what should you do??? Because if you "stick it out" you may never be happy and end up breaking up in another couple of years...who knows. OR you could break up now while you are still young and try to find someone better. BUTTT what if you try to find someone better but you end up only finding people that werent as good as what you originally had????
I am so confused!!!!!!
2007-01-27 11:23:43 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You might not know WHAT you want to do, but you DO know what you DON"T want to do.....and that's marry her. If you wanted to marry her, you would have made plans by now, or at least asked her.Do both her, and yourself a favor, and break up with her. She deserves better than 6 years, and you still don't know what you want.......either, ask her for her hand in marriage, or move on.
2007-01-27 11:37:54 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is one of life's many dilemma's, you can't live your life on What If's. Sometimes you need to take chances in life and hope they work out for the best.
If I were in your place I would ask myself why am I not ready to get married. Is it because I don't want to settle down or is it because this person does not make me happy.
To assess if you should marry someone you need to think of it this way. Do I want to spend the rest of my life with this person and does this person make me happy and do I make her happy.
My Ex said something to me once the night before we married I have never forgotten.
He said, your 30 years old, you think you have lived a long time, do you really want to spend your entire life and more with me
It made me think, but you know, looking back in retrospect it was a very good question, when I met my current husband I asked myself that question, and the answer was yes.
We have now been together for 25 yrs and we are still happy.
2007-01-27 11:38:15 · answer #2 · answered by unknown friend 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HER...your not happy then let her go and find someone who will actually love her and not put her whole life on hold. I was with a man for five years. we have a kid together....he was always socializing with twenty year old girls and hiding it from me...when I look back I think I over reacted but at the same time im not spending the rest of my life with someoen who isnt even attracted to me or happy with me. I HATE MEN>>
2007-01-27 14:58:47 · answer #3 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready to give this girl everything don't get married. Your heart needs to be 100% sure. Love is a truly glorifying feeling of freedom with incredible happiness and when you find it you will know for sure and not be asking. Save yourself major money in divorce lawyers too.
2007-01-27 21:53:32 · answer #4 · answered by tanja3703 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there
obviously if after 6yrs u dont know.. ur with the wrong person hunny.. cos like marriage is a serious thing huh and love too but u just know when u wanna spend ur life with someone.
trust me love at first sight is whats it all about.. end it with her and meet someone who u just will know is "the one"
Best of luck sweetypie.. dont rush into anything just be happy and let LOVE come and find u!
Amy
2007-01-27 11:34:21 · answer #5 · answered by amyday82 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a really big committment and should not be taken lightly, so don't until you are ready, and only you will know this.
Life is way to short to live with what ifs, regrets and so on.You do not know what the future has, you creat your own destiny.
Communication with this girl is really what should happen, maybe you both feel the same way.
2007-01-27 11:36:57 · answer #6 · answered by Angela W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let her go if it were me and i would start dating others and let her do the same.... If she is the right one for you it will eventually work out but if it is not right then you and her will find someone else and move on with your lives... Do not just settle and date for a while... Keep your options open for now.
2007-01-27 11:34:08 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have been with her for six years then you two should know each other inside and out. you will know if you want to spend the rest of your life with her by now. since there is some doubt about this and you seem to be wanting to shop around some, dont shop and date until you tell her how you feel. either way it is going to hurt her. thats sad youve invested alot of time in her, i wonder how she feels about you?
2007-01-27 11:38:10 · answer #8 · answered by crystal b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up. If you don't love her after all this time, you either aren't open to being in love, or she's not the "one" for you. When you do love a woman, there isn't any "better" woman.
2007-01-27 11:48:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop wasting her time. You are not that special! Why someone would wait 6 years is beyond me.
2007-01-27 11:34:21 · answer #10 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋