cures for dependancy at 29?

Question

i live in my own small flat, im very lonely, i have no friends, i stay inside everyday because of anxiety, i have a constant feeling of helplessness, emptiness, hopelessness and despair..a feeling of pure dread like things will always be like this..the main person in my life is my mum, who ive been very close to most of my life..and she keeps telling me to take one day at a time and to keep my chin up..but i constantly ring her everyday with these feelings i describe, of lonliness, worrying, insecurities. i feel i rely heavy on my mum for reassurance and emotional support. and i worry at 29 ive got a dependancy problem and if so what will i do? i worry alot whats wrong with me, and can i cope and deal with it, so i can stand on my own two feet and make my own life..but i worry how can i? i feel an urgency to get there achieve things..thats when my mum says take one day at a time and keep my chin up...if i had the choice right now, i wouldnt even be here in the uk, id be livin in the us

its like i have a destination in life and i desperatly wanna get there, but i dont have a road map. about how im gonna get there......i dont wanna depend on my mum and my family. i wanna break away...i wanna be somewhere else with my own girl , my own life. but i have psychiatric problems to get through first. im so frustrated. lonely. small dark crappy flat. lonely isolated alone... i have to deal with my low moods, paranoia, inner rage before, i can get a life. i have to find out whats wrong with me

Answer 1

Well now, leviathan, I've learned that you live in the U.K., and that you have a mother who loves you. I know you have your own flat and a computer. It is also obvious that you're receiving social aid of some kind which enables you to live this way. Can you imagine how many people in the world DO NOT HAVE these things? You are one lucky young man, and you don't even know it. What a shame! I also know, as a U.S. citizen, how much better off you are being a citizen of the U.K. In America, there are many HOMELESS people in your condition because we have - unlike your own country - a heartless government which doesn't even provide universal health care for all of its citizens, the ONLY industrialized nation in the world which doesn't. Over here in America, you could easily be homeless, hungry, and terrorized on the streets you were forced to live on. Now, on to your other problems, that of mental health. Are you taking the medications given you by doctors in the national health care system? Whether you are or not, return to the doctors and ask for additional help. Who knows, maybe there is more they can do for you. At least go to the trouble of finding out. You will be in my prayers and I wish you the best. Your Internet friend, Buzz.

Answer 2

Well I think you should find some one that you can trust like a sibbling or make a friend, go out, like walking. the reason you feel hopeless and you worry is because you have caged yourself in your home.Don't talk to yoor mother about this because you need some one that understands you thats the same age as you.And pleeease go out make 1 friend at least because when you make a friend you'll talk about alots of different things and your mind won't always be thinking about the things that make you depressed when your alone.Once I heard someone say "if you concentrate on different things you can forget the deepest pain"so try it .It'll help you.

Answer 3

You really need to get some counseling. It sounds like you might even be a prime candidate for some anti anxiety or anti depressant medication. You should try to get out and make some friends, they can be the world to you if you have some. Remember that you CAN do any thing that you want to! What is it that you enjoy doing in your free time? Try to make that into something that you can do with others. Just get out and about and enjoy life, and seriously consider getting some therapy.

Answer 4

Do you talk to a doc regularly? Theraphy will be helpful and also its in you to make your life turn all around. Its never too late. And am sure you have it in you as each individual is unique and special and god made us, so that we can shine.. like children. Feel free, know you are worth it and make new friends. Start going out and make yourself proud that you are trying your best and have given the situations you have been in.Do not ever think you are alone, i myself go through phases and so do many around the world. And feeling like this is okay.. just believe that your past does not have to define who you are, you can start feeling better this moment, this second, afterall whoelse would be the best person to try to get better than you. You mom is right, as you take each day at a time, and feel proud that you are doing something for yourself to get better , in time it would be fine, in fact just great!! I wish you the best and shall pray for you.

Answer 5

i wouldn't worry about forming a dependance on your mom. the best way to fight these negative feelings is to surround yourself with people who love you, which your mom oviously does. many people would be jealous that you can share with her. some of us aren't as lucky. however if these hopeless feelings continue, you might want to talk to a doctor. he could refer you to a shrink, or maybe a support group.
good luck.