Depression and Relationships?

Question

I've been seeing someone for about six months, and it's been fabulous. He apparently loves me, but within the past month or so I've experienced a really severe depression, due to several circumstances. It is difficult to be with him because I'm really sensitive at this point and am interpretting everything negativley, that he's going to break up with me. I sought medical attention as soon as this started and am on medication that should supposedly kick in in about 2 weeks, but I can feel him getting distantant, although he assures me that we'll get through this. Just wondering if anyone could relate, had similair stories?

Answer 1

I'm 18, so maybe I'm too young. I'm actually fighting depression, and it has affected me in several ways. I'm not myself, or at least I feel so, because it has unconsciously distorted every feeling and thought. My memory's awful and I feel unreal most of the time. I'm constantly debarting with myself, like an internal contradiction. And sometimes I'm completely apathetic and unmotivated. I know how you feel, or maybe not, but I know how depression can affect everything, and EVERYONE around you. Even people who loves you.

I take for instance my family and boyfriend. My friends, I've been avoiding them for some time, because they really wouldn't understand much. But my boyfriend and my family... it's been tough for them. My parents get really frustrated, and so is my sister. They don't really know how to help me much, and sometimes this frustration turns into resentment. But they still love me and are there for me. And my boyfriend... well he did get frustrated, and it even got to a point where he told me "Look, I love you, but I really can't deal with this because it's too painful...". However he took it back, and has stayed with me. I explained to him ALL of what I was feeling and (well he studies Psychology, so...) he understood and is there for me. I try to make things easy for him by being affectionate and focusing on the moment when being with him. He loves me and shows so. So, yes it's hard for both of us, but we're going through it.

I don't think your boyfriend is becoming distant, but maybe your depression, by making you see everything negatively, is distorting your perception, making you pessimistic. If he gives you support, then he really loves you. People in these situations tend to be there, or run away. He's there for you. So I don't think he'll break up with you! And if things get a little difficult to manage in your relationship, breathe and get some space to sort things out, but don't just break up. These situations are difficult, and if managed incorrectly can destroy relationships, but with the support, affection, communication and understanding, like in any good relationship, ANYTHING can work.

Even in the darkest of days, don't despair, for darkness doesn't exist if light isn't there, hiding somewhere... there's always light, you just have to find it. :)

Good luck, and I hope you recover soon!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Yes suffered depresion since mid eighties and been on medication since then. I have one that will not go away. I was married at time and wife started divorce proceeding in 2002 whilst I was in hospital after 19 years of marriage. Have not seen children for 5 years now which really gets me down but last year I met someone who knows all there is to know about me. She is kind and caring and we have been married 6 months now and everything is reallygood so it can work and I hope it does.

I just have to take things easy and don't over do anything and I am okay. There is a stigma about it but I don't tell anyone although you will find that other people who suffer from it will work out that you suffer from it. I did voluntary work for 3 years with people with mental health problems and only stopped as I moved 400 miles to get married. I live in UK I hope that helps a bit. E mail me direct if you like. Modern medication takes two weeks to kick in but its a lot betterthan the older stuff. Good luck.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

I suffer from depression. I'm very negative when I'm depressed too. It's hard on my marriage but my husband is aware of the symptoms and knows how to avoid conflict at these times. (We've been married 23 years!). So I can understand what's happening with you.

Since you've been together for six months, it sounds like a pretty committed relationship. Talk to him! Explain your symptoms and fears. explain the best things he can do to avoid conflict and to help you.

If he's stuck around for 6 months I think he'll be able to ride this out out with you until your meds kick in. Good luck.

Answer 6

This sounds more like a trust issue. Relationships are tough enough to be involved in without putting up roadblocks to prevent love. Do you trust yourself? You make decisions every day that form your opinions, so why concern yourself with if this person is the one? Trust your heart, it will never let you down. Love is a never ending circle of trust, compromise, learning, and growing. With that in mind, try to be happy if these nervous feelings are in you. That means you are feeling love. Treasure it since it is difficult to find for most. Best wishes and good luck.

Answer 7

Hello, you may need to see a doctor about what you are feeling and for your severe depression.. Sometimes life throws us curveballs and problems that are just too hard to handle and we need help to get through and past them... This is very normal and ok but we have to find and seek help for them to help us to get better and to move on with our lives. You may also want to seek counseling and help for what you are feeling. Tell him how you are feeling and that you do not want to lose him and ask him to at least wait until the medicine kicks in and starts to work.. I wish you the best and i hope things get better for you soon... Here comes lots of hugs to and for you today:)

Answer 8

Sweetie, worrying comes from the devil. Rebuke him out of your life. You should focusing on getting better, your man sounds sensitive to your needs so I'm sure your relationship will be fine.
God Bless you.

Answer 9

Worry about yourself first. You are not good to anyone depressed. If he stays, great, if not, it's not the end of the world.

Answer 10

there is nothing wrong with you. it will fade.