Me and my fiancee have been thinking about boys and girls names to call any children we may have which is fine. But he has said Emily Ann for a girl to carry my mums middle name on (which is what i want) But that was Ann. The problem i have is that is his Exs name which i found out recently he still liked in between me and his last girlfriend. They Rarely talk since i moved in with him cus he knows i dont like it, Because for the year and a half we have been together i have suspected there is still something still there. And i know he wont drop contact with her without a very good reason, which is hard to get.
When we first got together i felt put down when he said that she was a faster texter than me, in between my texts she sent loads and he used to text her loads. Should i worry about this as he doesnt now, but i still worry. As to me he seemed happier when she announced being pregnant, than when i passed college tests etc. I think i may be being paranoid and he thinks i'm just
2007-01-27 11:34:19 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Trying to find things and cause trouble? But i dont like it but she is always gonna be there isn't she????
2007-01-27 11:35:49 · update #1
Am I just being Paranoid as i know i can be....
2007-01-27 11:36:21 · update #2
were planning to have kids for another 4 to 5 years but we both like to think bout the future
2007-01-27 11:40:06 · update #3
They weren't together long a few months, but i know she ended the relationship which doesn't help.
2007-01-27 11:49:06 · update #4
They weren't together long a few months, but i know she ended the relationship which doesn't help.
2007-01-27 11:51:45 · update #5
I wont to keep the middle name Ann as it was my mums middle name who died nearly 7 years ago..
2007-01-27 12:00:52 · update #6
But he does know im just worried about losing him, so i think he listens but i know his last girlfriend stopped him from talking to her altogether so i try not to.
2007-01-27 12:03:56 · update #7
he is nasty comparing u both..tell him to stop it upsets u...try and b friendly with her if she is going 2 be in his life then it would help..please dont be jealous there is no need..he is with u now...the best woman got the man,.
2007-01-27 12:23:35 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've recently come out of a relationship where my ex kept in contact with his ex's, he became very secretive with his msg,s and i became paranoid, i found out one day that he had sent an ex very sexual msg's, i think you need to sit down by yourself and decide if you truly trust him, or if you think its more then it seems, you can't let yourself get into a state where its all you think about, there is more to life then worrying over something that may or may not be happening, you have to think of what will make you happy in the long run, he needs to know that it still plays on your mind now and again, don't let him think its all you think of cos he'll run a mile, if he truly loved you he'd listen and understand that you love him more then anything otherwise you wouldn't feel like this. make him put hiself in your shoes, ask him what he'd do or feel like, its hard it really is, i'm still struggling like hell with my ex, he really has broken my heart and knocked my confidence, don't let yours do that to you, your worth more, maybe you are being paranoid, you've just gotta do things for yourself, be yourself, don't let anyone change you.
2007-01-27 11:59:44 · answer #2 · answered by rachel 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Was he married to Emily or was she just a fiancee too? I'd be thinking about that. Do they have a child together? It's a little early to pick children's names when you don't mention picking a wedding date. Sometimes it pays to be on the verge of paranoia and this might just be one such time if you have any thoughts of being his one and only. Gut feelings are usually right. I'd be re-thinking this relationship before it's a little late.
2007-01-27 11:42:33 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I THINK YOU SHOULD FIRST TAKE ONE STEP BACK AND LOOK AT THE WHOLE PICTURE HERE. YOU GUYS HOOK UP AND HE IS ALREADY PUTTING YOU DOWN FOR SOMETHING SILLY AS HE BEING MUCH FASTER TEXTER THAN YOU. THAT WASNT VERY NICE OF HIM. THEN HE GETS MORE EXCITED WHEN HIS FRIEND IS PREGNANT THAN BEING HAPPY FOR YOU PASSING A COLLEGE TEST.
FIRST YOUR NOT PARANOID. YOU HAVE A BOYFRIEND AND HE IS NOT MAKING YOU FEEL GOOD, OVERJOY, HAPPIER ... HE IS WITH YOU YET HE IS NOT WITH YOU 100%.
MAYBE YOU SHOULD BE THINKING WHAT IS GOING TO HAPPEND ON THE NEXT FEW MONTHS. IS HE STILL GOING TO PUT YOU DOWN AND GETTING EXCITED OVER OTHER FEMALES SITUATION??? IF THIS CONTINUES, YOU SHOULD HONESTY THINK OF LETTING GO A BIT AND CONCENTRATED ON YOUR COLLEGE STUDIES.
2007-01-27 11:49:05 · answer #4 · answered by ââ¢Â¥*~áƦ~NYSunrise~áƦ~*ââ¢Â¥ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand this is his ex's name also but I'm sure he's not naming her after his ex. Just talk to him about it more and if you're not comfortable with the name then pick something similar or completely different.
2007-01-27 23:13:28 · answer #5 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when there is an ex involved, i don't think you can be too paranoid. there is always going to be a connection between your man and his ex. time will tell what effect it will have on her. mostly its important to not concentrate of things that bring friction to your relationship. then when you know that you can talk to him without going off, then it's best to get it all off your chest and allow him to respond. if he doesn't give you the answer you need then you may need to just give it time and see what happens. if he loves you then he will want to work it out.
2007-01-27 11:44:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Darlin' all you can do is talk to him and tell him how you feel. But make sure when you talk to him you make it known you are not yelling or trying to say he is doing something wrong. But talk to him as you are concerned about the feelings you have and you want to talk to him about it. Because maybe he doesn't really realized how you feel. And if you talk to him in a way in which you don't make him feel like you are trying to yell and set blame. He'll realize what he is doing. And maybe try to slip in there how when he does things it hurts you.. He should understand if he loves you.
2007-01-27 11:42:56 · answer #7 · answered by QueenT.Marie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He seems a little preoccupied with his ex He must have really loved her or something, you should only be worried if she was the one who ended the relationship, because then he still might have feelings for her
2007-01-27 11:41:21 · answer #8 · answered by carriespnc 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should worry.
Massive open texting like that is to ensure you think everything is above board with you aware of everything, whereas its probably a double bluff and hes doing 'other things' as well.
Sorry.
2007-01-28 08:30:26 · answer #9 · answered by Jon H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that SUCKS.
It doesnt matter that you, or he thinks that you are paranoid. The fact is that the feelings are there and they need to go away. If you with aare pregnant kid, and you still get these crappy feelings, it will effect the unborn kid!!!
Don't get pregnant until your feelings are soothed. I think you should tell him TO HELL WITH YOUR STUPID EX, IM LEAVING UNLESS YOU DROP ALL FEELINGS FOR HER
thats a good reason for him to drop contact
2007-01-27 11:43:18 · answer #10 · answered by Dave ! 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋