a baby and you're tired he needs to respect that. Any extra time you have you should be taking care of you and relaxing. Instead of him waiting around to get oral and looking at porn he needs to be running your bath water, massaging your feet, and doing whatever else to PLEASE you!
2007-01-27 21:32:07 · answer #5 · answered by Got Curves? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is very selfish, and in the process he is making you feel like ****. It's disrespectful as him to be looking on porn, instead of being there for you. You just had HIS CHILD. Take time for yourself, eat right and exercise.
2007-01-27 21:17:56 · answer #6 · answered by Lorayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the jack@$$ he needs to stop being selfish. With what you went through, if he can't wait, he doesn't deserve sex.
My wife was literally pregnant for the first two years of our marriage. I was patient...
2007-01-27 21:01:35 · answer #7 · answered by n9wff 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think he is being selfish. I would let him know. Obiously he controls the sex life you have. he is always in demand of it. If he is deprived, he is more than welcome to satisfy himself. Let him know it.
2007-01-31 09:01:41 · answer #8 · answered by firemansgirl001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yes he is being unreasonable.Tell him to grab hold of it if he wants any damn release while he's looking at the porn!
2007-01-27 21:34:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is very selfish. You are dumb for letting him treat you like this. I cannot believe you would let him. So if he cheats, it's your fault too?
2007-01-27 20:37:10 · answer #10 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋